Anonymous
02/16/2021 21:20
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
She may be worried the nanny is breaching her COVID protocols -- e.g., taking her into a coffee shop. That's why the pandemic matters.
If she’s that sure that the nanny is taking her child into stores, the nanny shouldn’t be there anymore. It doesn’t excuse the deception.
This is a brand new nanny & a mom during a stressful time w/ her first kid. You're taking DCUM rules re: disclosure as though they're some kind of gospel she should know. If a nanny cares this much, they should mention/ask during the interview process; this nanny didn't. Omission is not the same as deception if you don't start from the assumption that she knew she was supposed to reveal. Anyway, I don't track my nannies and the only cameras are visibly displayed in the baby's nursery and older kids' attic playroom and have nothing to do w/ the nanny. I just think OP should cut this mom some slack if she's otherwise a good employer. Based on DUCM gospel, asking nanny's to do some housekeeping is offensive... but, in real life, 90% of nannies do some housekeeping.
Oh, come on! Your feeble attempt at justification is like finding out the guy you’re dating is married and his excuse is, “well you never told me I had to be single!”
Tracking or recording an employee without their knowledge or consent is simply wrong.
And asking a nanny to clean up after adults is insulting.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 21:08
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
She may be worried the nanny is breaching her COVID protocols -- e.g., taking her into a coffee shop. That's why the pandemic matters.
If she’s that sure that the nanny is taking her child into stores, the nanny shouldn’t be there anymore. It doesn’t excuse the deception.
This is a brand new nanny & a mom during a stressful time w/ her first kid. You're taking DCUM rules re: disclosure as though they're some kind of gospel she should know. If a nanny cares this much, they should mention/ask during the interview process; this nanny didn't. Omission is not the same as deception if you don't start from the assumption that she knew she was supposed to reveal. Anyway, I don't track my nannies and the only cameras are visibly displayed in the baby's nursery and older kids' attic playroom and have nothing to do w/ the nanny. I just think OP should cut this mom some slack if she's otherwise a good employer. Based on DUCM gospel, asking nanny's to do some housekeeping is offensive... but, in real life, 90% of nannies do some housekeeping.
Lying through omission is still lying. Stop being a jerk. What this parent did was wrong and offensive. All she had to do is tell the nanny that there is a tracker in the stroller.
-signed A nanny-employer and WOHM who would be furious if my boss tracked me without my knowledge.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 14:00
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
She may be worried the nanny is breaching her COVID protocols -- e.g., taking her into a coffee shop. That's why the pandemic matters.
If she’s that sure that the nanny is taking her child into stores, the nanny shouldn’t be there anymore. It doesn’t excuse the deception.
This is a brand new nanny & a mom during a stressful time w/ her first kid. You're taking DCUM rules re: disclosure as though they're some kind of gospel she should know. If a nanny cares this much, they should mention/ask during the interview process; this nanny didn't. Omission is not the same as deception if you don't start from the assumption that she knew she was supposed to reveal. Anyway, I don't track my nannies and the only cameras are visibly displayed in the baby's nursery and older kids' attic playroom and have nothing to do w/ the nanny. I just think OP should cut this mom some slack if she's otherwise a good employer. Based on DUCM gospel, asking nanny's to do some housekeeping is offensive... but, in real life, 90% of nannies do some housekeeping.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:20
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
She may be worried the nanny is breaching her COVID protocols -- e.g., taking her into a coffee shop. That's why the pandemic matters.
If she’s that sure that the nanny is taking her child into stores, the nanny shouldn’t be there anymore. It doesn’t excuse the deception.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 16:19
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
She may be worried the nanny is breaching her COVID protocols -- e.g., taking her into a coffee shop. That's why the pandemic matters.
Anonymous
02/14/2021 10:13
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Don't really know what a pandemic has to do with it unless that's part of the going somewhere you're not supposed to.
Mom's reasons for having the tracker for emergency events were a lie. Looks like she tracks you on the daily. She thought she would sneak this by you which is bad for your future relationship there. If she's not ready for outside child care then she needs to make other arrangements for herself.
Anonymous
02/12/2021 19:52
Subject: MB put a tracker on the stroller
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's her first kid & during a pandemic and she told you the truth when you asked. I'd give her pass for now, but explain that you want to know about any cameras or trackers. If something else happens, then move on.
Not me. I bring it up in the interview(s) and put it in the contract. If my employer is then deceptive, I’m gone.
Yes, but this nanny didn’t bring it up or put it in her contract. The background conditions are obviously different, especially for a new mom who might not even realize this is something to disclose. If she brought this up previously, totally different ballgame.