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Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

NP- How you get that from the last comment is seriously mind-boggling. You are just looking for reasons to find fault.

NP here. No, the only reason the PP gave for being on time was her nanny’s mood.

I know that, for myself as a nanny, having a heartbroken charge waiting for her constantly late mother was much harder on me than my being disrespected.

How would the child know?

NP here. My former employer was often late and my then three-year-old charge knew by our schedule. I gave her dinner at 5:30 and her mother was supposed to be home at 5:30. It did upset my Sweet charge when her mom was late.

Why would you build the schedule that way? That seems like you intentionally designed something to upset your sweet charge.

Sounds that way to me too.

My employer set the schedule not me and told her every morning that she would be home at dinner. She wanted her daughter to start dinner at 5 and was supposed to be home at 5:30 for bath. The child was bright and knew that sometimes mommy came home after she finished eating and she went straight to bath (which she loved).

I never ever would have done anything to make that child upset.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

NP- How you get that from the last comment is seriously mind-boggling. You are just looking for reasons to find fault.

NP here. No, the only reason the PP gave for being on time was her nanny’s mood.

I know that, for myself as a nanny, having a heartbroken charge waiting for her constantly late mother was much harder on me than my being disrespected.

How would the child know?

NP here. My former employer was often late and my then three-year-old charge knew by our schedule. I gave her dinner at 5:30 and her mother was supposed to be home at 5:30. It did upset my Sweet charge when her mom was late.

Why would you build the schedule that way? That seems like you intentionally designed something to upset your sweet charge.

Sounds that way to me too.