Anonymous
09/24/2020 07:25
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
A sitter does exactly what you want without question.
A nanny discusses with you. We bring you the research to show why something is or is not helpful to children at your child’s age and stage.
Guess what? Parents are also researching. And making decisions in the context of their family. Having a constant back and forth negotiations with nanny about what to do or what not to do with the baby is tiring and so unnecessary.
Also - note that OP was not trying to discuss or show research to employers. She just wanted to be sneaky about doing what she wants to do, without parents' consent and she is annoyed that she can't because they are at home. She should by all means quit if she finds it untolerable.
I agree that just doing what she wants is unacceptable. But I also know that ftp can get overwhelmed easily with the amount of information available. It’s easier if I present two opposing views, preferably with a middle ground. Then, I highlight the pros and cons in terms of their child and family, and they decide. Rather than it taking hours (and the parents missing something key could to the sheer volume of sites, books, podcasts, videos, etc), it takes all of 15 minutes maximum to pay out all the alternatives and voice my opinion/preference, then they can get back to me when they’ve had a chance to discuss privately.
Can we please stop assuming that FTP=frazzled idiots? It's offensive and patronizing. If they hold jobs earning enough to afford to pay you, and then some, maybe, just maybe they are not brainless and can undertake some basic research and filter the info? After all, they had months to prepare while expecting the baby. And honestly, nobody reads ALL of the books or all of the sites. They pick resources based on ped's recommendations, supplement with resources other parents in their circle recommend, etc. It's not rocket science.
Anonymous
09/24/2020 03:35
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
A sitter does exactly what you want without question.
A nanny discusses with you. We bring you the research to show why something is or is not helpful to children at your child’s age and stage.
Guess what? Parents are also researching. And making decisions in the context of their family. Having a constant back and forth negotiations with nanny about what to do or what not to do with the baby is tiring and so unnecessary.
Also - note that OP was not trying to discuss or show research to employers. She just wanted to be sneaky about doing what she wants to do, without parents' consent and she is annoyed that she can't because they are at home. She should by all means quit if she finds it untolerable.
I agree that just doing what she wants is unacceptable. But I also know that ftp can get overwhelmed easily with the amount of information available. It’s easier if I present two opposing views, preferably with a middle ground. Then, I highlight the pros and cons in terms of their child and family, and they decide. Rather than it taking hours (and the parents missing something key could to the sheer volume of sites, books, podcasts, videos, etc), it takes all of 15 minutes maximum to pay out all the alternatives and voice my opinion/preference, then they can get back to me when they’ve had a chance to discuss privately.
Anonymous
09/23/2020 21:47
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
A sitter does exactly what you want without question.
A nanny discusses with you. We bring you the research to show why something is or is not helpful to children at your child’s age and stage.
Guess what? Parents are also researching. And making decisions in the context of their family. Having a constant back and forth negotiations with nanny about what to do or what not to do with the baby is tiring and so unnecessary.
Also - note that OP was not trying to discuss or show research to employers. She just wanted to be sneaky about doing what she wants to do, without parents' consent and she is annoyed that she can't because they are at home. She should by all means quit if she finds it untolerable.
Anonymous
09/23/2020 19:50
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.[/quot
It's been not heard such a stupid comment like this lately.
Anonymous
09/23/2020 17:37
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
A sitter does exactly what you want without question.
A nanny discusses with you. We bring you the research to show why something is or is not helpful to children at your child’s age and stage.
Anonymous
09/23/2020 14:07
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.
Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.
Anonymous
09/17/2020 12:47
Subject: Re:I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Unless not working will leave you almost (!) destitute, then you should definitely quit OP.
You are doing nothing wrong here.
Your working environment sounds unbearable to me!
I would look for a new position where the family has a larger residence which will allow both you, as well as the child you are caring for to have some breathing room.
You are doing nothing wrong here.
Your working environment sounds unbearable to me!
I would look for a new position where the family has a larger residence which will allow both you, as well as the child you are caring for to have some breathing room.
Anonymous
09/13/2020 15:08
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
You should quit, pp. Life is too short to suffer if younhave other options.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 10:29
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of being around micromanaging parents all day. I work for two families who are both at home in small CONDOS. They refuse to find a workspace outside the home, so they work in the living room/kitchen combo where I also have to play with the kids (unless we can hole up in one of their tiny bedrooms all day). That means there are THREE ADULTS and two crawling infants in a 900-1100sq ft apartment all day. Some days I sit on the floor while the kids are napping because there is no where else to sit when everyone is working. The parents take calls and meetings all day, so I have to hear everything and do my best to keep the kids quiet all day. As a result, they’re the most spoiled and over-held babies I’ve ever worked with. It’s really a shame because I’ve been doing this for 10 years and love my job. Now, every morning I cry as I walk out the door to head to this hell hole.
I have no freedom to discipline the children (I use reinforcement discipline), and whenever any of them cry their parents rush over to them or into the bedroom we’re stuck in to pick them up. This is TERRIBLE for their emotional development. They’ve never learned to self soothe and are both terrible ballers due to their parents backwards ways and thoughts on naps. Usually I would be able to correct these bad habits and then provide feedback to the parents on why my methods are most beneficial, but now I can’t do that because they are always around and seem dead set on their backwards thoughts. Tried discussing an alternate method with one of the dads once, and he shot me down (even though I have corrected sleeping issues before) so I left it alone. We spend at least 6 hours of my 9 hour shift outside wandering around aimlessly because there is nothing to do and no activities due to Covid. I just have to stay out of the house for my own stability. Even if it’s hot, we go sit outside.
I had a job like this and there was even a Starbucks next door where they could work but also because I was in a nanny share one family was willing to have all the parents work in one house while I kept the kids in the other house. So if I were you I would be upfront and honest about my feelings and if they don’t care and don’t want to accommodate you and the children and make this bad situation a little more suitable for you I would be willing to help you find a new job if you live in the DMV area..... this is all trying times for everyone and the one things parents need to understand if that we don’t need them sitting 6ft away from us Monday to Friday 8-5. I have since quit with the nanny share and take care of one baby but even my new family told me since they are home I don’t have to come in til 10 and work til 5 however they still pay me 45 hours guaranteed so finding another position is definitely possible. Feel free to text me 7032493652 I can help you.
I’m SO emotionally battered and I feel bad because I am a great nanny with solid references and have always excelled at my job. These parents are happy with me and praise me often, but I am MISERABLE.
Does anyone else feel this way? How have you gotten out of this funk? I think about quitting every day.
Anonymous
09/07/2020 20:48
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of being around micromanaging parents all day. I work for two families who are both at home in small CONDOS. They refuse to find a workspace outside the home, so they work in the living room/kitchen combo where I also have to play with the kids (unless we can hole up in one of their tiny bedrooms all day). That means there are THREE ADULTS and two crawling infants in a 900-1100sq ft apartment all day. Some days I sit on the floor while the kids are napping because there is no where else to sit when everyone is working. The parents take calls and meetings all day, so I have to hear everything and do my best to keep the kids quiet all day. As a result, they’re the most spoiled and over-held babies I’ve ever worked with. It’s really a shame because I’ve been doing this for 10 years and love my job. Now, every morning I cry as I walk out the door to head to this hell hole.
I have no freedom to discipline the children (I use reinforcement discipline), and whenever any of them cry their parents rush over to them or into the bedroom we’re stuck in to pick them up. This is TERRIBLE for their emotional development. They’ve never learned to self soothe and are both terrible ballers due to their parents backwards ways and thoughts on naps. Usually I would be able to correct these bad habits and then provide feedback to the parents on why my methods are most beneficial, but now I can’t do that because they are always around and seem dead set on their backwards thoughts. Tried discussing an alternate method with one of the dads once, and he shot me down (even though I have corrected sleeping issues before) so I left it alone. We spend at least 6 hours of my 9 hour shift outside wandering around aimlessly because there is nothing to do and no activities due to Covid. I just have to stay out of the house for my own stability. Even if it’s hot, we go sit outside.
As a nanny myself I would ran from this job.
I could NEVER work like that,specially with the parents right there all the time.
I’m SO emotionally battered and I feel bad because I am a great nanny with solid references and have always excelled at my job. These parents are happy with me and praise me often, but I am MISERABLE.
Does anyone else feel this way? How have you gotten out of this funk? I think about quitting every day.
Anonymous
09/04/2020 09:35
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
I am fairly certain that you will be able to find better work in the current job market.
If you have any savings at all, quit.
While I completely agree with you about the self-soothing, there are absolutely infants who are unable to do this because of their parents. But, it's a total trigger to call a baby spoiled, so don't do that again in a public forum, it's just going to get you flamed.
If you have any savings at all, quit.
While I completely agree with you about the self-soothing, there are absolutely infants who are unable to do this because of their parents. But, it's a total trigger to call a baby spoiled, so don't do that again in a public forum, it's just going to get you flamed.
Anonymous
08/26/2020 12:05
Subject: Re:I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Totally fine to quit OP and agree that a bigger house and less kids will be better. But keep in mind that many many people are working from home right now so that might be a common theme.
Anonymous
08/24/2020 14:23
Subject: I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
I think we are all adjusting to difficult situations during this time. While it's not the ideal situation, I am sure the parents appreciate having you there. It's a lot for working adults to now be at home and balancing work/life. Try to remember this probably is not their ideal situation either.
Hopefully they are kind people who will remember what you did for them down the road.
Hopefully they are kind people who will remember what you did for them down the road.
Anonymous
08/22/2020 12:01
Subject: Re:I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
Move on my friend. Quit. And yes, focuse finding a Single Family; Where parents even working at Home won't be an issue for you and have their private room to work with their door closed. So they won't be on your way. And be clear and nice in your next interview telling parents. How is the way that you work. Believe me, with the next Family you will be the heaven.
Anonymous
08/22/2020 10:02
Subject: Re:I HATE MY JOB due to Covid
You need to give your notice, OP.
Please start looking for a single family and stop doing shares. Parents in shares never have enough money. You can make over $65,000 with a single family and have a much bigger house or apartment to work in. Or work as a twins nanny with your experience.
Please start looking for a single family and stop doing shares. Parents in shares never have enough money. You can make over $65,000 with a single family and have a much bigger house or apartment to work in. Or work as a twins nanny with your experience.