Anonymous
Post 01/24/2020 18:12     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:The point is to spend more time with your kids. They are not a weekend hobby. You chose to have them.


The point is you seem to have a lot of unresolved contempt for your (mother? grandma? wife?) Try therapy.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2020 18:10     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do DCUM moms use vocabulary like "high-powered" or High-paid"'? Who cares? That is not the crux of the issue. The issue is we are busy, all very busy. Sounds like the PP wants to promote herself to some kind of importance.


I do wish people on this forum would use dictionaries. High-powered means very busy, actually. Not necessarily very important.


Actually no.

Collins dictionary: “Someone who is high-powered or has a high-powered job has a very important and responsible job which requires a lot of ability.”
Macmillan dictionary: “important and powerful in a company or organization”
Cambridge dictionary: “(of people) very successful or having a very important job:
a high-powered attorney”
Merriam-Webster dictionary:
“Definition of high-powered
1 : having great drive, energy, or capacity : DYNAMIC
a high-powered executive
2 : having or conferring great influence
a high-powered job”

Attributes mentioned are responsibility, importance, success, power, influence, drive (ambition), etc. Nowhere does it say anything about amount of time.

Try overloaded, busy, swamped, occupied, unavailable, workhorse, eager beaver, overachiever or workaholic, depending on your opinion/attitude about what you do. Those at least all have definitions that deal with time.


Let’s say a prayer for your high-school English teacher - clearly she failed you. A high-energy job exists. A high-capacity job exists. A nurse, for example. A principal. A cop. FFS.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:50     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


I honestly NEVER do this. The workweek is chaotic and I really enjoy my kids on the weekends. I actually look forward to it. Our AP works if we go out. We go out maybe once a month without the kids on the weekend.

Same for all federal holidays. If we are off, she is off. Those are sacred family days.


+1 Thank you!!!

Why would you not want to spend your off time with your kids??? Mine are pretty awesome.


My daughter is super-awesome, but I am a widow with a high-powered job, so I work every day, giving myself Friday night -Saturday night off - I wish I could exist in your privilege, but alas, have real-world responsibilities...


I happen to also be a widow with a “high powered job”, but nights off are with my kids. Life is short, they’ll remember.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 09:30     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do DCUM moms use vocabulary like "high-powered" or High-paid"'? Who cares? That is not the crux of the issue. The issue is we are busy, all very busy. Sounds like the PP wants to promote herself to some kind of importance.


I do wish people on this forum would use dictionaries. High-powered means very busy, actually. Not necessarily very important.


Actually no.

Collins dictionary: “Someone who is high-powered or has a high-powered job has a very important and responsible job which requires a lot of ability.”
Macmillan dictionary: “important and powerful in a company or organization”
Cambridge dictionary: “(of people) very successful or having a very important job:
a high-powered attorney”
Merriam-Webster dictionary:
“Definition of high-powered
1 : having great drive, energy, or capacity : DYNAMIC
a high-powered executive
2 : having or conferring great influence
a high-powered job”

Attributes mentioned are responsibility, importance, success, power, influence, drive (ambition), etc. Nowhere does it say anything about amount of time.

Try overloaded, busy, swamped, occupied, unavailable, workhorse, eager beaver, overachiever or workaholic, depending on your opinion/attitude about what you do. Those at least all have definitions that deal with time.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 07:32     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do DCUM moms use vocabulary like "high-powered" or High-paid"'? Who cares? That is not the crux of the issue. The issue is we are busy, all very busy. Sounds like the PP wants to promote herself to some kind of importance.


I do wish people on this forum would use dictionaries. High-powered means very busy, actually. Not necessarily very important.


+1, I also wish people could use whatever words they wanted. Why do PP cares?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2020 22:26     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:Why do DCUM moms use vocabulary like "high-powered" or High-paid"'? Who cares? That is not the crux of the issue. The issue is we are busy, all very busy. Sounds like the PP wants to promote herself to some kind of importance.


I do wish people on this forum would use dictionaries. High-powered means very busy, actually. Not necessarily very important.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2020 17:51     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Why do DCUM moms use vocabulary like "high-powered" or High-paid"'? Who cares? That is not the crux of the issue. The issue is we are busy, all very busy. Sounds like the PP wants to promote herself to some kind of importance.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 23:23     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^

>>My daughter is super-awesome, but I am a widow with a high-powered job, so I work every day, giving myself Friday night -Saturday night off - I wish I could exist in your privilege, but alas, have real-world responsibilities... <<


You don't need a high-powered job to be an extremely busy worker mom. My cleaning lady works 6 days a week and spends the 7th at church with her kids serving the community through food banks, etc. She too has real-world responsibilities. Do you spend your one day free with your daughter at a food bank or similar?


I spend my one free day with my daughter (a toddler) doing whatever makes her happy and protected, just like your cleaning lady. Food banks are not particularly toddler-friendly, no. I wonder if you mommy-shame your housekeeper the way you unleash your nasty on a public forum? Probably! Yuck.


+1 seriously, PP seems to be very angry about something !
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 21:36     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:^^

>>My daughter is super-awesome, but I am a widow with a high-powered job, so I work every day, giving myself Friday night -Saturday night off - I wish I could exist in your privilege, but alas, have real-world responsibilities... <<


You don't need a high-powered job to be an extremely busy worker mom. My cleaning lady works 6 days a week and spends the 7th at church with her kids serving the community through food banks, etc. She too has real-world responsibilities. Do you spend your one day free with your daughter at a food bank or similar?


I spend my one free day with my daughter (a toddler) doing whatever makes her happy and protected, just like your cleaning lady. Food banks are not particularly toddler-friendly, no. I wonder if you mommy-shame your housekeeper the way you unleash your nasty on a public forum? Probably! Yuck.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 20:45     Subject: What time does your AP start work in the morning?
^^

>>My daughter is super-awesome, but I am a widow with a high-powered job, so I work every day, giving myself Friday night -Saturday night off - I wish I could exist in your privilege, but alas, have real-world responsibilities... <<


You don't need a high-powered job to be an extremely busy worker mom. My cleaning lady works 6 days a week and spends the 7th at church with her kids serving the community through food banks, etc. She too has real-world responsibilities. Do you spend your one day free with your daughter at a food bank or similar?
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 15:24     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


I honestly NEVER do this. The workweek is chaotic and I really enjoy my kids on the weekends. I actually look forward to it. Our AP works if we go out. We go out maybe once a month without the kids on the weekend.

Same for all federal holidays. If we are off, she is off. Those are sacred family days.


+1 Thank you!!!

Why would you not want to spend your off time with your kids??? Mine are pretty awesome.


My daughter is super-awesome, but I am a widow with a high-powered job, so I work every day, giving myself Friday night -Saturday night off - I wish I could exist in your privilege, but alas, have real-world responsibilities...
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 15:20     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


I honestly NEVER do this. The workweek is chaotic and I really enjoy my kids on the weekends. I actually look forward to it. Our AP works if we go out. We go out maybe once a month without the kids on the weekend.

Same for all federal holidays. If we are off, she is off. Those are sacred family days.


+1 Thank you!!!

Why would you not want to spend your off time with your kids??? Mine are pretty awesome.


NP. People have different needs, which is why many families get an AP, if they are not breaking the rules, who are we to judge!


Thanks PP. My AP worked a few hours yesterday even though I had off (DH did not). Doesn't mean I didn't spend time with my 4 kids but AP spent time with them also. We also have our APs work Saturday mornings throughout most of the year due to sports/activities schedules. It's the main reason we have AP's, so that the kids can go their separate ways and enjoy their own activities. Otherwise, I could handle the work week, wouldn't be easy, but getting them to/from school is the easy part in my house!
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 11:17     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


I honestly NEVER do this. The workweek is chaotic and I really enjoy my kids on the weekends. I actually look forward to it. Our AP works if we go out. We go out maybe once a month without the kids on the weekend.

Same for all federal holidays. If we are off, she is off. Those are sacred family days.


+1 Thank you!!!

Why would you not want to spend your off time with your kids??? Mine are pretty awesome.


NP. People have different needs, which is why many families get an AP, if they are not breaking the rules, who are we to judge!
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 10:22     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


I honestly NEVER do this. The workweek is chaotic and I really enjoy my kids on the weekends. I actually look forward to it. Our AP works if we go out. We go out maybe once a month without the kids on the weekend.

Same for all federal holidays. If we are off, she is off. Those are sacred family days.


+1 Thank you!!!

Why would you not want to spend your off time with your kids??? Mine are pretty awesome.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2020 10:22     Subject: Re:What time does your AP start work in the morning?
Anonymous wrote:What about on the weekends? How common is it for AP to get up with the kids on either Saturday or Sunday AM? (Wouldn’t ask for both)

And then occasionally work a weekend evening too after getting up at 7/730, working a few hours then back on for evening? Just trying to figure out how this all works. TIA


We never ask our APs to work Saturday or Sunday morning. We do ask them to work Sat or Sunday night, occasionally.