Anonymous wrote:Not the PP but to answer the question about “luxury childcare”, I would say that the wealthiest people I know have an educated nanny with the minimum of a bachelors degree in Early Childhood Education or Development and years of teaching experience as well as a special skill like fluency in French or talent in music or teaching music.

Like the governesses of old.

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Then please do tell, what is the top tier of luxury care? What form of childcare do you think the Uber wealthy and/or famous use? You are so beyond clueless it’s comical. No one said nannies leave with huge bonuses. You were for whatever reason, offended that a nanny of decades should receive more than $1000 for their service. Sorry if that upsets your perfect world but, someone raising your child for over a decade does deserve over $1000. Sorry that you have an idea of what a nanny is worth and others have a different idea.

You're hilarious, lady. Plenty of non-rich people do use nannies. They can be the more affordable option compared to daycare when you have multiple kids.

Still waiting for an actual answer to the question. What is the top tier of luxury care? I see you chose to ignore that (we can all guess the reason why). It’s already been stated that non rich people use nannies. And as you just demonstrated, they shouldn’t. Also, I wouldn’t brag about underpaying a nanny to take care of your multiple kids.

I didn't answer because I really don't get the point of your question. The top tier of luxury care is a nanny that gets paid six figures and meets the greater demands of the family. Of course most families can't afford that and that's not the standard nanny. There are also concierge service doctors, and yet most people manage to get by with a typical physician. Why are you so obsessed with celebrities and the uber-wealthy?

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Then please do tell, what is the top tier of luxury care? What form of childcare do you think the Uber wealthy and/or famous use? You are so beyond clueless it’s comical. No one said nannies leave with huge bonuses. You were for whatever reason, offended that a nanny of decades should receive more than $1000 for their service. Sorry if that upsets your perfect world but, someone raising your child for over a decade does deserve over $1000. Sorry that you have an idea of what a nanny is worth and others have a different idea.

You're hilarious, lady. Plenty of non-rich people do use nannies. They can be the more affordable option compared to daycare when you have multiple kids.

Still waiting for an actual answer to the question. What is the top tier of luxury care? I see you chose to ignore that (we can all guess the reason why). It’s already been stated that non rich people use nannies. And as you just demonstrated, they shouldn’t. Also, I wouldn’t brag about underpaying a nanny to take care of your multiple kids.

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Then please do tell, what is the top tier of luxury care? What form of childcare do you think the Uber wealthy and/or famous use? You are so beyond clueless it’s comical. No one said nannies leave with huge bonuses. You were for whatever reason, offended that a nanny of decades should receive more than $1000 for their service. Sorry if that upsets your perfect world but, someone raising your child for over a decade does deserve over $1000. Sorry that you have an idea of what a nanny is worth and others have a different idea.

You're hilarious, lady. Plenty of non-rich people do use nannies. They can be the more affordable option compared to daycare when you have multiple kids.

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Then please do tell, what is the top tier of luxury care? What form of childcare do you think the Uber wealthy and/or famous use? You are so beyond clueless it’s comical. No one said nannies leave with huge bonuses. You were for whatever reason, offended that a nanny of decades should receive more than $1000 for their service. Sorry if that upsets your perfect world but, someone raising your child for over a decade does deserve over $1000. Sorry that you have an idea of what a nanny is worth and others have a different idea.

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Yeah, you live in some fantasy world. I’ll repeat it again, you are not entitled to anything. You are not entitled to a nanny! No one is. Nannies are a luxury. They are the top tier of luxury care. They are meant for the rich and wealthy. Not the middle class who thinks they should have a nanny and can pay them $18/hr. If you cannot afford one you look into a daycare center. Cannot afford a center? You look into home daycares. I very highly doubt your parents were paying the nanny, you claim you had, much money. What you describe is an immigrant looking for work willing to take whatever. I’m sure she holds no grudges or was dissatisfied bc she didn’t know any better.

Apparently the lowly middle class didn't your the memo, because the nationwide average salary for nannies is $15 per hour. (source: https://www.care.com/homepay/2019-nanny-pay-rates-how-much-should-i-pay-my-nanny-20190717143439)

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Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?

You live in an entitled bubble. A nanny isn’t someone you are entitled to have watch your children. It’s the definition of a luxury. If you need affordable childcare you don’t hire a nanny. That’s the issue so many people on DCUM fail to realize. A nanny is expensive and if you didn’t take that into consideration before deciding you wanted that form of childcare then that’s on you. Most people cannot actually afford to hire nannies. Just like most people cannot afford to buy a brand new luxury car, there are other options.

I am the poster you are quoting. What? Are you kidding me? I grew up with immigrant parents who worked their tails off to provide for us and save for our education. They hired a nice lady to take care of me and my siblings. No way they could afford to pay her a month's salary as a bonus. The idea of them buying a luxury car instead of giving her a bonus makes me laugh. They drove 15 year old used cars and we wore thrift store clothes. The nanny was well-loved and respected and considered a part of our family and came to all our family functions even after we grew up. I can guarantee you she never felt used or disrespected when we couldn't pay her a huge bonus at the end of her years with us. Maybe that's because we didn't treat her as a member of some lower class. And I'll bet you anything my parents paid our nanny a higher percentage of their own salaries than many of the posters here who are suggesting that if you can't give your nanny a five figure bonus then you can't afford a nanny.

I don't even have a nanny and am only in this forum because I am searching for one. I can afford to pay a potential nanny more than most and I can afford generous bonuses, but that isn't at all the point. The point is that not everyone can afford to do this and that doesn't mean they should not hire a nanny for their children. You know nothing about the OP's means. You have no idea they are attorneys or teachers. Get off your moral high horse in your tiny socioeconomic bubble. Sure I agree people shouldn't be stingy if they have the means, but it is disturbingly elitist to suggest that only people of certain means should hire a nanny.

Yeah, you live in some fantasy world. I’ll repeat it again, you are not entitled to anything. You are not entitled to a nanny! No one is. Nannies are a luxury. They are the top tier of luxury care. They are meant for the rich and wealthy. Not the middle class who thinks they should have a nanny and can pay them $18/hr. If you cannot afford one you look into a daycare center. Cannot afford a center? You look into home daycares. I very highly doubt your parents were paying the nanny, you claim you had, much money. What you describe is an immigrant looking for work willing to take whatever. I’m sure she holds no grudges or was dissatisfied bc she didn’t know any better.

The entire point of this thread is about a bonus. Learn to read and then reread you nut. Someone hiring a nanny and actually paying a nanny well for over a decade can afford a nice bonus. However, if they were someone who was paying a nanny a low wage just so they could say they had a nanny, then they are on here asking what is a good bonus. You want to argue about someone being obnoxious, go look in a mirror.

Nobody said anyone is entitled to a nanny. One doesn't go and grab a nanny by the scruff her neck and say, "come work for me!" You offer them a salary and they either agree to work for you or not. If a prospective nanny takes a job with high income parents, the bonuses will obviously be better than if you take a job with middle income parents. And no, nannies are not the top tier of luxury care. What universe do you live in? Many, many non-high SES people hire nannies (though many call them "babysitters" even if they are long-term). You are truly clueless if you think all nannies leave their families with enormous bonuses.

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Yeah, you live in some fantasy world. I’ll repeat it again, you are not entitled to anything. You are not entitled to a nanny! No one is. Nannies are a luxury. They are the top tier of luxury care. They are meant for the rich and wealthy. Not the middle class who thinks they should have a nanny and can pay them $18/hr. If you cannot afford one you look into a daycare center. Cannot afford a center? You look into home daycares. I very highly doubt your parents were paying the nanny, you claim you had, much money. What you describe is an immigrant looking for work willing to take whatever. I’m sure she holds no grudges or was dissatisfied bc she didn’t know any better.

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Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?

You live in an entitled bubble. A nanny isn’t someone you are entitled to have watch your children. It’s the definition of a luxury. If you need affordable childcare you don’t hire a nanny. That’s the issue so many people on DCUM fail to realize. A nanny is expensive and if you didn’t take that into consideration before deciding you wanted that form of childcare then that’s on you. Most people cannot actually afford to hire nannies. Just like most people cannot afford to buy a brand new luxury car, there are other options.

I am the poster you are quoting. What? Are you kidding me? I grew up with immigrant parents who worked their tails off to provide for us and save for our education. They hired a nice lady to take care of me and my siblings. No way they could afford to pay her a month's salary as a bonus. The idea of them buying a luxury car instead of giving her a bonus makes me laugh. They drove 15 year old used cars and we wore thrift store clothes. The nanny was well-loved and respected and considered a part of our family and came to all our family functions even after we grew up. I can guarantee you she never felt used or disrespected when we couldn't pay her a huge bonus at the end of her years with us. Maybe that's because we didn't treat her as a member of some lower class. And I'll bet you anything my parents paid our nanny a higher percentage of their own salaries than many of the posters here who are suggesting that if you can't give your nanny a five figure bonus then you can't afford a nanny.

I don't even have a nanny and am only in this forum because I am searching for one. I can afford to pay a potential nanny more than most and I can afford generous bonuses, but that isn't at all the point. The point is that not everyone can afford to do this and that doesn't mean they should not hire a nanny for their children. You know nothing about the OP's means. You have no idea they are attorneys or teachers. Get off your moral high horse in your tiny socioeconomic bubble. Sure I agree people shouldn't be stingy if they have the means, but it is disturbingly elitist to suggest that only people of certain means should hire a nanny.

Yeah, you live in some fantasy world. I’ll repeat it again, you are not entitled to anything. You are not entitled to a nanny! No one is. Nannies are a luxury. They are the top tier of luxury care. They are meant for the rich and wealthy. Not the middle class who thinks they should have a nanny and can pay them $18/hr. If you cannot afford one you look into a daycare center. Cannot afford a center? You look into home daycares. I very highly doubt your parents were paying the nanny, you claim you had, much money. What you describe is an immigrant looking for work willing to take whatever. I’m sure she holds no grudges or was dissatisfied bc she didn’t know any better.

The entire point of this thread is about a bonus. Learn to read and then reread you nut. Someone hiring a nanny and actually paying a nanny well for over a decade can afford a nice bonus. However, if they were someone who was paying a nanny a low wage just so they could say they had a nanny, then they are on here asking what is a good bonus. You want to argue about someone being obnoxious, go look in a mirror.

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Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?

You live in an entitled bubble. A nanny isn’t someone you are entitled to have watch your children. It’s the definition of a luxury. If you need affordable childcare you don’t hire a nanny. That’s the issue so many people on DCUM fail to realize. A nanny is expensive and if you didn’t take that into consideration before deciding you wanted that form of childcare then that’s on you. Most people cannot actually afford to hire nannies. Just like most people cannot afford to buy a brand new luxury car, there are other options.

I am the poster you are quoting. What? Are you kidding me? I grew up with immigrant parents who worked their tails off to provide for us and save for our education. They hired a nice lady to take care of me and my siblings. No way they could afford to pay her a month's salary as a bonus. The idea of them buying a luxury car instead of giving her a bonus makes me laugh. They drove 15 year old used cars and we wore thrift store clothes. The nanny was well-loved and respected and considered a part of our family and came to all our family functions even after we grew up. I can guarantee you she never felt used or disrespected when we couldn't pay her a huge bonus at the end of her years with us. Maybe that's because we didn't treat her as a member of some lower class. And I'll bet you anything my parents paid our nanny a higher percentage of their own salaries than many of the posters here who are suggesting that if you can't give your nanny a five figure bonus then you can't afford a nanny.

I don't even have a nanny and am only in this forum because I am searching for one. I can afford to pay a potential nanny more than most and I can afford generous bonuses, but that isn't at all the point. The point is that not everyone can afford to do this and that doesn't mean they should not hire a nanny for their children. You know nothing about the OP's means. You have no idea they are attorneys or teachers. Get off your moral high horse in your tiny socioeconomic bubble. Sure I agree people shouldn't be stingy if they have the means, but it is disturbingly elitist to suggest that only people of certain means should hire a nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?

You live in an entitled bubble. A nanny isn’t someone you are entitled to have watch your children. It’s the definition of a luxury. If you need affordable childcare you don’t hire a nanny. That’s the issue so many people on DCUM fail to realize. A nanny is expensive and if you didn’t take that into consideration before deciding you wanted that form of childcare then that’s on you. Most people cannot actually afford to hire nannies. Just like most people cannot afford to buy a brand new luxury car, there are other options.

Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?

Anonymous wrote:Many you live in a bubble and are obnoxious about it. You really think people who can't afford to give more than $1000 bonuses don't deserve to have nannies look after their children?