Tell her those are unreasonable standards in the nanny industry- and tell her she can call a couple agencies to check.
We've had AuPairs and nannies and there is no curfew on weekend, and midnight or 7-8 hours before next shift on weekdays.
-MB

Foreigners.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, I am still planning on moving on soon, but things have gotten a bit better. After a number of discussions, I came to a compromise with MB. It's still not ideal, but makes things a little more livable for the time being. No more curfew on off nights, but I still have it on work nights unless I get permission to be out in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, I am still planning on moving on soon, but things have gotten a bit better. After a number of discussions, I came to a compromise with MB. It's still not ideal, but makes things a little more livable for the time being. No more curfew on off nights, but I still have it on work nights unless I get permission to be out in advance.

Live-in nanny who posted about car curfew and the alarm earlier here again. That’s ridiculous. As I said, they can set rules for their alarm and their car, but requiring you to be back by a certain time? Nope. Remind them that you’re an adult and you always make sure you’re ready and alert to work on time. That’s all that matters.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, I am still planning on moving on soon, but things have gotten a bit better. After a number of discussions, I came to a compromise with MB. It's still not ideal, but makes things a little more livable for the time being. No more curfew on off nights, but I still have it on work nights unless I get permission to be out in advance.

Are you a troll? This is effing stupid. I work during the day and provide as needed evening care 2-4 evenings a week. No way would I ever let an employer dictate a curfew, working in evenings or not. I would move out and quit if I were you. Guarantee you'd find another live in position without trash employers like this.

Your first mistake was entertaining their curfew from the outset. I would have ignored and kept leading my personal life how I chose.

...permission? Oh boy.

OP here. So, I am still planning on moving on soon, but things have gotten a bit better. After a number of discussions, I came to a compromise with MB. It's still not ideal, but makes things a little more livable for the time being. No more curfew on off nights, but I still have it on work nights unless I get permission to be out in advance.

This isn’t ok and exactly why I never would accept a live-in position and encourage nannies to refuse them unless they increase their pay.

Too many families use it as an excuse to control and overwork their nannies.

If you aren’t on the clock your time is yours.

I bet ops boss is the crazy lady who keep calling everyone team

Anonymous wrote:Did you quit yet? Wishing you luck on the job front! This job sounds awful.

OP, we’d love to know how things are going.

Did you quit yet? Wishing you luck on the job front! This job sounds awful.

You are incorrect. If you and I sign a contract it cannot be changed orally but only in writing and only if both parties sign.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Live-in nanny here.

Curfew for their vehicle and a text to let them know to set the alarm by 10 if you won’t be home are reasonable.

Only if agreed to in original contract!

No, making sure you text by 10 so they can set the alarm shouldn’t need to be done n the contract. Their vehicle, they can change the rules at any time for it. Neither option precludes nanny from staying out all night and partying.

Anonymous wrote:Live-in nanny here.

Curfew for their vehicle and a text to let them know to set the alarm by 10 if you won’t be home are reasonable.

Only if agreed to in original contract!