Anonymous
12/14/2017 15:13
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't call. Text her and then turn off your phone. If you let her get away with this, her abide will only get worse. Also, playdates on never for more than an hour. Do not let her get away with this,!
Play dates with a charge's friend when the kids are in elementary school may be 2-3 hours, and they are drop off.
However, OP already stated that the friends children are of age she doesn't particularly like, so this isn't a play date, in any way at all.
My charges are 8 months, 2.5 and 3.5-years old.
Her friends children are 7&9.
I don’t see how a first and 4th graded will enjoy a play date with three small children. They’ll apparently be here from 10am to 4/5pm because their mother has an appointment.
Anonymous
12/14/2017 14:38
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
You can still be professional and not be a doormat.
You need to grow a backbone because you will continue to be mistreated
You need to grow a backbone because you will continue to be mistreated
Anonymous
12/14/2017 14:32
Subject: Re:“We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
OP, she shouldn't have done that. I would NEVER do that to my nanny. I don't own her.
However, you need to learn from this experience and protect yourself. How do you not have a contract that spells this out?!? Your boss should clearly understand how this works - you should be guaranteed a certain number of hours per week or per pay period and you get paid those hours even if you don't work. This should have been negotiated before you started. How anyone has a nanny without an explicit contract detailing all items is beyond me. It's a terrible situation for all sides.
However, you need to learn from this experience and protect yourself. How do you not have a contract that spells this out?!? Your boss should clearly understand how this works - you should be guaranteed a certain number of hours per week or per pay period and you get paid those hours even if you don't work. This should have been negotiated before you started. How anyone has a nanny without an explicit contract detailing all items is beyond me. It's a terrible situation for all sides.
Anonymous
12/14/2017 13:02
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:I'd go, I'd deal. AND I'd start looking for a great job. Seriously, it's never going to get any better and now she will start doing this more regularly, or some other idiotic thing.
So, yes, deal with it professionally because YOU are a professional even if SHE is not.
and look for another job. Visit the parents in the evening so you don't impact your current job, etc. And in a few months when you leave, give the notice that is required in your contract. BUT do not just jump to "any other job" because you want to find a good fit, otherwise you are leaving one bad fit for another bad fit.
Too bad she'll never know that this is what broke the camel's back and made you look for another job! You could perhaps say it in the last few days of your job, but you don't want to sound pissy, so I'm not sure.
But calling out (or texting out) is just a shitty thing to do, and I agree with you, OP, you do NOT do that. You don't return her inappropriateness with the same - remember, when they go low, we go high!
This.
Anonymous
12/14/2017 10:39
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
I'd go, I'd deal. AND I'd start looking for a great job. Seriously, it's never going to get any better and now she will start doing this more regularly, or some other idiotic thing.
So, yes, deal with it professionally because YOU are a professional even if SHE is not.
and look for another job. Visit the parents in the evening so you don't impact your current job, etc. And in a few months when you leave, give the notice that is required in your contract. BUT do not just jump to "any other job" because you want to find a good fit, otherwise you are leaving one bad fit for another bad fit.
Too bad she'll never know that this is what broke the camel's back and made you look for another job! You could perhaps say it in the last few days of your job, but you don't want to sound pissy, so I'm not sure.
But calling out (or texting out) is just a shitty thing to do, and I agree with you, OP, you do NOT do that. You don't return her inappropriateness with the same - remember, when they go low, we go high!
So, yes, deal with it professionally because YOU are a professional even if SHE is not.
and look for another job. Visit the parents in the evening so you don't impact your current job, etc. And in a few months when you leave, give the notice that is required in your contract. BUT do not just jump to "any other job" because you want to find a good fit, otherwise you are leaving one bad fit for another bad fit.
Too bad she'll never know that this is what broke the camel's back and made you look for another job! You could perhaps say it in the last few days of your job, but you don't want to sound pissy, so I'm not sure.
But calling out (or texting out) is just a shitty thing to do, and I agree with you, OP, you do NOT do that. You don't return her inappropriateness with the same - remember, when they go low, we go high!
Anonymous
12/14/2017 01:39
Subject: Re:“We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Sounds like she wants to make sure she gets her "money's worth" out of you.
I can't help but wonder, if, for instance you serve grapes to the kids, and she sees you eat one of the grapes, does she get out a calculator and figure out the cost of that grape you ate and then take it out of your paycheck?
I can't help but wonder, if, for instance you serve grapes to the kids, and she sees you eat one of the grapes, does she get out a calculator and figure out the cost of that grape you ate and then take it out of your paycheck?
Anonymous
12/13/2017 15:26
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:"I'm sorry, MB, but when I was told you didn't need me, I made plans."
You're looking for a new job anyway, right? Don't let her walk all over you until you find one.
This and only this.
Anonymous
12/13/2017 09:26
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Personally, I would rather flip burgers or clean toilets than work for this woman .
Anonymous
12/13/2017 01:34
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Seriously how long is this play date? Anythingovwr 4hrs give the other shitty mom a bill.
Anonymous
12/13/2017 01:33
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Wow. Personally I'd suck it up for 3 months, be the doormat and get back in her good graces just for the reference and then quit. No way you stay at this job!
Anonymous
12/12/2017 22:35
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
OP, I am so sorry that your MB is such a jerk. This is just terrible
Anonymous
12/12/2017 20:45
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't call. Text her and then turn off your phone. If you let her get away with this, her abide will only get worse. Also, playdates on never for more than an hour. Do not let her get away with this,!
And I turn it back on to see I’ve lost my job and a future reference.
It’s not right and it’s unfair but our employers do have a lot of control. I make her angry I lose my source of income and a reference that can get me another position. I’d love to do this but I also must think of my livelihood.
Find another position asap. When you give nitice, use polite terms to let her know that she caused it by first volunteering you for the friend, then arranging the "play date. "
Anonymous
12/12/2017 20:45
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
"I'm sorry, MB, but when I was told you didn't need me, I made plans."
You're looking for a new job anyway, right? Don't let her walk all over you until you find one.
You're looking for a new job anyway, right? Don't let her walk all over you until you find one.
Anonymous
12/12/2017 20:43
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:Don't call. Text her and then turn off your phone. If you let her get away with this, her abide will only get worse. Also, playdates on never for more than an hour. Do not let her get away with this,!
Play dates with a charge's friend when the kids are in elementary school may be 2-3 hours, and they are drop off.
However, OP already stated that the friends children are of age she doesn't particularly like, so this isn't a play date, in any way at all.
Anonymous
12/12/2017 20:14
Subject: “We don’t need you the 15th so I’m going to have to watch my friends two girls”
Anonymous wrote:Don't call. Text her and then turn off your phone. If you let her get away with this, her abide will only get worse. Also, playdates on never for more than an hour. Do not let her get away with this,!
And I turn it back on to see I’ve lost my job and a future reference.
It’s not right and it’s unfair but our employers do have a lot of control. I make her angry I lose my source of income and a reference that can get me another position. I’d love to do this but I also must think of my livelihood.