My sister has a hard time finding a reliable nanny until she increase the hourly rate to be more in line with the average nanny wage. You also sound like a difficult employer. If you can’t pay more, I suggest daycare.

Op sounds like your typical entitled mom (as long as I PAY top dollar- I can work the “help” to death). You broads are a nightmare and I say that as a mom who nannies. Get a lighter stroller.

I never hire a nanny under 40 (we have had 2 full time plus weekend nannies.) They take instruction and rules more seriously. When i say no phones except for calling me or other child proposes, they listen. Focus is on the baby, not on the phone. Phones ok when baby/toddlers are napping. Otherwise your phone goes in your purse. *Never* had major problems with older nannies.

Many replies are always siding with the nanny instead of the parent.

I’m a parent who went through many nanny interviews. Most Nannies do suck.

If you’re lucky you get a decent one, but she will still be on her phone a lot and not super engaging with the child.

The really good ones are super rare.

The thing is, we have a labor shortage in this country and childcare providers are just not highly trained or super ambitious in their professions. If someone is extremely well educated and smart and ambitious, they probably won’t be working as a nanny.

I have the same question about new employers.

What’s the common denominator here? She’s a nanny not a slave. Close and life the stroller yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Get an older nanny. They are dynamic, not in the phone, more mature and considerate. Kids need love, positive discipline and someone empathetic.

You might be micromanaging but idk.
Maybe she told you before that stroller is heavy and you still don't want to get a more lighter and comfy one. I'm 30 and pushing a stroller from a new job it hurt my arms a lot. It was a running stroller from mom, maybe that's why.
The mom always pull down the stroller and up but I decided to help her and always did it since then, it was a light stroller.
If you have twins get that light black stroller with 1 kid on front and 1 in the back

The post is 3yo and the kids in the OP were 1.5, so they’re 4.5 now. No strollers, and I’m sure OP is no longer worried about dirty high chair trays.

Anonymous wrote:Get an older nanny. They are dynamic, not in the phone, more mature and considerate. Kids need love, positive discipline and someone empathetic.

You might be micromanaging but idk.
Maybe she told you before that stroller is heavy and you still don't want to get a more lighter and comfy one. I'm 30 and pushing a stroller from a new job it hurt my arms a lot. It was a running stroller from mom, maybe that's why.
The mom always pull down the stroller and up but I decided to help her and always did it since then, it was a light stroller.
If you have twins get that light black stroller with 1 kid on front and 1 in the back

Younger nannies can be this way too.

Get an older nanny. They are dynamic, not in the phone, more mature and considerate. Kids need love, positive discipline and someone empathetic.

You might be micromanaging but idk.
Maybe she told you before that stroller is heavy and you still don't want to get a more lighter and comfy one. I'm 30 and pushing a stroller from a new job it hurt my arms a lot. It was a running stroller from mom, maybe that's why.
The mom always pull down the stroller and up but I decided to help her and always did it since then, it was a light stroller.
If you have twins get that light black stroller with 1 kid on front and 1 in the back

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Anonymous wrote:Not all strollers are the same and if she doesn't use it regularly you are being unreasonable. Same with expecting her to lift it without you asking her when you somehow manage it every day.

OP here-- I DON'T manage it every day. If they go anywhere in a stroller, she is usually taking them somewhere in the other, lighter stroller. I didn't expect her to know how to do it, but I DO expect someone who I am paying a lot of money to for childcare to say, "Can you please show me how to fold the stroller?" and not "I don't know how, you do it." then walking away. If I said and did something like that to MY boss, I would be in trouble.

Go look in a mirror! YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! If you've been through that many nannies/au pairs, it has to be you. I can only try to imagine the job creep in this job. If you have a stroller that heavy and difficult to fold, I don't blame her. Why should she give herself back problems. Truthfully, you sound impossible.

I am sure OP doesn't give a sh*t anymore...considering this thread is 2 years old. Lord people.

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Anonymous wrote:Not all strollers are the same and if she doesn't use it regularly you are being unreasonable. Same with expecting her to lift it without you asking her when you somehow manage it every day.

OP here-- I DON'T manage it every day. If they go anywhere in a stroller, she is usually taking them somewhere in the other, lighter stroller. I didn't expect her to know how to do it, but I DO expect someone who I am paying a lot of money to for childcare to say, "Can you please show me how to fold the stroller?" and not "I don't know how, you do it." then walking away. If I said and did something like that to MY boss, I would be in trouble.

Go look in a mirror! YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! If you've been through that many nannies/au pairs, it has to be you. I can only try to imagine the job creep in this job. If you have a stroller that heavy and difficult to fold, I don't blame her. Why should she give herself back problems. Truthfully, you sound impossible.

OP I feel your pain . I am a mom of two , we had a great nanny for two years but she asked for raises every 6 mo. Regardless of her competitive salary. She was also manipulative and asked for raises during very busy times in our lives . We then trialed a nanny who thought it was appropriate to take my daughter to a restaurant without asking me and letting her own adult child ride in the car with my daughter without my permission. We trialed another who I caught physically hurting my daughter. To be honest I feel that the nanny market in DMV in general isn’t that great. I agree with other posters that if she was under 30 she may not be as mature or experienced. I put my 2 yo into Montessori and it has been AMAZING for her . The teachers keep everything clean and everyone follows a protocol and my daughter is learning like crazy ! Consider daycare or even a Montessori if you can find one that takes their age.

Anonymous wrote:Yes some get upset that they are the employee. Some want to feel like you can’t live without them. It is ego or envy in my opinion only gets worse so look for a new nanny. Some want more control, some compete with parents, some work better with men/ dads... decency and work ethics can’t be taught.

You are unwell, PP, with entirely too much time on you’re hands to go searching for a two year old thread. Get help.

Yes some get upset that they are the employee. Some want to feel like you can’t live without them. It is ego or envy in my opinion only gets worse so look for a new nanny. Some want more control, some compete with parents, some work better with men/ dads... decency and work ethics can’t be taught.

OP, stop being angry at posters. You posted and expecting all will be on your side or do you really think you're too good of an employer? Handle things calmly.