Anonymous wrote:I am a neutral party. A mom who cooks every meal each day for my family. When I have house guests (like my relatives), my cooking time increases because I am cooking larger quantities. Thank you

I understand that the needs of the family is changing. I think asking the housekeeper to take on extra duties for extra money is the way to go. Asking the nanny to do more without the additional pay is pretty cheap and exploitative. Thank you

The fact the the MB claims that they are very flexible with the nanny only tells me that they are happy with whatever service the nanny is providing and want to keep her happy. If they are unhappy with the flexibility that they are providing, they should get another nanny. Agreed


I think the MB and FB do not have time to do things like cooking. In such a case, they should ask, if it is worth it for them to pay $40 a week, for having the free time to spend with their kids. Precisely!

Anonymous wrote:The OP and her defenders are lazy, entitled brats. Now, let's let this thread die.

Anonymous wrote:So many of you nannies here are so arrogant and not flexible. There is a reason so many of you can't keep a job long term. Successful and professional nannies who are able to stay with families long term are able to grow and adapt as the job changes.

Jobs change and evolve, that is just the nature of any job. My job started 5 years ago with infant triplets. Obviously my duties were focused taking care of the babies, washing bottles, etc. and nothing else really.

5 years later those same kids are now in school full time and I'm still employed full time with the same family. My job and my duties have changed so much that my job now looks nothing like the job I was hired for 5 years ago.

Anonymous wrote:So many of you nannies here are so arrogant and not flexible. There is a reason so many of you can't keep a job long term. Successful and professional nannies who are able to stay with families long term are able to grow and adapt as the job changes.

Jobs change and evolve, that is just the nature of any job. My job started 5 years ago with infant triplets. Obviously my duties were focused taking care of the babies, washing bottles, etc. and nothing else really.

5 years later those same kids are now in school full time and I'm still employed full time with the same family. My job and my duties have changed so much that my job now looks nothing like the job I was hired for 5 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd pay a nanny $40 extra to cook for us. It would save us time and money. Our nanny can't cook at all.

Would it really? I feel like I could get pretty decent takeout for two people for $20 + grocery money.

$40/wk to cook 2 days a week is too much. Either this nanny really didn't want to do this, or she was attempting to take advantage of generous employers.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.

I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.

Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.

Try having a job in the professional world. Most job descriptions say and other duties as assigned. The families needs are changing. As the kids get older, they don't need constant supervision or they can help in the kitchen. Cutting up 2 carrots vs. 4 is a minimal time issue.

Nothing has been said about the kids helping. Most parents don't want their kids helping prepare meals, they want their kids having fun. Oh, and I'm the PP who said the 2 carrots becomes 4... I cook from scratch, every single meal. If my NF wanted me to go from making enough for just kids to parents as well, it doubles my prep time and cook time is anywhere from 1.25 to twice what was required before, which is exactly why I said that it takes 1.5-2 times as long when doubling a recipe made from scratch.

Also cooking for children is not the same as cooking for adults. Just because a nanny is comfortable making simple meals for your kids doesn't mean she wants to be your chef. It starts with doubling the recipe she makes for the kids, then the recipes get more complicated and involved. Chicken strips and steamed veggies is fine for the kids, but what about when MB decides she wants a scratch made lasagna for dinner?

Oh please, its not that much work to cook for a few extra people.

Then it's not much work for you to do it your damn self if $40 is too much. The nanny set her price, you can pay it or not, but you don't get to decide what she will work for. Perhaps she doesn't like cooking and that's what it'd take to be worth it to her. I don't like working extra hours babysitting for my nanny family. If I'm gonna work an extra 4 hours, its gonna cost you, but you're also free to find someone cheaper. This family got the housekeeper go do it. I fail to see the issue.

A housekeeper cleans the house, the one you help make a mess. You are not being asked to work extra hours, you do it during the hours you are working. If you don't clean, do laundry or much else, then you should have the time to do dinner. As the kids get older, they can play themselves or color/draw/what ever at the table while you cook. You sound lazy. Their needs have changed and in order to justify you, they are changing your job description. If you are that difficult, you will find yourself out of a job as you are replaceable.

When I babysat and was a nanny for summers, I absolutely cooked, helped clean up, etc. Funny thing, I always got called back and paid well. I expect ours to pitch in on days she can. Sometimes it will be just throwing stuff in the crock pot around 1 that I prepared. Sometimes preparing more. We work together. I would never hire someone who barely cleans up after themselves and just sits in my house with my kid providing minimal care.

Nannies don't provide minimal care. Babysitters provide minimal care.

Nannies and babysitters are the same thing. A nanny works full-time, babysitter part time or occasionally. Either way, you are working in a family home - pitch in an help. It isn't that much extra work... you are being dramatic. I doubt you spend all day entertaining the kids where you cannot spare a few minutes during free play/tv, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I'd pay a nanny $40 extra to cook for us. It would save us time and money. Our nanny can't cook at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.

I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.

Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.

Try having a job in the professional world. Most job descriptions say and other duties as assigned. The families needs are changing. As the kids get older, they don't need constant supervision or they can help in the kitchen. Cutting up 2 carrots vs. 4 is a minimal time issue.

Nothing has been said about the kids helping. Most parents don't want their kids helping prepare meals, they want their kids having fun. Oh, and I'm the PP who said the 2 carrots becomes 4... I cook from scratch, every single meal. If my NF wanted me to go from making enough for just kids to parents as well, it doubles my prep time and cook time is anywhere from 1.25 to twice what was required before, which is exactly why I said that it takes 1.5-2 times as long when doubling a recipe made from scratch.

Also cooking for children is not the same as cooking for adults. Just because a nanny is comfortable making simple meals for your kids doesn't mean she wants to be your chef. It starts with doubling the recipe she makes for the kids, then the recipes get more complicated and involved. Chicken strips and steamed veggies is fine for the kids, but what about when MB decides she wants a scratch made lasagna for dinner?

Oh please, its not that much work to cook for a few extra people.

Then it's not much work for you to do it your damn self if $40 is too much. The nanny set her price, you can pay it or not, but you don't get to decide what she will work for. Perhaps she doesn't like cooking and that's what it'd take to be worth it to her. I don't like working extra hours babysitting for my nanny family. If I'm gonna work an extra 4 hours, its gonna cost you, but you're also free to find someone cheaper. This family got the housekeeper go do it. I fail to see the issue.

A housekeeper cleans the house, the one you help make a mess. You are not being asked to work extra hours, you do it during the hours you are working. If you don't clean, do laundry or much else, then you should have the time to do dinner. As the kids get older, they can play themselves or color/draw/what ever at the table while you cook. You sound lazy. Their needs have changed and in order to justify you, they are changing your job description. If you are that difficult, you will find yourself out of a job as you are replaceable.

When I babysat and was a nanny for summers, I absolutely cooked, helped clean up, etc. Funny thing, I always got called back and paid well. I expect ours to pitch in on days she can. Sometimes it will be just throwing stuff in the crock pot around 1 that I prepared. Sometimes preparing more. We work together. I would never hire someone who barely cleans up after themselves and just sits in my house with my kid providing minimal care.

Nannies don't provide minimal care. Babysitters provide minimal care.

Nannies and babysitters are the same thing. A nanny works full-time, babysitter part time or occasionally. Either way, you are working in a family home - pitch in an help. It isn't that much extra work... you are being dramatic. I doubt you spend all day entertaining the kids where you cannot spare a few minutes during free play/tv, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.

I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.

Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.

Try having a job in the professional world. Most job descriptions say and other duties as assigned. The families needs are changing. As the kids get older, they don't need constant supervision or they can help in the kitchen. Cutting up 2 carrots vs. 4 is a minimal time issue.

Nothing has been said about the kids helping. Most parents don't want their kids helping prepare meals, they want their kids having fun. Oh, and I'm the PP who said the 2 carrots becomes 4... I cook from scratch, every single meal. If my NF wanted me to go from making enough for just kids to parents as well, it doubles my prep time and cook time is anywhere from 1.25 to twice what was required before, which is exactly why I said that it takes 1.5-2 times as long when doubling a recipe made from scratch.

Also cooking for children is not the same as cooking for adults. Just because a nanny is comfortable making simple meals for your kids doesn't mean she wants to be your chef. It starts with doubling the recipe she makes for the kids, then the recipes get more complicated and involved. Chicken strips and steamed veggies is fine for the kids, but what about when MB decides she wants a scratch made lasagna for dinner?

Oh please, its not that much work to cook for a few extra people.

Then it's not much work for you to do it your damn self if $40 is too much. The nanny set her price, you can pay it or not, but you don't get to decide what she will work for. Perhaps she doesn't like cooking and that's what it'd take to be worth it to her. I don't like working extra hours babysitting for my nanny family. If I'm gonna work an extra 4 hours, its gonna cost you, but you're also free to find someone cheaper. This family got the housekeeper go do it. I fail to see the issue.

A housekeeper cleans the house, the one you help make a mess. You are not being asked to work extra hours, you do it during the hours you are working. If you don't clean, do laundry or much else, then you should have the time to do dinner. As the kids get older, they can play themselves or color/draw/what ever at the table while you cook. You sound lazy. Their needs have changed and in order to justify you, they are changing your job description. If you are that difficult, you will find yourself out of a job as you are replaceable.

When I babysat and was a nanny for summers, I absolutely cooked, helped clean up, etc. Funny thing, I always got called back and paid well. I expect ours to pitch in on days she can. Sometimes it will be just throwing stuff in the crock pot around 1 that I prepared. Sometimes preparing more. We work together. I would never hire someone who barely cleans up after themselves and just sits in my house with my kid providing minimal care.

Nannies don't provide minimal care. Babysitters provide minimal care.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.

I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.

Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.

Try having a job in the professional world. Most job descriptions say and other duties as assigned. The families needs are changing. As the kids get older, they don't need constant supervision or they can help in the kitchen. Cutting up 2 carrots vs. 4 is a minimal time issue.

Nothing has been said about the kids helping. Most parents don't want their kids helping prepare meals, they want their kids having fun. Oh, and I'm the PP who said the 2 carrots becomes 4... I cook from scratch, every single meal. If my NF wanted me to go from making enough for just kids to parents as well, it doubles my prep time and cook time is anywhere from 1.25 to twice what was required before, which is exactly why I said that it takes 1.5-2 times as long when doubling a recipe made from scratch.

Also cooking for children is not the same as cooking for adults. Just because a nanny is comfortable making simple meals for your kids doesn't mean she wants to be your chef. It starts with doubling the recipe she makes for the kids, then the recipes get more complicated and involved. Chicken strips and steamed veggies is fine for the kids, but what about when MB decides she wants a scratch made lasagna for dinner?

Oh please, its not that much work to cook for a few extra people.

Then it's not much work for you to do it your damn self if $40 is too much. The nanny set her price, you can pay it or not, but you don't get to decide what she will work for. Perhaps she doesn't like cooking and that's what it'd take to be worth it to her. I don't like working extra hours babysitting for my nanny family. If I'm gonna work an extra 4 hours, its gonna cost you, but you're also free to find someone cheaper. This family got the housekeeper go do it. I fail to see the issue.

A housekeeper cleans the house, the one you help make a mess. You are not being asked to work extra hours, you do it during the hours you are working. If you don't clean, do laundry or much else, then you should have the time to do dinner. As the kids get older, they can play themselves or color/draw/what ever at the table while you cook. You sound lazy. Their needs have changed and in order to justify you, they are changing your job description. If you are that difficult, you will find yourself out of a job as you are replaceable.

When I babysat and was a nanny for summers, I absolutely cooked, helped clean up, etc. Funny thing, I always got called back and paid well. I expect ours to pitch in on days she can. Sometimes it will be just throwing stuff in the crock pot around 1 that I prepared. Sometimes preparing more. We work together. I would never hire someone who barely cleans up after themselves and just sits in my house with my kid providing minimal care.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.

I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.

Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.

Try having a job in the professional world. Most job descriptions say and other duties as assigned. The families needs are changing. As the kids get older, they don't need constant supervision or they can help in the kitchen. Cutting up 2 carrots vs. 4 is a minimal time issue.

Nothing has been said about the kids helping. Most parents don't want their kids helping prepare meals, they want their kids having fun. Oh, and I'm the PP who said the 2 carrots becomes 4... I cook from scratch, every single meal. If my NF wanted me to go from making enough for just kids to parents as well, it doubles my prep time and cook time is anywhere from 1.25 to twice what was required before, which is exactly why I said that it takes 1.5-2 times as long when doubling a recipe made from scratch.

Also cooking for children is not the same as cooking for adults. Just because a nanny is comfortable making simple meals for your kids doesn't mean she wants to be your chef. It starts with doubling the recipe she makes for the kids, then the recipes get more complicated and involved. Chicken strips and steamed veggies is fine for the kids, but what about when MB decides she wants a scratch made lasagna for dinner?

Oh please, its not that much work to cook for a few extra people.

Then it's not much work for you to do it your damn self if $40 is too much. The nanny set her price, you can pay it or not, but you don't get to decide what she will work for. Perhaps she doesn't like cooking and that's what it'd take to be worth it to her. I don't like working extra hours babysitting for my nanny family. If I'm gonna work an extra 4 hours, its gonna cost you, but you're also free to find someone cheaper. This family got the housekeeper go do it. I fail to see the issue.

A housekeeper cleans the house, the one you help make a mess. You are not being asked to work extra hours, you do it during the hours you are working. If you don't clean, do laundry or much else, then you should have the time to do dinner. As the kids get older, they can play themselves or color/draw/what ever at the table while you cook. You sound lazy. Their needs have changed and in order to justify you, they are changing your job description. If you are that difficult, you will find yourself out of a job as you are replaceable.

When I babysat and was a nanny for summers, I absolutely cooked, helped clean up, etc. Funny thing, I always got called back and paid well. I expect ours to pitch in on days she can. Sometimes it will be just throwing stuff in the crock pot around 1 that I prepared. Sometimes preparing more. We work together. I would never hire someone who barely cleans up after themselves and just sits in my house with my kid providing minimal care.