Do you allow your nanny to leave the house?
Does your nanny have a hard time setting limits with your daughter?

Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

OP, I didn't read all the responses. I assume it is just mudslinging anyway.
But I'm curious is your daughter constantly throwing tantrums all day?
I don't really get the point. I mean she can still ask for the laptops all day long and throw a tantrum for them not being there.
I work for a family with 2 children ages 3 and 14 months. I have been with them since the oldest was 3 months old. Initially like me they wanted a no TV policy. That changed when the youngest was born and mom allowed the oldest to watch Elmo while she nursed the baby and got him to bed.
When I came back to work after mom's maternity leave my charge then 2.5 asked me once for TV. I told him TV was only for when Mama was feeding little brother and putting him to bed not for nanny Sue Sue time ( how he refers to the time I am working). He tends to be a very strong willed guy, but he was okay with that and we went about our day.
All this to say, your nanny might be over anticipating things. It may not be a big issue at all.
But if you like her laptop solution. Do it.

Yeah, whatever... I would KILL to have a nanny this good. I don't care how opinionated she was and I would do whatever she asked just to get her to stop letting my kids watch so much TV during the day.

Anonymous wrote:Never should you have to ask your nanny is this ok for you to parent as you see fit. I don't care how experienced she is. Red flags all over this!

Reread and try reading slower.

OP asked if the computer screen was the best way to handle limiting TV for a two-year-old. There are no "red flags".

OP should mention this to the pediatrician. They'll probably recognize another nanny doing the real work of parenting.

Never should you have to ask your nanny is this ok for you to parent as you see fit. I don't care how experienced she is. Red flags all over this!

Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

As a nanny I would not have suggested this to you. I am adamantly opposed to TV for children under 12. However I enjoy working for families that do things differently than I do. I view it as an opportunity for me to grow.

Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

Does it seem ok to you? Is this what you want to do?
Personally, I do not think this is a needed compromise, but on the other hand if you choose to comply with her request it's not a big deal.
You can go the laptop route now and down the road allow the big screen.
You can tell the nanny thank you for your feedback but we have decided to let Larla watch tv on the big screen.
Either way it shouldn't be a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to have your nanny, OP. Holy hell, a nanny who actually wants what is best for my kid?!!!


A lot of nannies here today trying to justify their lazy-assed ways.

What does this have to do with being lazy?
Is comprehension a problem for you? If it is I agree it's best your nanny take the lead on all issues to do otherwise might be dangerous for your child.

Can you read, Dear? OP does not want the child to watch TV during the day with the nanny. She could not possibly have made that more clear. She is also of the school that the best way to handle tantrums is to avoid them. The nanny offered a solution which makes sense to cover both.

What is the problem?

Can you read dear the issue is not TV during the day it is what the nanny wants the parents to have the parents do for screen time. It is about control.

NP here and I disagree 100%. It is about offering a solution to the child not tandruming. The OP came here to discuss the viability of that proposed solution.

Please show me where it ever said otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny. I do not do TV when I am in the home.
I have worked with many parents that are ok with TV, but I do not feel it is right for me to have the TV on when I am there to work.
When I have my own kids I will probably do no TV until 2 or 3.

However, I do not try and tell parents what to do when I am not there.

I have years of experience with children. I have no problem giving my opinion or offer ideas or alternatives for the parents, but I stop short of telling them what to do.

For me it's an issue of boundaries and also I view my role as a nanny to help the whole family. I work with primarily FT parents and I like to encourage them in their role as the parents.
I'm not doing my job if I tell them what to do.

OMG - Am I the only person who can actually read and comprehend the written word?

THIS NANNY NEVER TOLD THE PARENTS WHAT TO DO. NEVER.

I'm outta here - some of you are just too stupid to live.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to have your nanny, OP. Holy hell, a nanny who actually wants what is best for my kid?!!!


A lot of nannies here today trying to justify their lazy-assed ways.

What does this have to do with being lazy?
Is comprehension a problem for you? If it is I agree it's best your nanny take the lead on all issues to do otherwise might be dangerous for your child.

Can you read, Dear? OP does not want the child to watch TV during the day with the nanny. She could not possibly have made that more clear. She is also of the school that the best way to handle tantrums is to avoid them. The nanny offered a solution which makes sense to cover both.

What is the problem?

Can you read dear the issue is not TV during the day it is what the nanny wants the parents to have the parents do for screen time. It is about control.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has a nanny that many parents would pay double for, if only they had the opportunity.

+1 I am one of them.

She sounds horrible. You don't tell me what to do EVER. To ask me if I would use a laptop instead of the tv to make her job easier is ridiculous. What a lazy piece of shit. I'd fire in an instant for her asking me. I literally hate this nanny.

LOL Calm down, PP!!! Sounds like you are threatened.

Threatened by a bitch who needs to be put in her place um no. Nannies like this just piss me off I want to strangle them. They have no place making a request like that. Lazy bitch who can't diciplin

You are deeply troubled PP. One more vile post like this and I will report you.

I feel so very sorry for your children, PP - you need help.

I'm a nanny. I do not do TV when I am in the home.
I have worked with many parents that are ok with TV, but I do not feel it is right for me to have the TV on when I am there to work.
When I have my own kids I will probably do no TV until 2 or 3.

However, I do not try and tell parents what to do when I am not there.

I have years of experience with children. I have no problem giving my opinion or offer ideas or alternatives for the parents, but I stop short of telling them what to do.

For me it's an issue of boundaries and also I view my role as a nanny to help the whole family. I work with primarily FT parents and I like to encourage them in their role as the parents.
I'm not doing my job if I tell them what to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to have your nanny, OP. Holy hell, a nanny who actually wants what is best for my kid?!!!


A lot of nannies here today trying to justify their lazy-assed ways.

What does this have to do with being lazy?
Is comprehension a problem for you? If it is I agree it's best your nanny take the lead on all issues to do otherwise might be dangerous for your child.

Can you read, Dear? OP does not want the child to watch TV during the day with the nanny. She could not possibly have made that more clear. She is also of the school that the best way to handle tantrums is to avoid them. The nanny offered a solution which makes sense to cover both.

What is the problem?

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Anonymous wrote:OP has a nanny that many parents would pay double for, if only they had the opportunity.

+1 I am one of them.

She sounds horrible. You don't tell me what to do EVER. To ask me if I would use a laptop instead of the tv to make her job easier is ridiculous. What a lazy piece of shit. I'd fire in an instant for her asking me. I literally hate this nanny.

LOL Calm down, PP!!! Sounds like you are threatened.

Threatened by a bitch who needs to be put in her place um no. Nannies like this just piss me off I want to strangle them. They have no place making a request like that. Lazy bitch who can't diciplin

Wow - honestly, PP, get some help with your rage issues.