I'm the poster you are discussing and, for the record, I have no issues with anyone reacting and disagreeing with anything I say.

I didn't respond to the rude poster because I feel like her questions are ridiculous, off topic, and unnecessarily inflammatory. She isn't worth my time because she is being intentionally obtuse.

That said, if she wants to post stupid to stir up trouble where there isn't any trouble, she can have at it.

She is indeed entitled to respond, and someone can react. Which is exactly what is happening...

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Anonymous wrote:If my math is correct, your child is only 9 months now, OP. it stands to reason that you won't know your child's nap patterns and preferences 9 months from now, nor will you know the nap needs of the youngest child in your care and whether they will match up.

Your other points about being unable to handle pool visits and play dates just underlines what several posters have said. This is not a good situation for your MB's children, or yourself.

This is classic- a nanny takes care of children- so why not treat her like one? Who are YOU to declare what a good job is for the nanny, an MB, and the kids? And now you can predict infant nap schedules ?

She is a poster on an open-access web forum, just like you and I. She's entitled to post her opinion on the post that has indeed asked for commentary. A really effective way to protect yourself from unwanted opinions is to stop posting questions and scenarios on the Internet.

Anonymous wrote:If my math is correct, your child is only 9 months now, OP. it stands to reason that you won't know your child's nap patterns and preferences 9 months from now, nor will you know the nap needs of the youngest child in your care and whether they will match up.

Your other points about being unable to handle pool visits and play dates just underlines what several posters have said. This is not a good situation for your MB's children, or yourself.

This is classic- a nanny takes care of children- so why not treat her like one? Who are YOU to declare what a good job is for the nanny, an MB, and the kids? And now you can predict infant nap schedules ?

I guess it floors me that an MB would want any one single person to take 5 kiddos to the pool. Any way you slice it, it's not safe. In fact I brought it up to MB and she said that she always gets a second sitter for after school hours and excursions.

If my math is correct, your child is only 9 months now, OP. it stands to reason that you won't know your child's nap patterns and preferences 9 months from now, nor will you know the nap needs of the youngest child in your care and whether they will match up.

Your other points about being unable to handle pool visits and play dates just underlines what several posters have said. This is not a good situation for your MB's children, or yourself.

Op here. The pool issues is about coverage. Simply put, I do not trust lifeguards to watch the kids. If I had to jump out of the pool to change a diaper or run a kid for a bathroom break- I would not feel comfortable leaving the bigger ones alone. In fact, that is why I became a lifeguard three years ago as a summer nanny.
The play dates, I just envision all 3 kids having friends over at once. That would be 7 kids- not even counting my own, and I would not feel like I was providing proper care.
And naps are not an issue for me/DC. He is very go with the flow kiddo and we do not have a schedule. He naps
In the car, stroller, pack and play- you name it! If we were obsessed with a schedule we would not even consider it!

OP,

I have a school aged child with a solid commute to her school and my husband and I work FT. I am very seriously considering hiring a nanny/housekeeper to help us since I am losing hours of my work day to do pick up duty. I would consider hiring someone who brought their own child. Here would be deal breakers for me:

1. No pool time. That would be the end of the discussion for me. We swim 4 times per week. It is one of our main forms of exercise. My daughter loves the pool and there is no way I would agree to her not going to the pool every possible chance in the summer. I get that there are more kids to watch in your job scenario, but the 2 older ones should be able to swim competently. With 3 younger ones, you will be in the baby pool area with them. And, yes, you will likely be sitting in the water with the littlest ones.

2. No playdates. What? Part of the reason I would have a nanny is so that my kid can have a better social life which includes attending and hosting kids at home. You could certainly ask that playdates alternate at home between big kids and little kids or that you host only one playdate a week, but no playdates at home is not something I would agree to.

3. Nap times. Mine doesn't nap anymore. We don't need care until 3pm or later each day. I would expect a nanny with a napping child to adjust nap times to fit with our schedule.

I don't think you need this job enough. This is going to be an exhausting, difficult position: 5 kids, including two babies. You're going to feel like your little one is getting lost in the shuffle, and you're going to quit after a couple of months.

You'll be tearful and apologetic, but you're going to decide that it's just not working for your family.

If it's not about the money, find a job where you can bring your child with one other child about the same age. That sounds like a potentially enjoyable break from teaching.

Op here, and yes I am in DC. Not sure how I can convince you of this- but its true. I taught the first few years in Ward 7 and now am in a cushy school in Cap Hill. If you are familiar at all with IMPACT you may be able to understand why I want to lay out a few years before jumping back in the teaching game.
Just curious- what part of my posts makes you think I am not in DC?

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. You're not posting from DC.

Where are you posting from?

I call troll. You're not posting from DC.

My pension is already vested, so I would not lose that. I would just not be able to contribute for the two years. This would only be a short 2 year thing for both of us. I have reached out to my former principal, he since moved districts, to ask about the reentry. If I were to return to my district my pension would pick up where we left off. DCPs is always bleeding for teachers, not sure that will change in two years. As for health benefits , husband carries those. I am not sold on this idea, just considering . So with the exception of the hostile posters- I appreciate the feedback!

I think you'd be crazy to give up a teaching job to take a nanny job. This family will match your salary, but you say your job includes a pension. Takes time to be fully vested in a pension, and you would just forfeit that. Plus they would need to start a retirement plan for you in order to actually meet your salary, and give you health benefits, too, I imagine, since most teachers get those. And teachers usually get summers off, but you would work year-round.

I wouldn't even consider it.

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Anonymous wrote:If the family if inviting her to bring her child then they are responsible for her child. OP can put this as a benefit to the family after all they wouldn't want her her child making their children sick now would they? Its for their benefit not hers as she could easily bring her sick kid into work. Whenever the nanny's child is sick, the family should be paying for the nanny to keep her child home and it shouldn't count against the nanny's vacation or own sick time.

They aren't responsible for anything except her paycheck.

I also don't see why they should be paying for her child's classes - no one says her child has to take the same classes.

I think this job's balancing act would be very difficult. The two older kids would basically never be able to go anywhere except their school - how would she transport five kids?

There are vehicles called SUVs and Mini Vans that can hold 6-8 people. Most children's classes are held during school hours and she mentioned her husband was also a teacher who could pick up their child when he gets out. You make it sound like it's impossible to care for multiple children of different age groups.

It's possible, but it presents limitations in terms of what you are able to do with them, and how much care you are able to extend to each child. What can five kids do together, at the same time? They can be at home. Or in the backyard. Or in a walking-distance playground. I am not arguing that she won't be able to care for them. I am arguing that the kinds of things she'd be able to do with five kids AT THE SAME TIME would be limited.