Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 18:27     Subject: Is this an attractive offer?

Good grief. OP, you're the idiot who accepted a crappy job offer. You're the one who stayed with it for a year. You're telling me you couldn't find ANY other work in the past year? Bullshit.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 17:32     Subject: Re:Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nannies do whatever is in the job description that they accept. There is no nannies only stare at the children rule. If you don't want to do other tasks don't take a job that include other tasks, It isn't the employers fault that you can't find a different job. They were honest in their expectations for what they are willing to pay for and if you accept your responsibility is to your job.


I'm 13:42. Are you responding to me? Because I'm pretty sure that's what I said. If you knew what the job was and accepted that's on you. I was saying that generally the majority of those tasks fall outside the scope of nannying, so it isn't ludicrous that a nanny, who does childcare, wouldn't want the job. There's very little child care involved in this job, and a lot of housekeeper/butler type tasks.


Are you the poster who said in a prior thread that she draws her narrow scope of work from the old Fran Drescher sitcom called The Nanny, wherein the nanny just watched the children and the butler did everything else? Reality check: The vast majority of nannies work for middle- to upper-middle class professional families. These families do not generally employ butlers and many of them look to the nanny to play more of a substitute SAHM role, which includes house management in addition to child care. That doesn't mean they aren't hiring nannies. It means that the definition of what it means to be a typical nanny has changed over time since the days when nannies were employed primarily by the very wealthy.


That said, changing cat litter is beyond, beyond. Other than that, nothing about the job seemed absurd to me given that the kids are at an age where they don't need much hands-on care. The parents clearly just want an adult at home to keep them on task with homework, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 17:31     Subject: Re:Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nannies do whatever is in the job description that they accept. There is no nannies only stare at the children rule. If you don't want to do other tasks don't take a job that include other tasks, It isn't the employers fault that you can't find a different job. They were honest in their expectations for what they are willing to pay for and if you accept your responsibility is to your job.


I'm 13:42. Are you responding to me? Because I'm pretty sure that's what I said. If you knew what the job was and accepted that's on you. I was saying that generally the majority of those tasks fall outside the scope of nannying, so it isn't ludicrous that a nanny, who does childcare, wouldn't want the job. There's very little child care involved in this job, and a lot of housekeeper/butler type tasks.


Are you the poster who said in a prior thread that she draws her narrow scope of work from the old Fran Drescher sitcom called The Nanny, wherein the nanny just watched the children and the butler did everything else? Reality check: The vast majority of nannies work for middle- to upper-middle class professional families. These families do not generally employ butlers and many of them look to the nanny to play more of a substitute SAHM role, which includes house management in addition to child care. That doesn't mean they aren't hiring nannies. It means that the definition of what it means to be a typical nanny has changed over time since the days when nannies were employed primarily by the very wealthy.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 17:25     Subject: Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Make it $20 an hour with guaranteed pay and you will likely find qualified applicants.

I agree that the kids could do their own laundry and pet care but if I have someone come to my home and help with cleaning, if I pay for laundry and it is discussed beforehand I see no problem with a nanny doing it.


The problem isn't whether a nanny can do it, its why can't your kids do it. You could pay someone to do almost anything for you or your kids, but your job as a parent is to teach your kids to take care of themselves. Even if they grow up to be able to afford someone who does it all for them, that's different than never learning to do it yourself. This woman is setting her boys up to be someone's ex-husband/dead beat dad/30 year old living in mom's basement kind of men.


Give me a break.

+1. The boys will learn to be self-sufficient eventually. They are in middle school. It's sounds like some of the posters had to be independent at a young age, and they resent others who can afford more help.

Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 15:36     Subject: Re:Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:Nannies do whatever is in the job description that they accept. There is no nannies only stare at the children rule. If you don't want to do other tasks don't take a job that include other tasks, It isn't the employers fault that you can't find a different job. They were honest in their expectations for what they are willing to pay for and if you accept your responsibility is to your job.


I'm 13:42. Are you responding to me? Because I'm pretty sure that's what I said. If you knew what the job was and accepted that's on you. I was saying that generally the majority of those tasks fall outside the scope of nannying, so it isn't ludicrous that a nanny, who does childcare, wouldn't want the job. There's very little child care involved in this job, and a lot of housekeeper/butler type tasks.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 15:20     Subject: Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the nanny details, I agree that it is ridiculous these children appear to have no chores by get will grow up to be very very bad husbands that way.


You mean like the husbands every wife in the general parenting discussion complains about? These men are unbelievable. But they bring in the big bucks so I guess that's all that matters.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 15:06     Subject: Is this an attractive offer?

Regardless of the nanny details, I agree that it is ridiculous these children appear to have no chores by get will grow up to be very very bad husbands that way.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 14:59     Subject: Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:I clearly stated that I've stayed so long because I need the money. I have bills to pay and I can't afford to quit my job without securing another one. I'm not from the DC area and nanny jobs aren't as available where I live as they are in the DC metro area. I would love to quit, trust me. And I don't blame you for believing my story, it's pretty unbelievable.


You could/should have secured a job by now. I don't believe that you were trying to get out. Nothing will change for you if you don't take the steps to make it happen.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 14:23     Subject: Re:Is this an attractive offer?

Nannies do whatever is in the job description that they accept. There is no nannies only stare at the children rule. If you don't want to do other tasks don't take a job that include other tasks, It isn't the employers fault that you can't find a different job. They were honest in their expectations for what they are willing to pay for and if you accept your responsibility is to your job.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2013 13:42     Subject: Re:Is this an attractive offer?

Anonymous wrote:How is this job stressful? Its not that much to do in 4 hours. You open the door and let the dog out. One day a week you go to the grocery store. You wash and fold clothes. You make dinner and clean up after yourself. I'm so tired of nannies acting like anything which requires any movement takes them 30 minutes to accomplish. What's next..I need to breathe air all the time so I can't do anything else.


Nannies do c h i l d c a r e, ie. the care of children. Everything outside of that is extra, and a nanny can understandably have no desire to do it and can refuse jobs that require it. The more outside the scope of normal job duties you get, the harder it is to fill a job. Lawyers and doctors don't want to clean toilets or wash dishes at work. Now if you accept a job that states these requirements up front (that's you OP) you really have no one to be mad at but yourself.