Anonymous
04/02/2013 01:26
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:I agree that stealing is a character issue more than an economic issue. But then again my children, nor I, have ever gone hungry.
I have. I was homeless once, I didn't steal then and so one should think that if you do have a job, that you shouldn't need to steal. Learn to budget your finances or get a 2nd (or 3rd) job if you still aren't making enough.
Anonymous
04/01/2013 12:34
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
OP, you handled it well. Who knows how long she had been stealing from you and getting proof was a smart move.
I hope you find a terrific new nanny. Please remember there are some great nannies out there who are honest and would never do to you what this girl did.
I hope you find a terrific new nanny. Please remember there are some great nannies out there who are honest and would never do to you what this girl did.
Anonymous
04/01/2013 12:29
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
I agree that stealing is a character issue more than an economic issue. But then again my children, nor I, have ever gone hungry.
Anonymous
04/01/2013 04:44
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:Maybe if you paid her s libable wage, she would not need to steal.
I am sure she was being paid a decent wage. If not, then she was free to quit and find something else where she was earning enough to make a decent wage. If you don't like what your rate is, you can easily make the decision to change things by finding something new instead of stealing. No need for anyone to blame an employer for having to steal due to low wages.
Anonymous
04/01/2013 00:04
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Maybe if you paid her s libable wage, she would not need to steal.
Anonymous
03/31/2013 14:39
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
So sad that mb seems to have spent countless hours over this ordeal, not to mention the emotional termoil. It's good that OP has family who can fill in.
OP, maybe one of your family will be able to help you permanently. That would really be your best solution. No more revolving door nannies for your child, for whatever reason. Your child deserves some stability at this point.
OP, maybe one of your family will be able to help you permanently. That would really be your best solution. No more revolving door nannies for your child, for whatever reason. Your child deserves some stability at this point.
Anonymous
03/31/2013 00:32
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you see MB "helping" herself to a few office supplies, quit, because before you know it, she'll be helping herself to your paycheck in some sneaky way.
How does that work, PP? I reduce your paycheck and you don't notice?
+1 -- I agree, some people write the dumbest remarks on here lol.
Anonymous
03/29/2013 22:14
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Wow, it's nannies like her who give nannies a bad name. I hope you find good child care soon.
Anonymous
03/29/2013 18:28
Subject: Re:Nanny and stealing low cost items
OP, that was a great idea to take photos.
I'm sorry you lost a nanny... you did the right thing. I can't imagine taking anything from the family I work for.
I'm sorry you lost a nanny... you did the right thing. I can't imagine taking anything from the family I work for.
Anonymous
03/29/2013 18:09
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
OP, that was a good idea to take photos. Glad you resolved the situation. Wish you better luck next time!
Anonymous
03/29/2013 09:13
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Thanks for the follow up. I'm sorry you had to let her go but it was the right thing to do OP. Stealing is never okay!
Anonymous
03/29/2013 07:10
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:OP here - Just thought I would update you all on the dramatic turn of events.
Wednesday I attempted to keep track of items in my head but when I got home it became very apparent that I couldn't. My cupboards are well stocked so
I decided to take dozens of photos on my digital camera in my bathroom and kitchen closet and cabinets. I also placed a certain amount of quarters in the change jar which we set up for my daughter once she gets older and heads off to college. My nanny knows this.I took a photo of the top just to be certain.
I did this at night prior to my nanny's arrival in the morning. My husband was well aware of my plan.
When I got home I checked the change jar and it's clear she had not taken any money because the photo matched the way it looked when I got home.
I also kept in mind that she could have possibly used items for cooking and what not but it's evident that she has been budgeting by 'shopping' at my home on my expense. I took many many photos and compared EVERYTHING. I was, and still am very hurt and heartbroken. She is very good at it and even took cans of vegetables that cost less than a dollar. I have dozens of cans and would have never noticed.
I was pretty confident at this point that she was stealing (or at the very least, having people over without permission although I never had any indication of her having someone over). She has probably been doing it since she started, that's how good she is at it.
I asked my husband to call her since he hires and fires people for a living and is much better at confrontation. He handled it very professional and told her that there is evidence to indicate that she has been stealing. She asked what evidence and then tried to deny stealing anything and he reminded her that she had been the only one in the house. She then got quiet again and hung up.
I have a headache, literally. Thankfully I have wonderful relatives who will fill in temporarily.
I'm glad you found out and fired her.
I know a nanny thief I wish I could out because her behavior is so abhorrent to me, but I can't for various reasons. She's also a compulsive and believable liar.
Anonymous
03/29/2013 05:10
Subject: Re:Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:Toilet paper is more tricky- I know a nanny who uses nearly a roll/day at home- I'm sure she would go through it fast at work too
Toothpaste is different. I don't think you have any good solutions to this problem.
I hate thieves. :/ it's not about what is taken or the value of it- it's about the loss of trust!!
The roll that was on the toilet-holder was still over half way full. I would assume nanny would have finished it off before resorting to another roll.
Anonymous
03/29/2013 05:03
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
Anonymous wrote:I would just say:
Hey, I went to grab a bunch of stuff from my BJ's stash and noticed a few things missing. I know its hard for you to get out and shop, so if there is anything you need me to pick up for you, please just let me know.
(then decide by her reaction if she stole it and what you want to do)
I don't mind someone taking a roll of TP but I'd like to know so I can replace it. I have done it to my mom a few times but I tell her or she brings it to me. I wouldn't mind toothpaste and other stuff too as long as I was told so I can replace it. And, personal stuff to use in the house, is fine. I would not want to be called over a tampon or pad. Just take it but tell me if its getting low so can replace it.
OP here - Very good suggestion. I already handled the situation but if I hadn't I definitely would have used your suggestion!
Anonymous
03/29/2013 03:56
Subject: Nanny and stealing low cost items
OP here - Just thought I would update you all on the dramatic turn of events.
Wednesday I attempted to keep track of items in my head but when I got home it became very apparent that I couldn't. My cupboards are well stocked so
I decided to take dozens of photos on my digital camera in my bathroom and kitchen closet and cabinets. I also placed a certain amount of quarters in the change jar which we set up for my daughter once she gets older and heads off to college. My nanny knows this.I took a photo of the top just to be certain.
I did this at night prior to my nanny's arrival in the morning. My husband was well aware of my plan.
When I got home I checked the change jar and it's clear she had not taken any money because the photo matched the way it looked when I got home.
I also kept in mind that she could have possibly used items for cooking and what not but it's evident that she has been budgeting by 'shopping' at my home on my expense. I took many many photos and compared EVERYTHING. I was, and still am very hurt and heartbroken. She is very good at it and even took cans of vegetables that cost less than a dollar. I have dozens of cans and would have never noticed.
I was pretty confident at this point that she was stealing (or at the very least, having people over without permission although I never had any indication of her having someone over). She has probably been doing it since she started, that's how good she is at it.
I asked my husband to call her since he hires and fires people for a living and is much better at confrontation. He handled it very professional and told her that there is evidence to indicate that she has been stealing. She asked what evidence and then tried to deny stealing anything and he reminded her that she had been the only one in the house. She then got quiet again and hung up.
I have a headache, literally. Thankfully I have wonderful relatives who will fill in temporarily.
Wednesday I attempted to keep track of items in my head but when I got home it became very apparent that I couldn't. My cupboards are well stocked so
I decided to take dozens of photos on my digital camera in my bathroom and kitchen closet and cabinets. I also placed a certain amount of quarters in the change jar which we set up for my daughter once she gets older and heads off to college. My nanny knows this.I took a photo of the top just to be certain.
I did this at night prior to my nanny's arrival in the morning. My husband was well aware of my plan.
When I got home I checked the change jar and it's clear she had not taken any money because the photo matched the way it looked when I got home.
I also kept in mind that she could have possibly used items for cooking and what not but it's evident that she has been budgeting by 'shopping' at my home on my expense. I took many many photos and compared EVERYTHING. I was, and still am very hurt and heartbroken. She is very good at it and even took cans of vegetables that cost less than a dollar. I have dozens of cans and would have never noticed.
I was pretty confident at this point that she was stealing (or at the very least, having people over without permission although I never had any indication of her having someone over). She has probably been doing it since she started, that's how good she is at it.
I asked my husband to call her since he hires and fires people for a living and is much better at confrontation. He handled it very professional and told her that there is evidence to indicate that she has been stealing. She asked what evidence and then tried to deny stealing anything and he reminded her that she had been the only one in the house. She then got quiet again and hung up.
I have a headache, literally. Thankfully I have wonderful relatives who will fill in temporarily.