Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

Parents?

I agree that it's silly to resurrect such an old thread, but I will say (as an MB) that to put this kind of language in a contract binds me unnecessarily. It is something a prospective nanny could negotiate for (and I wouldn't consider it unreasonable) but it isn't something I would automatically insert. If a valued nanny gave me lots of notice that he/she would be leaving I would need to immediately start preparing. Does that mean I would let her go sooner than she wanted, or without payment? No, that's not how I work. But if I knew I had to replace her you can bet I'd start working on that pretty quickly.

If I had three months notice I'd start looking/planning at least by month 2 and hope to have someone lined up before our nanny's last day. If the new nanny couldn't wait to take a job for that long then I might have to make a difficult decision and it would end up being a judgement/conscience call - just as it is for nannies in deciding when and how to give notice.

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

Parents?

I thought it was a new one since it was moved to the top

Anonymous wrote:^ why are you bringing up posts that are a year old?

why are you reading posts that are a year old?

^ why are you bringing up posts that are a year old?

Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

Anonymous wrote:

The parents that take offense at a nanny leaving can be easy to spot. Ask about their previous nannies or be quiet while they tell you about why they left. If they take the departure personally, it is usually obvious.

Statements like "I thought she was committed to us" or "She agreed to give us a year, but got pregnant" should be red flags. If they seem to feel betrayed, run.

I agree with this. It goes both ways too. Whether you are a MB or a nanny you really need to get the other person engaged in conversation and then watch their body language, what they say and how they say it.

Lots of great advise here, nannies.

The parents that take offense at a nanny leaving can be easy to spot. Ask about their previous nannies or be quiet while they tell you about why they left. If they take the departure personally, it is usually obvious.

Statements like "I thought she was committed to us" or "She agreed to give us a year, but got pregnant" should be red flags. If they seem to feel betrayed, run.

I agree with this. It goes both ways too. Whether you are a MB or a nanny you really need to get the other person engaged in conversation and then watch their body language, what they say and how they say it.

10:40 is making fun at nanny abuse. She's nothing but an evil bitch.

Oh that's SOOO great. Thank you. Where's that book? It'd be great!

Anonymous wrote:Another nanny....
Forced by the parents, to come into work sick, only to vomit all morning, while caring for a 4 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a 9 mos old baby.
Both "parents" had more important things to do at the office.

I was forced to care for children once. I was walking in a park minding my own business, when a white van pull up beside me. To thugs with business suits and ski masks bludgeoned me and put a pillowcase over my head.
I woke up with a headache in a room with a toddler a runny nose. There was a note on the door: sorry about the kidnapping but we really needed a sitter for today. Our normal nanny refuses to care for dearest Veronica when she has the runs.
After caring for the child for 10 hours the same two people in suits knocked me out and I woke up in Starbucks with a 150 in my pocket.

Excellent advice here. Thank you, 6:10.

The parents that take offense at a nanny leaving can be easy to spot. Ask about their previous nannies or be quiet while they tell you about why they left. If they take the departure personally, it is usually obvious.

Statements like "I thought she was committed to us" or "She agreed to give us a year, but got pregnant" should be red flags. If they seem to feel betrayed, run.

Another nanny....
Forced by the parents, to come into work sick, only to vomit all morning, while caring for a 4 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a 9 mos old baby.
Both "parents" had more important things to do at the office.

It's good that you get paid in advance. I do to, for obvious reasons. Not too many nannies are that smart. Talk to a couple of lawyers who will give you a free 20 or 30 minutes. The family is crazy. You never know what nonsense they might try to pull.