Op it wasn’t the not napping that made your nanny quit. It was you. You sound awful. Send your kids to daycare.

Anonymous wrote:Twin boys 20 months old. Nanny has been with us since my boys were nine months old and she said, she’s unable to care for them without a break. Is this normal?

Nanny here-
She needs a break!!!!
Every nanny takes breaks.If they don't sleep they should have quiet time.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

Both twins dropped morning and daytime nap at 11 months old. I can’t force them to nap period. Bedtime is 7pm to 8am every day except Sunday. Our nanny is older, a previous preschool teacher, and the boys loved her. I feel bad that she was unable to continue caring for them.

I need to hire a new nanny asap. Do I lie and not mention, the boys don’t take naps or just be 100% honest?

OP, as everyone else is saying, it is highly unusual for toddlers to drop the nap so early. It may have seemed as though the children were dropping the nap, but sometimes it’s just a phase fighting sleep and you need to power through/get creative to support getting them to sleep. You can’t just expect that every child will fall asleep easily and if they don’t, that they aren’t tired. I was a SAHM to twins and my kids were terrible nappers. But supervising twins that age is incredibly physical and taxing. I needed to rest during their never long enough nap time. I couldn’t do laundry or cook or anything. You can’t take your eyes off of them when they are awake, and the physical aspects of lifting, sitting on the floor, pushing the double stroller, etc etc are very demanding. I was 30 years old, so I can only imagine how taxing it would be on an older nanny. I would make a concerted effort to reinstate the nap not only for the caregiver but for the children and their brain development.

Sleep train them ASAP! Most likely they are a total mess after about 2 pm.

I suspect at least one parent works at home, so nanny couldn’t make the toddlers nap.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

Both twins dropped morning and daytime nap at 11 months old. I can’t force them to nap period. Bedtime is 7pm to 8am every day except Sunday. Our nanny is older, a previous preschool teacher, and the boys loved her. I feel bad that she was unable to continue caring for them.

I need to hire a new nanny asap. Do I lie and not mention, the boys don’t take naps or just be 100% honest?

I would be really concerned about the no-napping situation, more so than the nanny situation. This doesn’t sound healthy.

And I’m guessing their behavior in the afternoon/early evening after being awake for so long is not great, which is another factor in driving your nanny to quit.

You should absolutely tell any prospectives about the nap situation.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

Both twins dropped morning and daytime nap at 11 months old. I can’t force them to nap period. Bedtime is 7pm to 8am every day except Sunday. Our nanny is older, a previous preschool teacher, and the boys loved her. I feel bad that she was unable to continue caring for them.

I need to hire a new nanny asap. Do I lie and not mention, the boys don’t take naps or just be 100% honest?

Your nanny is a saint to have worked for you. No naps since 11 months old? Girl bye. You’re lucky she stayed that long!

you're saying they quit all naps at 11mths? thats incredibly unusual. i suspect your nanny quit out of a belief this is really unhealthy for your babies, and not just because of lack of break. if i was with a family where the babies dropped their nap so young, and the family didnt try and find a solution to the sleep issues, i would be concerned for the babies

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Anonymous wrote:Twin boys 20 months old. Nanny has been with us since my boys were nine months old and she said, she’s unable to care for them without a break. Is this normal?

The nanny quitting when work is tough is not surprising. Remember these are low skill jobs. As professionals we simply can’t quit when it’s tough and find another job, where as I’m not surprised your nanny quit. The mentality is different now than it used to be for hourly workers. Just need more immigration to fill those labor pools with hard workers

Wow you’re disgusting!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twin boys 20 months old. Nanny has been with us since my boys were nine months old and she said, she’s unable to care for them without a break. Is this normal?

The nanny quitting when work is tough is not surprising. Remember these are low skill jobs. As professionals we simply can’t quit when it’s tough and find another job, where as I’m not surprised your nanny quit. The mentality is different now than it used to be for hourly workers. Just need more immigration to fill those labor pools with hard workers

Really? Immigrants and low skills equal low pay and hard worker. Plus don’t forget $15 and paying them cash to avoid paying taxes. Shame on you!

Anonymous wrote:Twin boys 20 months old. Nanny has been with us since my boys were nine months old and she said, she’s unable to care for them without a break. Is this normal?

The nanny quitting when work is tough is not surprising. Remember these are low skill jobs. As professionals we simply can’t quit when it’s tough and find another job, where as I’m not surprised your nanny quit. The mentality is different now than it used to be for hourly workers. Just need more immigration to fill those labor pools with hard workers

Anonymous wrote:My answer may differ based on the hours your Nanny is working.

For five hours or less of a shift, I wouldn’t think a nap break would be so vital however if your Nanny is working full-time hours then I can see her point.

Reason being is that caring for two children that age is very hard work.

And that if working a long workday w/out any form of a break > it could be very tiring for your Nanny to not get any downtime.

To be on the go for such a long day can definitely tire most Nannies.

Most kids would be napping at that age for sure, but let's face it, the nannies here only care about the nanny's "break." Maybe you can find a way to give her a lunch hour if she is so exhausted and you really like her.

Above.. I meant 11 hours straight. The point is the same though.

Being awake for 12 hours straight is not normal for an 11mo let alone a 20mo. What do they do all day? If they’re outside running around or engaged in stimulating activities they should be ready to fall asleep after lunch.

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Anonymous wrote:In Maryland is the law every child in centers and family childcares nap at least for 2 hours daily

no it’s not. Daycares like to say it is, but there is no law requirement.

It is a licensing requirement. https://earlychildhood.marylandpublicschools.org/system/files/filedepot/3/13a.15.09_program_requirements_final.pdf

if you read your own link it says “ there is no specific requirement” regarding nap time. It posts a guideline based on age. Not a law or a requirement.