Anonymous wrote:My house is quite cool, and I would not want my toddler to sit in just a diaper for half hour unless it is summer time. Your nanny sounds mean, OP. Since you are afraid of asking her why, your post sounds weird too.

You can buy a space heater.

I used to strip my kids down to their diapers for mealtimes. Especially if it's naptime after lunch because who wants to go through changing clothes and cleaning up with tired toddlers.

I'm not sure what there is to fix really but if it's a deal breaker for you, let her know that. Many of us wouldnt think twice about this and I'm sure she'll be shocked that you do.

I used to put one of my old r shirts over my baby’s clothes. It was easy to remove it after a meal. However, I was feeding the baby myself and there was never any mess.

I really don't understand what the issue is with the baby eating in her diaper. She's a baby. She's messy. She's yanking and pulling on her bib. Nanny handled it--who cares?! Why are you so fixated on this. Did you complain about stained or dirty clothes at any point?

If your baby is hungry she'll eat. 20 min is a wildly inappropriate amount of time for a kid to sit still and eat. 5-10 min tops is all anyone should be expecting. Like I said, if she's hungry, she'll eat. If she's not eating, she's not hungry; try again later or after nap. Kids go through growth spurts--sometimes they're bottomless unfillable hunger pits, and other times they'll eat three bites all day. Trust your daughter to feed when she's hungry and stop trying to force it--that creates obesity and eating disorders.

Lastly--for the love of god, stay out of the kitchen during lunch or just give the nanny a break and take over lunch time altogether.

Good luck--to all of you.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see the problem but to each their own.

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If my employer made a big deal out of this I’d be out so fast.

When I feed toddlers/infants messy meals I will often put them in their diaper. Alternative is nasty, clothes.

Just ask, obviously the nanny doesn’t know you feel strongly about it.

There are going to be far more uncomfortable things you will have to ask your nanny to do/not do, so might as well get started with this one. Don’t worry if your nanny doesn’t agree with your preference. For sure, there are soooo many things about the way you parent that she probably disagrees with and never says anything, which is how parenting goes for everyone.

Anonymous wrote:You could fire her if you don’t like how she does things. Then you can hire someone else who does several things wrong you don’t like.

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Or you can send to child to daycare as you sound too difficult to communicate, also overly sensitive!

Anonymous wrote:My bosses work from home and they wait till the 19 month old is being put down for a nap, by myself. Before going into the kitchen to get lunch. Then going back to their office to eat it. It provides much less interruptions and tantrums from Mr 19 month old and Mr 4 year old.
Also my sister would have her toddler just eat in a diaper as he was a messy eater. I have known other parents who do this as well.

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Exactly what employer and I agreed on: don’t show up while I’m in charge especially during meal time and naps!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Do u work at home? Why don’t you say “ what happened to Larlas clothes?” When you see it happen? This almost falls under micro managing so be careful. An 18mo s be able to sit and eat for 15-20 mins.

OP here,

My office is in the basement. I try to take my lunch break with my daughter and so far it’s has been very dramatic. I don’t interfere with nanny rules and try my best not to be in the way. Kitchen is big enough for all of us but my husband has advised me to eat my lunch in my office. I have for the past three weeks and my baby is still in diaper during lunch. I believe our nanny has different views how to feed a toddler and we clashed on a few things so far.

Nanny here- the fact that you’re taking lunch along with daughter is a big issue and interferes with nanny’s schedules. A kid would act up or behave overly tired(even if is not tired) when parent around. The 3 families I worked for in the past we set our boundaries and even they said that being around the children while eating lunch or while I try to change diaper becomes way too overwhelmed so we scheduled our lunches time to avoid the commotion. Works amazingly well. We have a great communication, though.

Also, when I serve pasta with sauce or meatloaf I have been encouraged to take off kids clothes b/c stains won’t come out. So this shouldn’t be an issue if you and caregiver have open communication.

I had a dad lose it because I removed a child’s shirt for meal time. Skin is much easier to clean, and they’re not distracted but the bib constantly. Why does it bother you?

Dont eat with your daughter. Move lunch sooner. Give it 10 min tops. Have a week of easy and less messy meals and keep clothes on. At that age my kids didnt want bibs and wanted to feed themselves. I personally hate mess but also hate eating naked. So we just didn't do yogurt or red sauce. At 18 month my oldest was content to be spoon fed and eat other things with her hands. Youngest refused being spoon fed, so we started giving her the spoon and fork and in 2 months she managed herself just fine. Every kid is different.

Anonymous wrote:My house is quite cool, and I would not want my toddler to sit in just a diaper for half hour unless it is summer time. Your nanny sounds mean, OP. Since you are afraid of asking her why, your post sounds weird too.

You can always put the heater on to warm up the house. You sound mean.