Anonymous
10/17/2021 13:51
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
I got lucky as my AP's friends like hanging out with her (and without her!) in our little house with no privacy. They like our little laid-back family (mom, dad, 1 kid) with no stress or tension. Someone is always around if I need to run out for milk. Chocolate bars all 'round. Works every time.
Many times, the AP or AP friend says "I'll come along and help with little Sallie since I need to pick up a few things anyway."
Really, what kind of unfriendly weirdos are you bringing into your homes, folks?
Many times, the AP or AP friend says "I'll come along and help with little Sallie since I need to pick up a few things anyway."
Really, what kind of unfriendly weirdos are you bringing into your homes, folks?
Anonymous
10/10/2021 14:22
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:Am I crazy to think the AP is being a huge pain in the ass about a non-issue? The host mom is presumably buying food that the AP will be eating all week (and like most host families, probably buys certain special items just for the AP). The kid is self-contained for a short period of time. She didn't have to supervise a project or bath time or any kind of active work. If my AP threw a fit about this, I think it would put us in a spiral where I'd become resentful of buying food and cooking for her. It's not like the mom went out for a massage.
Nope, it is a bit much. However, it's still against the rules. AP and her friend need to find a bigger cause/hill to die on
Anonymous
10/01/2021 18:32
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Am I crazy to think the AP is being a huge pain in the ass about a non-issue? The host mom is presumably buying food that the AP will be eating all week (and like most host families, probably buys certain special items just for the AP). The kid is self-contained for a short period of time. She didn't have to supervise a project or bath time or any kind of active work. If my AP threw a fit about this, I think it would put us in a spiral where I'd become resentful of buying food and cooking for her. It's not like the mom went out for a massage.
Anonymous
08/10/2021 10:49
Subject: Re:Watching the kids...part of the family?
Host mom here..
Her off time is for her to do as she pleases, and unless she explicit offers to watch my kids I do not assume she is willing or able. Even when she offers, I let her know that I am here to take them whenever and she doesn't need to feel obligated to hang out with them in her time off. I think that is a healthy balance to have since her work is with the kids all the time so she should not be doing the same during her off time.
Her off time is for her to do as she pleases, and unless she explicit offers to watch my kids I do not assume she is willing or able. Even when she offers, I let her know that I am here to take them whenever and she doesn't need to feel obligated to hang out with them in her time off. I think that is a healthy balance to have since her work is with the kids all the time so she should not be doing the same during her off time.
Anonymous
08/06/2021 20:45
Subject: Re:Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:I try not to do that with au pair but the fact these girls are so worked up is a red flag.
Ummm. They are women.
Anonymous
08/06/2021 16:41
Subject: Re:Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:I try not to do that with au pair but the fact these girls are so worked up is a red flag.
I wish these girls would come and actually fight for a worthy cause...but nope. they turn out to be just as self-centered as HFs.
Anonymous
08/06/2021 11:02
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Why is something that’s happening in someone else’s home an issue for you or your auspair?! Mind your own business and keep it moving
Anonymous
08/06/2021 09:49
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:INSTACART
Instacart is a lot more money.
Instacart doesn’t provide a break or a glass of wine
Anonymous
07/07/2021 20:31
Subject: Re:Watching the kids...part of the family?
I try not to do that with au pair but the fact these girls are so worked up is a red flag.
Anonymous
07/02/2021 22:53
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say that it's the biggest offense either, but personally I think it's still a violation. The family better be very giving and generous.
+1
Anonymous
06/08/2021 10:52
Subject: Watching the kids...part of the family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let her report and then send her home on the first flight when she does.
Aww, your baseless, wannabe power tripping is precious.
Childcare is still at a premium this summer. Her agency will have her rematched in no time. Good luck raising your own kids!
MOre and more HFs are becoming less tolerant of brats. 2020 is over. Agencies are in for a rude awakening