Anonymous
07/25/2019 12:35
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Anonymous wrote:So again, OP's ex needs to tell her this. Not sure why he seems incapable of that. It's the least this woman deserves.
Mom is insisting on keeping the babysitter and Dad is clear he doesn't need her often. This is an issue between mom and nanny and if mom wants to keep her full time she should pay her.
Anonymous
07/25/2019 02:32
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
So again, OP's ex needs to tell her this. Not sure why he seems incapable of that. It's the least this woman deserves.
Anonymous
07/24/2019 18:10
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put it in the divorce agreement..nanny X number of hours a week to be paid jointly unless both parities otherwise agree. I have something along those lines so my ex pays whether he uses the nanny or not.
That is absurd if he doesn't need child care.
But he does, he’s just being flaky and canceling *some* of the time.
He needs it some days, not others. He can use the after school care at school for those days. He should not be required to use it daily if he doesn't need it. Caretaker needs a new job.
Anonymous
07/24/2019 10:14
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put it in the divorce agreement..nanny X number of hours a week to be paid jointly unless both parities otherwise agree. I have something along those lines so my ex pays whether he uses the nanny or not.
That is absurd if he doesn't need child care.
But he does, he’s just being flaky and canceling *some* of the time.
Anonymous
07/23/2019 19:34
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Some of you are missing the point.
It's not about whether Op's ex does or does not need a nanny. What it is about is he is leaving the poor woman hanging and not telling her straight up what the situation is. I don't know why the big issue of 'Well, he doesn't need her. He is doing nothing wrong.' is all about
He needs to use his words as another poster says. It isn't hard. It's basic respect.
Its clear this is no longer a stable job so she needs to find another one or if mom wants to keep her, she needs to pay for those hours to reserve her. Families child care arrangements change as kids get older. It really doesn't make sense to keep a nanny at age 8 vs. pay for after school care.
Anonymous
07/23/2019 17:23
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Some of you are missing the point.
It's not about whether Op's ex does or does not need a nanny. What it is about is he is leaving the poor woman hanging and not telling her straight up what the situation is. I don't know why the big issue of 'Well, he doesn't need her. He is doing nothing wrong.' is all about
He needs to use his words as another poster says. It isn't hard. It's basic respect.
It's not about whether Op's ex does or does not need a nanny. What it is about is he is leaving the poor woman hanging and not telling her straight up what the situation is. I don't know why the big issue of 'Well, he doesn't need her. He is doing nothing wrong.' is all about
He needs to use his words as another poster says. It isn't hard. It's basic respect.
Anonymous
07/23/2019 17:01
Subject: Soon to be ex causing problems with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Put it in the divorce agreement..nanny X number of hours a week to be paid jointly unless both parities otherwise agree. I have something along those lines so my ex pays whether he uses the nanny or not.
That is absurd if he doesn't need child care.