Anonymous wrote:

My response went something like this:

"Well...you're onto something Sherlock. I am, in fact, NOT LISTENING TO YOU. Why? Because you talk too damn much. And I have been telling you that on regular intervals for several years. I'm not sure why on this day, you feel differently. To the extent that you're not communicating an emergency or information that I need to know, bet on me giving zero Fs."

Anonymous wrote:Not quite. A housemate pays a share of the bills. In contrast, a nanny gets paid to make employers' lives easier. Here it sounds like the poster's nanny is beginning to make life more difficult. If I were the employer, I would be looking around for a new nanny. And if I was that nanny, I'd be lining up my next gig.

Anonymous wrote:
NopE. Totally fair. You're the employer.

I'm actually dealing with a similar issue, except ours is a live-in. So there's no escaping. She drives us nuts because she talks too much. Ditto on know-it-all syndrome and adding two, three, and twenty-fine cents unnecessarily.

We have a loquacious nanny. She's great in most other ways, but the talking is seriously out of hand. Think: wind up doll that talks and talks and talks.

Don't get me wrong, I fully recognize how fortunate and blessed we are as a family to afford this set up. But last week I chewed out the nanny for the 50-11th time for talking too much. This came about because she said she felt unappreciated because I don't listen to her.

My response went something like this:

"Well...you're onto something Sherlock. I am, in fact, NOT LISTENING TO YOU. Why? Because you talk too damn much. And I have been telling you that on regular intervals for several years. I'm not sure why on this day, you feel differently. To the extent that you're not communicating an emergency or information that I need to know, bet on me giving zero Fs."

Granted I often remind her bout the talking, like in the first 30 and 90-days that she was hired. This is now 3 years ago. I just tell her directly. Someotimes more politely than others. But on this occasion, I addressed her in a rare way by underlining the employment-only relationship that we have. So, no, I am not going to listen to tales and stories that should be reserved for your friends.

And hers the rub, we provide a nice package, stability and lifestyle. There are plenty of employers who may want a conversation partner. It's just not us. If she leaves, we will figure out how to survive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you’re an a**hole, neurotic and obviously insecure that your nanny is educated. You also seem resentful that she is more than what your idea of a nanny actually should be. You are small minded and honestly shouldn’t be employing anyone educated. You need a nanny that you can feel superior too. Let her go and find someone you can mesh better with.

Hi OP's nanny!!

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you’re an a**hole, neurotic and obviously insecure that your nanny is educated. You also seem resentful that she is more than what your idea of a nanny actually should be. You are small minded and honestly shouldn’t be employing anyone educated. You need a nanny that you can feel superior too. Let her go and find someone you can mesh better with.