Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

March 2017. My au pair was here 2 months. Thought everything was going well. No indication of an issue. Felt she was part of the family, etc.

I came home from a 2 week business trip overseas. The day I came home she said she wanted to rematch. Shocked me to the core.

Was she uncomfortable being there with your husband? Did he expect her to do more work, which to longer hours, or something else that made her uncomfortable? That would be my concern!

The same thought crossed my mind.

We were blindsided by our first ap requesting rematch. We truly treated her like family, but her emotional needs were really strong and beyond what we could provide. For her vacation time she spent a week with a family from her home country and it made her really homesick. So she requested a rematch 6 months in, when we thought we'd worked out all the adjustments and things were going well. The way she handled it really belies a lack of maturity, even though she's on the older side.

It is really unsettling when that happens and your mind goes into overdrive trying to figure out where you missed the signs and how to avoid it in the future. At the end of the day, you can only do your best and hope for the best.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

But there is a wide range of reasonable COVID behavior. Our AP could 100% follow the law and still make us uncomfortable (e.g., taking the metro or eating in restaurants indoors). It doesn’t mean that a family fine with those activities is doing something wrong. Lots of people are doing those activities.

Reasonable determined by whom? Not by most scientists. Policy-makers, businesses, and entitled families, sure.

I can see you think your view of the world is the only correct one. There actually is not widespread agreement, even in the scientific community, on these issues. For a healthy 19 year old with no risk factors serving a family with no risk factors or perhaps where the parents are already vaccinated because they are front line responders, the decision to allow a 19 to comply with local guidelines but go no further is completely reasonable.

I can see that you really are only thinking myopically and not about the health of the community. But, whatever lets you sleep at night.

Now poster, but this sentence about you nailed it. Your virtue signal is strong.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

But there is a wide range of reasonable COVID behavior. Our AP could 100% follow the law and still make us uncomfortable (e.g., taking the metro or eating in restaurants indoors). It doesn’t mean that a family fine with those activities is doing something wrong. Lots of people are doing those activities.

Reasonable determined by whom? Not by most scientists. Policy-makers, businesses, and entitled families, sure.

I can see you think your view of the world is the only correct one. There actually is not widespread agreement, even in the scientific community, on these issues. For a healthy 19 year old with no risk factors serving a family with no risk factors or perhaps where the parents are already vaccinated because they are front line responders, the decision to allow a 19 to comply with local guidelines but go no further is completely reasonable.

I can see that you really are only thinking myopically and not about the health of the community. But, whatever lets you sleep at night.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

But there is a wide range of reasonable COVID behavior. Our AP could 100% follow the law and still make us uncomfortable (e.g., taking the metro or eating in restaurants indoors). It doesn’t mean that a family fine with those activities is doing something wrong. Lots of people are doing those activities.

Reasonable determined by whom? Not by most scientists. Policy-makers, businesses, and entitled families, sure.

I can see you think your view of the world is the only correct one. There actually is not widespread agreement, even in the scientific community, on these issues. For a healthy 19 year old with no risk factors serving a family with no risk factors or perhaps where the parents are already vaccinated because they are front line responders, the decision to allow a 19 to comply with local guidelines but go no further is completely reasonable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

But there is a wide range of reasonable COVID behavior. Our AP could 100% follow the law and still make us uncomfortable (e.g., taking the metro or eating in restaurants indoors). It doesn’t mean that a family fine with those activities is doing something wrong. Lots of people are doing those activities.

Reasonable determined by whom? Not by most scientists. Policy-makers, businesses, and entitled families, sure.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

But there is a wide range of reasonable COVID behavior. Our AP could 100% follow the law and still make us uncomfortable (e.g., taking the metro or eating in restaurants indoors). It doesn’t mean that a family fine with those activities is doing something wrong. Lots of people are doing those activities.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.

I have plenty of $$ to compensate, and I do. Plenty of families are also rematching because au pairs are bringing covid home. They shouldn't be au pairs. Period.

Yes, PP, you have made your position known.

But the bare reality is that if you when young kids and a full schedule; you have to compensate. If you can’t take the risk for whatever reason, that is understandable, but eyes wide open. You can’t change the fact that MANY families
Are loosen their rules. If you can’t, peace.

But let me give you my opinion. You shouldn’t have an AP. Period.