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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

No. She didn't HELP. She WORKED. And she got paid for that work. If she'd been "helping when OP needed" it would have been free. This is her JOB, not a FAVOR.

+1. Nanny here. I agree that many nannies on this site are divas and expect the world to be handed to them. OP did nothing wrong. You enter a work agreement with a family, but life happens, and sometimes things change. When I had a amazing position end only 7 months into what both parties anticipated to be a longterm agreement, they gave me 6 weeks notice. I didn’t expect anything from them, but they did offer me 2 weeks extra pay if I started with them until they moved. If possible OP, I would give notice and hen offer her a little something for starting with you until she is no longer needed. While you don’t have to, many nannies will up and leave prematurely, and I feel it’s nice to reward loyalty. I know your family and many others would be left in a lerch if your nanny left you early and without childcare.

Parent here. You nailed it with loyalty. We provided 8 weeks notice and bonus.

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Anonymous wrote:Then dont expect special treatment from daycare.

Who doesn't? People who employ nannies? That's why they have a nanny...

You missed the point. PP is saying don’t expect special treatment from daycare implying that you get special treatment with a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Then dont expect special treatment from daycare.

Who doesn't? People who employ nannies? That's why they have a nanny...

Then dont expect special treatment from daycare.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I only work for wealthy families. I've been with my job for 10 years and the kids are all in school. Three kids need lots of driving and organizing. While they're at schooo I'm at home on call. Don't do any house management, guaranteed 40hrs but I work 25ish. Both parents work and need coverage for sick day and school days. I've never called in sick and babysit weekends if they ever need me.

+1. The typical middle class family is always looking for institutional and cheaper care. Not for me either.

This is why I only work for wealthy families. I've been with my job for 10 years and the kids are all in school. Three kids need lots of driving and organizing. While they're at schooo I'm at home on call. Don't do any house management, guaranteed 40hrs but I work 25ish. Both parents work and need coverage for sick day and school days. I've never called in sick and babysit weekends if they ever need me.

Anonymous wrote:Good lord who on earth needs a nanny for a middle schooler? I was babysitting as a middle schooler, not being baby sat!

Why do nannies feel so self entitled that parents aren’t allowed to change their care decisions? Kids grow up and need more social interaction - not just a nanny!

OP - you are fine!! Plenty of notice, more than most people get in a job!

I’m a nanny. My day is 8+ hours during the school year, from preschool pick up until a parent gets home. They can do any activity they want after school, as long as it doesn’t conflict with pick up or drop off for sibling’s activity that was scheduled previously. One of my charges had at least one activity per day, the other two had an average of one activity every two days. They aren’t limited by a parent’s work schedule or the schedule for aftercare.

And summers? Anywhere from 10-13 hours per day. My charges have gone to any museum that interested them, 5 different water parks, zillions of different parks, science lab, etc. They’ve had play dates with school friends, neighbors and new friends we met at the park. We’ve done crafts, science experiments, all three tiers of the library summer reading program in under a month, summer workbooks. Oh, and they’ve also gone on vacation. Total cost for having me all summer was less than camp for theee kids and before/aftercare.

Previously, I had a family with teens down to toddlers. The parent was more concerned about oversight on the middle and high school kids, due to poor choices in friends. The parent was also not capable of understanding most of the homework, let alone helping, while I can tutor core subjects and Spanish through high school level. When you factor in travel sports with games three hours away... Keeping a nanny until kids can drive themselves can be the best choice for some families.

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing here is on most posts nannies want to claim they are not housekeepers and do not do that kind of work. But the minute it comes down to someone moving their child to another care situation, all the nannies want to claim they should stay with the family to do household chores and only watch the DC after school or on holidays well into middle school. You all can't be serious.

OP - 5 weeks notice is plenty of time whether she knew you were waiting for alternate care or not. It is the parents choice when to switch care and is not up to the nanny.

Not true, PP. I took on House management not housework when my charge started preschool because I had the free time. Nothing more. I could not be more serious.

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Anonymous wrote:At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

No. She didn't HELP. She WORKED. And she got paid for that work. If she'd been "helping when OP needed" it would have been free. This is her JOB, not a FAVOR.

THIS. It is a job. And it has come to an end. You are being extremely generous by giving so much notice. Do not stress it OP!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

No. She didn't HELP. She WORKED. And she got paid for that work. If she'd been "helping when OP needed" it would have been free. This is her JOB, not a FAVOR.

+1. Nanny here. I agree that many nannies on this site are divas and expect the world to be handed to them. OP did nothing wrong. You enter a work agreement with a family, but life happens, and sometimes things change. When I had a amazing position end only 7 months into what both parties anticipated to be a longterm agreement, they gave me 6 weeks notice. I didn’t expect anything from them, but they did offer me 2 weeks extra pay if I started with them until they moved. If possible OP, I would give notice and hen offer her a little something for starting with you until she is no longer needed. While you don’t have to, many nannies will up and leave prematurely, and I feel it’s nice to reward loyalty. I know your family and many others would be left in a lerch if your nanny left you early and without childcare.

Anonymous wrote:At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

Are expectations so low that anyone who manages to give “proper” care deserves copious bonuses and special treatment?

Anonymous wrote:At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

No. She didn't HELP. She WORKED. And she got paid for that work. If she'd been "helping when OP needed" it would have been free. This is her JOB, not a FAVOR.

At least pay her a good bonus, she helped you when you needed and gave love and proper care to your child. Appreciate the nannies, caregivers.

The funny thing here is on most posts nannies want to claim they are not housekeepers and do not do that kind of work. But the minute it comes down to someone moving their child to another care situation, all the nannies want to claim they should stay with the family to do household chores and only watch the DC after school or on holidays well into middle school. You all can't be serious.

OP - 5 weeks notice is plenty of time whether she knew you were waiting for alternate care or not. It is the parents choice when to switch care and is not up to the nanny.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good lord who on earth needs a nanny for a middle schooler? I was babysitting as a middle schooler, not being baby sat!

Why do nannies feel so self entitled that parents aren’t allowed to change their care decisions? Kids grow up and need more social interaction - not just a nanny!

OP - you are fine!! Plenty of notice, more than most people get in a job!

+1000. What is wrong with these people, in corporate jobs you often get canned and are lucky to get one weeks severance or notice. Especially in contracting around here if the contract is cut etc. who would complain about a months notice?? And regarding wealthy families it totally depends on the family, if they decide they don’t need you they can let you go. The wealthy don’t get/stay wealthy by throwing money away usually.

True but wealthy families don’t generally send their two year old to daycare. You are generally guaranteed more than five years.