Anonymous
05/21/2018 07:31
Subject: Re:They want me to pick them up from the airport
I have been in similar positions more times than I can count.
In one family, I knew when I was hired that dB was single and on call anytime he was home, so with only one vehicle? I was constantly on call too. He received a call, both of us slept with doors cracked so I would wake up when he did. I let the teenager know I was running dad to work while he got the details, we both threw on clothes and left. It was frustrating being woken so often, but I knew it would be like that when I signed on for the job. And dB was amazing, never once called me from work to pick him up until 5 am, no matter what time he finished, that way I could sleep as much as possible.
Areas without Uber, most of the time I’ve driven, always asked (regardless of whether it was during my shift or not). Areas with Uber, sometimes I’ve been asked, sometimes not.
In one family, I knew when I was hired that dB was single and on call anytime he was home, so with only one vehicle? I was constantly on call too. He received a call, both of us slept with doors cracked so I would wake up when he did. I let the teenager know I was running dad to work while he got the details, we both threw on clothes and left. It was frustrating being woken so often, but I knew it would be like that when I signed on for the job. And dB was amazing, never once called me from work to pick him up until 5 am, no matter what time he finished, that way I could sleep as much as possible.
Areas without Uber, most of the time I’ve driven, always asked (regardless of whether it was during my shift or not). Areas with Uber, sometimes I’ve been asked, sometimes not.
Anonymous
05/21/2018 02:53
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
I am very serious and you have lost your mind. The problem is people like you tend to view nannies, maids, etc. as the help who should bend to your every whim. You think bc you pay for a service that person owes you everything. OP doesn’t owe her family anything beyond what is in her contract. It does not make you awesome or valuable bc it has nothing to do with your job. It makes you taken advantage of and now the expectation has been set that you will do whatever they demand. Some ppl really shouldn’t be employers. It is not your nannies job or responsibility to help you figure out a ride situation nor is it her concern what stressors you have. Just like it isn’t your concern what happens to your boss.
See...this is the difference between you and me. I AM concerned with what happens with my boss. I don't just get to my desk and say "nope, not my job. They are not paying me for that so I am not going to help." I try to be proactive, helpful, and flexible. It has served me well.
WELL, the difference between you and I is that they threw this on my “desk” without even asking if I was available or willing to do it. We discussed in detail what my job would entail and they never mentioned taking to airport. My issue with this is that they demanded and didn’t even ask. They just assumed I would do it. I can be flexible, but please ask don’t just tell. It’s like if I went up to them and said I’m taking tomorrow off, I’m not coming. They wouldn’t like that. My job entails child related tasks and they are good bosses, I just don’t know why they would assume telling me and not asking me. And p.s. all you nannies come on here and act like y’all the best and most flexible. Like y’all actually probably the worst and be bragging on here land hate on the nannies who have issues with their employers. Most of us, at one point or another have experienced issues so don’t be pretending like oh I’m so flexible look at me I’m better than you blah blah blah
Anonymous
05/20/2018 23:42
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
I am very serious and you have lost your mind. The problem is people like you tend to view nannies, maids, etc. as the help who should bend to your every whim. You think bc you pay for a service that person owes you everything. OP doesn’t owe her family anything beyond what is in her contract. It does not make you awesome or valuable bc it has nothing to do with your job. It makes you taken advantage of and now the expectation has been set that you will do whatever they demand. Some ppl really shouldn’t be employers. It is not your nannies job or responsibility to help you figure out a ride situation nor is it her concern what stressors you have. Just like it isn’t your concern what happens to your boss.
See...this is the difference between you and me. I AM concerned with what happens with my boss. I don't just get to my desk and say "nope, not my job. They are not paying me for that so I am not going to help." I try to be proactive, helpful, and flexible. It has served me well.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 14:05
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I wasn’t going to lecture them. I simply was going to say that next time they travel to consult me first to see if I’m available to pick them up especially if the time falls out my regular working hours.
That’s crazy talk! Why check with someone and ask them for a favor when you can just assume you control their life and demand it instead?!
Can you imagine, though? Imagine being so aggressively entitled that you’d just tell someone what they’re going to do for you. Before any smart-ass comments, “Well, that’s what bosses do,” no, this was clearly outside the scope of her normal responsibilities and even her normal working hours.
Seriously, though, imagine calling someone up that you know, or even someone that works for you, and just saying, “I have a vacation coming up and you’re driving me to and from the airport.”
That’s so obnoxious.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 13:47
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
NP here. It sounds then like this is out of the norm for their behavior? And that you generally like them and are happy with this job? In that case I would be careful how you respond and not start lecturing them on how they should have spoken to you. You run a risk by doing that and you need to consider if it's a risk you want to take. That said, you don't need to pick them up, but if that is your preference I agree with offering to drive the car to the airport earlier in the day and leaving it there, and letting them know you are unavailable in the evening.
Op here. I wasn’t going to lecture them. I simply was going to say that next time they travel to consult me first to see if I’m available to pick them up especially if the time falls out my regular working hours.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 13:27
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
NP here. It sounds then like this is out of the norm for their behavior? And that you generally like them and are happy with this job? In that case I would be careful how you respond and not start lecturing them on how they should have spoken to you. You run a risk by doing that and you need to consider if it's a risk you want to take. That said, you don't need to pick them up, but if that is your preference I agree with offering to drive the car to the airport earlier in the day and leaving it there, and letting them know you are unavailable in the evening.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 12:13
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would normally say no,
but you are a student and they occasionally let you leave early.
So they are giving you flexibility, but you can't be flexible for them- that's how they will see it.
Also, they are paying you for a full week when I'm sure your "tasks" won't take up a full 40+ hours.
They will probably look for a new nanny.
I would pick them up.
They knew I was a student from the very start, I gave them a list of days I would need off. No where in my contract does it say I’m a chauffeur.
Boy oh boy. You will understand the parents once you have two kids and are in a position to be hiring a nanny. Be flexible and just go pick them up. If you start exercising your rights when they also give you flexibility, you are not understanding the power imbalance of the situation of employer and employee. Plus what kind of people hire nannies (they value convenience and saving time over spending additional $)
Disagree completely. OP, if they become upset or hostile I would look for a new job. If they knew your schedule ahead of time and were ok with it then it’s irrelevent to this situation. You being flexible would be staying late or coming in early if they asked. Telling you to drop them off and pick them up is something that a professional NF would not ask when they actually understand the employer/employee relationship.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 12:03
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would normally say no,
but you are a student and they occasionally let you leave early.
So they are giving you flexibility, but you can't be flexible for them- that's how they will see it.
Also, they are paying you for a full week when I'm sure your "tasks" won't take up a full 40+ hours.
They will probably look for a new nanny.
I would pick them up.
They knew I was a student from the very start, I gave them a list of days I would need off. No where in my contract does it say I’m a chauffeur.
Boy oh boy. You will understand the parents once you have two kids and are in a position to be hiring a nanny. Be flexible and just go pick them up. If you start exercising your rights when they also give you flexibility, you are not understanding the power imbalance of the situation of employer and employee. Plus what kind of people hire nannies (they value convenience and saving time over spending additional $)
They have been flexible to me but I have not taken advantage of them as I feel they are to me. I’m really tired of saying this but going to pick them up isn’t even the point...it’s the fact that they didn’t even ask me. And I’m not here for convenience. It’s their problem not mine to go to the airport. I’m not here to save them time or money. I’m here as a nanny to care for there children. And sure they’ve been flexible to me, and I have been in situations where they need me to come in earlier or stay late (as I have done it). But telling someone to do someone without consulting with them first, is not acceptable. it’s not about being flexible. It’s about having respect for your employee.
Anonymous
05/17/2018 11:34
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would normally say no,
but you are a student and they occasionally let you leave early.
So they are giving you flexibility, but you can't be flexible for them- that's how they will see it.
Also, they are paying you for a full week when I'm sure your "tasks" won't take up a full 40+ hours.
They will probably look for a new nanny.
I would pick them up.
They knew I was a student from the very start, I gave them a list of days I would need off. No where in my contract does it say I’m a chauffeur.
Boy oh boy. You will understand the parents once you have two kids and are in a position to be hiring a nanny. Be flexible and just go pick them up. If you start exercising your rights when they also give you flexibility, you are not understanding the power imbalance of the situation of employer and employee. Plus what kind of people hire nannies (they value convenience and saving time over spending additional $)
Anonymous
05/17/2018 10:52
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
I am new to this thread, but I kind of wonder if this was a miscommunication. I am guilty of sometimes telling my husband that I did something, when what really I *mean* is that I will do it tomorrow. So, maybe your DB thought your MB already discussed this with you and thought he was confirming plans?
But in reality, it was the first you heard of it, so it came off as demanding?
It was not a miscommunication, MB was there when he was telling me
Anonymous
05/17/2018 10:51
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
It was not a miscommunications. MB was in the same room hearing DB tell me
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
I am new to this thread, but I kind of wonder if this was a miscommunication. I am guilty of sometimes telling my husband that I did something, when what really I *mean* is that I will do it tomorrow. So, maybe your DB thought your MB already discussed this with you and thought he was confirming plans?
But in reality, it was the first you heard of it, so it came off as demanding?
Anonymous
05/17/2018 10:35
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
I am new to this thread, but I kind of wonder if this was a miscommunication. I am guilty of sometimes telling my husband that I did something, when what really I *mean* is that I will do it tomorrow. So, maybe your DB thought your MB already discussed this with you and thought he was confirming plans?
But in reality, it was the first you heard of it, so it came off as demanding?
Anonymous
05/17/2018 09:41
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
I am very serious and you have lost your mind. The problem is people like you tend to view nannies, maids, etc. as the help who should bend to your every whim. You think bc you pay for a service that person owes you everything. OP doesn’t owe her family anything beyond what is in her contract. It does not make you awesome or valuable bc it has nothing to do with your job. It makes you taken advantage of and now the expectation has been set that you will do whatever they demand. Some ppl really shouldn’t be employers. It is not your nannies job or responsibility to help you figure out a ride situation nor is it her concern what stressors you have. Just like it isn’t your concern what happens to your boss.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 22:56
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op said they ordered her. She's totally in the right here. You have to demand respect op. These people sound awful.
Honestly, they’re really not. I think they just assumed I should take them and maybe was the best option. They just could’ve handled things differently. When it comes up again, I’ll be sure to let them know next time they take a trip that should ASK me if I’m available for pick up drop off
Anonymous
05/16/2018 22:54
Subject: They want me to pick them up from the airport
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I know hire nannies because they want a household team and a little flexibility. They give you flexibility. They are even paying you for a week where your job will be really light and then you still have paid vacation. But you can’t be a little flexible? It’s one day of your life. Are you really going to suffer that much from going to bed late ONE night?
Are you serious?! A nanny isn’t your personal chauffeur. They provide care for CHILDREN. If you want someone who is a maid, Butler, chauffeur, nanny, household mananger, etc then you pay accordingly for that. No, I would not take my boss to the airport nor would they even ask. But the families I work with are professionals and do not blur lines.
Are YOU serious? Driving and picking up from the airport ONE TIME doesn't make you a chauffeur. It makes you an awesome, helpful, valuable employee who has critical thinking skills like - "hey - I recognize that getting to and from the airport with young kids is really stressful because of the car seat situation, and I'm going to go the extra mile to help them because I'm part of this village too."
Op here and I see your point but LIKE IVE STATED MANY TIMES IN THE REPLIES, I AM UPSET BECAUSE THEY ORDERED ME.