Not going to work. It is hard enough to nanny with mom in the house, let alone with the house being reduced to two offices. Also puts a lot of pressure on nanny to keep baby quiet to avoid impacting mom's work and baby may be able to smell mom next door. Also really hard for a nanny to be stuck in a room all day. What does she do while baby sleeps? No where to go and can't leave baby alone.

Also most offices aren't really equipped well for diaper changing, washing up after being spit up on etc. Babies can be smelly and messy. There would need to be a sink and bathroom in the office room as well.

For the first 3 months, sure. For the first 1-3 years, no way!

This arrangement will not work out, even if you find someone.

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Anonymous wrote:Never. It would be like working in a private daycare!

Why would you do that to your baby, OP? Do you really want to take your baby outside on these cold mornings and stick him/her in a room just so that you can nurse-on-demand? If you have the extra office, use it for pumping and milk storage and let your poor baby stay in his/her warm home with a great nanny.

+1 Plus instead of trapping them in an office, you can have the nanny do the baby's laundry and have the latitude to play and sing to the baby, who will still get the benefits of breast feeding. And if your job is demanding, you really need to be "present" while you are at work.

Except that the thread immediately above this one just told that mom (erroneously, imo) that it's too hard to do any chores while caring for a baby. This set up would meant that the nanny would do zero housekeeping.

Anonymous wrote:Never. It would be like working in a private daycare!

Why would you do that to your baby, OP? Do you really want to take your baby outside on these cold mornings and stick him/her in a room just so that you can nurse-on-demand? If you have the extra office, use it for pumping and milk storage and let your poor baby stay in his/her warm home with a great nanny.

+1 Plus instead of trapping them in an office, you can have the nanny do the baby's laundry and have the latitude to play and sing to the baby, who will still get the benefits of breast feeding. And if your job is demanding, you really need to be "present" while you are at work.

Never. It would be like working in a private daycare!

Why would you do that to your baby, OP? Do you really want to take your baby outside on these cold mornings and stick him/her in a room just so that you can nurse-on-demand? If you have the extra office, use it for pumping and milk storage and let your poor baby stay in his/her warm home with a great nanny.

Absolutely not. I will never take another job nannying in which the parents are present. Although your LO is so young, they will grow quickly and start to cry and fuss when they know you're there, grow to resent me for keeping them from you, and the pressure of having to be "on" for the entire shift because you and others are in earshot of an unavoidably fussy newborn (as all at times are) is unrealistic. Not to mention the space issue.

I would do this job if there was a park and library close by.

Why do you need a bottle warmer if your kid is going to elusively nurse?

I don't think this is about nursing for you. I don't think you want to fully leave your child in the care of something else. I get it, it's scary trusting your helpless infant to a stranger.

If you really have a job that is that demanding I think you will find it hard to be nursing whenever the baby want and still meet the demands of the job.

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Anonymous wrote:The baby will suffer, OP. You are dragging her/him out of your home on cold winter mornings and to live in your schedule and based on your needs. You will not find a good nanny.

If she couldn't afford a nanny, she'd be doing this for daycare.

OP, don't listen to the haters. Solve the problem of the nanny having to be so confined all day, especially during nap time, and you can make this work.

Nonsense. OP would not be nursing-on-demand in daycare nor tie her baby to the mother's demanding work schedule. The "haters" are actually a few nursing mothers and experienced nannies it seems.

This is truly a half-brained idea. OP is putting her desire to nurse on demand above her baby's well-being and development.

I'm the WAHM who did this. There was a professor at my college in undergrad who did more what the OP is describing. She can certainly make this work. Call it a "baby nurse" rather than a nanny if you like, and then maybe it makes more sense to you. This is a very young infant, and this is an excellent way to keep mom and baby together if mom truly can't take more time off. She does need to think through more space and variety in the day for the nurse/nanny, or she won't be able to keep anyone.

BTW, I am still a WAHM with a full time nanny. With the right match, it works beautifully, even if mom isn't hidden away so that the nanny can be completely in private. OP needs to take her time finding someone who thinks having mom around is a perk, and someone who also believes strongly in breastfeeding young infants. Maybe two part time people would work better to break up the day. I don't know, but I don't think that this is an impossible idea. If she can afford to rent a second office for a nursery, she can probably also figure out nearby places that would be acceptable for nanny and baby to go when baby isn't sleeping/eating, and maybe even a lounge where nanny could go with a monitor while baby is sleeping.

This is a totally different situation than confining nanny and baby to one ROOM in an office complex. How you can even compare these two situations is bizarre to me.

I had to return to work at 6 weeks postpartum, and I had to pump because my job was too demanding to allow me the extra time to breastfeed. Your baby will be fine. I have three adult sons who were fed this way, and they are quite healthy. This is certainly NOT something that I would even consider doing. When I was at work, I didn't want to have to worry about when my baby needed to be fed. I think it will negatively impact your job performance.

Truly nutsy idea - and very selfish on the mother's part. I hope the baby has no trouble nursing and the mother enjoys it after all this planning.

Good luck finding a half-way decent nanny - you will need it, OP. You will also learn that nursing on demand is not the most important thing in the first year of a newborn's life.

OP, the big thing is that this plan wouldn’t be workable for the majority of nursing dyads. Nursing on-demand means that you are available round-the-clock to drop what you are doing and nurse the baby. Will that truly be possible within your current job, or will you just be able to nurse more frequently? My guess is that this whole thing is really based on you wanting to be close to baby and be present regularly and to have a solid nursing relationship. My suggestion would be to let go of the expectation that you nurse on-demand and instead focus on having the beat nursing relationship that you can within the confines of your job, without making baby suffer.

For me that would mean that you change the job description some—have nanny there in the office beside you, but have the plan be that you check in at regular intervals for a 30-minute nursing session and then step out, but that you ALSO pump at least twice a day starting ASAP. Give nanny leeway to manage baby’s hunger—if baby is hungry and you aren’t due for an hour, baby can have some pumped milk, and you can still try to nurse when you go in. There will be some tough days, but baby will quickly get into the rhythm for the most part and should be on a very solid schedule by 5 or 6 months at the latest. And plan for nanny to take baby on daily outings starting around 6 months, and for nanny to take a mid-day break during one of your pumping sessions (e.g., when you take your lunch break for an hour, she gets 45 min to take a walk or pee uninterupted, or grab a coffee, etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:The baby will suffer, OP. You are dragging her/him out of your home on cold winter mornings and to live in your schedule and based on your needs. You will not find a good nanny.

If she couldn't afford a nanny, she'd be doing this for daycare.

OP, don't listen to the haters. Solve the problem of the nanny having to be so confined all day, especially during nap time, and you can make this work.

Nonsense. OP would not be nursing-on-demand in daycare nor tie her baby to the mother's demanding work schedule. The "haters" are actually a few nursing mothers and experienced nannies it seems.

This is truly a half-brained idea. OP is putting her desire to nurse on demand above her baby's well-being and development.

I'm the WAHM who did this. There was a professor at my college in undergrad who did more what the OP is describing. She can certainly make this work. Call it a "baby nurse" rather than a nanny if you like, and then maybe it makes more sense to you. This is a very young infant, and this is an excellent way to keep mom and baby together if mom truly can't take more time off. She does need to think through more space and variety in the day for the nurse/nanny, or she won't be able to keep anyone.

BTW, I am still a WAHM with a full time nanny. With the right match, it works beautifully, even if mom isn't hidden away so that the nanny can be completely in private. OP needs to take her time finding someone who thinks having mom around is a perk, and someone who also believes strongly in breastfeeding young infants. Maybe two part time people would work better to break up the day. I don't know, but I don't think that this is an impossible idea. If she can afford to rent a second office for a nursery, she can probably also figure out nearby places that would be acceptable for nanny and baby to go when baby isn't sleeping/eating, and maybe even a lounge where nanny could go with a monitor while baby is sleeping.