You'll be on here complaining about your next nanny's secretive personal life. Ha. Now maybe that poster understands why her nanny doesn't want to chat about non work related things.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have decided to let our nanny go after she has decided to take the night nurse job. Thankfully she has only been with us two weeks. We feel she is not the right fit. We understand it's her choice but it's our choice to let her go.

Congratulations, you just taught the nanny the importance of lying. Good job. Hope you don't make the same mistake with your kids.

Op here. We have decided to let our nanny go after she has decided to take the night nurse job. Thankfully she has only been with us two weeks. We feel she is not the right fit. We understand it's her choice but it's our choice to let her go.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. We talked to be nanny and we said things more politely than the way I worded it. We told her we were concerned about quality of care and her burning out. The nanny said the family wants a night nurse for at least the first 6 months or until the baby is sleeping through the night. The family does require her to stay up but rest during certain times. She will be doing bottles and laundry when the baby sleeps. We are uncomfortable with it and DH wants to et her go. We offer a very good compensation package and we want quality care.

Obviously, your compensation is not very good or your nanny would not need a 2nd job.

Disagree. I actually think the nanny is taking advantage of having an easy regular gig to take on a second gig for even more money. OP's job, with the benefits she offers, means the nanny has a lot of free time, and probably feels like the job isn't that demanding. She would never do this if she was working more hours for the same money; she'd be too tired.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We talked to be nanny and we said things more politely than the way I worded it. We told her we were concerned about quality of care and her burning out. The nanny said the family wants a night nurse for at least the first 6 months or until the baby is sleeping through the night. The family does require her to stay up but rest during certain times. She will be doing bottles and laundry when the baby sleeps. We are uncomfortable with it and DH wants to et her go. We offer a very good compensation package and we want quality care.

Obviously, your compensation is not very good or your nanny would not need a 2nd job.

Op here. We pay her $25 per hour after taxes. 30 hours ( 25 she works and 5 for commute). We pay health insurance and dental, might pay her a gym membership, and we provide lunch and snacks. We also offer 3 sick days, 4 weeks paid vacation, and paid holidays.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We talked to be nanny and we said things more politely than the way I worded it. We told her we were concerned about quality of care and her burning out. The nanny said the family wants a night nurse for at least the first 6 months or until the baby is sleeping through the night. The family does require her to stay up but rest during certain times. She will be doing bottles and laundry when the baby sleeps. We are uncomfortable with it and DH wants to et her go. We offer a very good compensation package and we want quality care.

Obviously, your compensation is not very good or your nanny would not need a 2nd job.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We talked to be nanny and we said things more politely than the way I worded it. We told her we were concerned about quality of care and her burning out. The nanny said the family wants a night nurse for at least the first 6 months or until the baby is sleeping through the night. The family does require her to stay up but rest during certain times. She will be doing bottles and laundry when the baby sleeps. We are uncomfortable with it and DH wants to et her go. We offer a very good compensation package and we want quality care.

OP, you are being reasonable. Six months is too long to put up with this, especially for the comp you are offering. What did nanny say?

Anonymous wrote:$25 an hour is not that much.

Really? After tax? I live in NYC where this would be considered a very generous starting rate that only a highly experienced "high end" nanny could ask. The benefits are especially generous as part of a starting package, especially for a part-timer.

$25 an hour is not that much.

Op here. We talked to be nanny and we said things more politely than the way I worded it. We told her we were concerned about quality of care and her burning out. The nanny said the family wants a night nurse for at least the first 6 months or until the baby is sleeping through the night. The family does require her to stay up but rest during certain times. She will be doing bottles and laundry when the baby sleeps. We are uncomfortable with it and DH wants to et her go. We offer a very good compensation package and we want quality care.

Years ago I did this. Why would I tell either family about it?

You can't fire a new mom, but you can fire a nanny.

When I was a new mom and up multiple times a night, some days I was fine, others, I was a wreck. Fine, that's my kid. But I would certainly not pay someone, let alone what OP is paying, for someone to have the level of rest that I did.

OP, some posters are saying you should let his go because the night gig is probably a temp gig. I would consider agreeing ONLY IF your nanny says this is a one-time thing and not going to take more night gigs in the future. Honestly, I wouldn't be okay with even just the one time, but would say okay just to keep on good terms with her.

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Anonymous wrote:
Should a new parent get laid off from their daytime job because they might not be well-rested?

Yes. New mother's are useless. Fire them all.

Ha! Imagine that.

Anonymous wrote:I would not be ok with that situation. You aren't paying for adequate care, you are paying for quality care. A generally well rested employee is a reasonable expectation.

And this nanny could be well rested with this night job as well - OP doesn't know. I had a night nurse job where I slept for the full eight hours with one wake up for a quick bottle.

I would not be ok with that situation. You aren't paying for adequate care, you are paying for quality care. A generally well rested employee is a reasonable expectation.