Taking two sick days in three weeks would be a huge red flag for me. On the other hand, it *is* cold/flu/stomach bug season and there is a lot going around.

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Anonymous wrote:Mlk is a federal holiday

so what. lots of companies and organization work on all the minor federal holidays or generous school holidays.

national holidays are July 4th, Xmas day, Memorial Day and Labor Day.

I don't even know what the silly federal holidays are since the last 5 companies I've worked for over 18 years have not had those off. Growing up in Chicago I didn't have those off from public school either. Must be a liberal east coast teacher's union thing, plus all those professional days off.

can't imagine if my nanny disrespected my schedule and didn't show up, got caught and then turned around an pretended to be sick. Unprofessional.

To be fair OP and husband have the day off. They choose to be lazy ass parents and not want to deal wth their kid. I wouldn't be surprised if there's other issues going on and nanny is already looking for another position.

I happen to know families that employ nannies even though one of the parents don't work. They pay the nannies a premium because they have the money to do it.

I'll let then know that you think they are "lazy ass parents" and that they shouldn't be hiring a nanny to take care of their kids when they can do it themselves. In fact, let's just take all those nanny jobs off the market. You know, the ones like this one and the ones like OP's. Boy, I bet that would sure show the MBs!

I've interviewed for several families like that. What you won't see as easily is all of the unpaid work they do. I know a mom who goes with her husband on business trips because she volunteers to transport rescue cats and dogs. She also donates time, energy and money while she's there. But shocker! She wants to know where the money is going.

Niw, I haven't taken a position like this, but that doesn't mean I won't. I turn down positions for a variety of reasons, and having a parent sah or wah isn't an issue to me, nor is doing my job on a scheduled work day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mlk is a federal holiday

so what. lots of companies and organization work on all the minor federal holidays or generous school holidays.

national holidays are July 4th, Xmas day, Memorial Day and Labor Day.

I don't even know what the silly federal holidays are since the last 5 companies I've worked for over 18 years have not had those off. Growing up in Chicago I didn't have those off from public school either. Must be a liberal east coast teacher's union thing, plus all those professional days off.

can't imagine if my nanny disrespected my schedule and didn't show up, got caught and then turned around an pretended to be sick. Unprofessional.

To be fair OP and husband have the day off. They choose to be lazy ass parents and not want to deal wth their kid. I wouldn't be surprised if there's other issues going on and nanny is already looking for another position.

I happen to know families that employ nannies even though one of the parents don't work. They pay the nannies a premium because they have the money to do it.

I'll let then know that you think they are "lazy ass parents" and that they shouldn't be hiring a nanny to take care of their kids when they can do it themselves. In fact, let's just take all those nanny jobs off the market. You know, the ones like this one and the ones like OP's. Boy, I bet that would sure show the MBs!

Anonymous wrote:I would never hire a nanny with their own children. Things like this and their child getting sick, or just the guilt of sending her home too worn out to parent her own kids well because she's spent from my own.

I felt like this, too, but as a feminist, who am I to say a mother can't work?

Haven't read the entire thread. The issue is that:

1) She was dishonest to accept the terms of the contract if they didn't work for her

2) She was dishonest to lie (and put you in the position of not having care at the last minute) instead of confronting the problem directly as a team and working out a solution (and giving you a chance to have input and notice)

3) The combination of the above implies that she is more likely to focus on her own needs up to including deceiving you if she thinks she can get away with it than constructive, cooperative dialogue. I would be worried about what else she might decide I don't need to hear about. One of the signs of a great nanny is that she is willing to be honest even when you might not want to hear it.

I would never hire a nanny with their own children. Things like this and their child getting sick, or just the guilt of sending her home too worn out to parent her own kids well because she's spent from my own.