Anonymous wrote:Our nanny's been with us for about a month and a half and she would regularly arrive 5 minutes late and occasionally 10 minutes late. Hoping to nip this in the bud, I told her in her 2nd week of work that being on time was very important to me. She was apologetic and said she would be on time going forward. Since then, she still arrives late almost every day, but it's more like 3-5 minutes late. Would most people consider this "on time"? I know for personal things, such as coffee with friends, arriving within 5 minutes of the meeting time is considered "on time", at least among my circle, but for "professional" things, such as work or school, IMO "on time" means just that, no grace period. Our former nanny would arrive literally on the minute every day (she would arrive early & wait in our building lobby until it was time), I guess I've been spoiled by this? Current nanny has other tardiness issues (excessive lateness averaging once a week(!)) and I'm wondering if I should bring up the daily lateness in the same conversation or let it go.
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny's been with us for about a month and a half and she would regularly arrive 5 minutes late and occasionally 10 minutes late. Hoping to nip this in the bud, I told her in her 2nd week of work that being on time was very important to me. She was apologetic and said she would be on time going forward. Since then, she still arrives late almost every day, but it's more like 3-5 minutes late. Would most people consider this "on time"? I know for personal things, such as coffee with friends, arriving within 5 minutes of the meeting time is considered "on time", at least among my circle, but for "professional" things, such as work or school, IMO "on time" means just that, no grace period. Our former nanny would arrive literally on the minute every day (she would arrive early & wait in our building lobby until it was time), I guess I've been spoiled by this? Current nanny has other tardiness issues (excessive lateness averaging once a week(!)) and I'm wondering if I should bring up the daily lateness in the same conversation or let it go.
Anonymous wrote:OP what's really going on here? Obviously your nanny should arrive as close to her start time as possible, and I can see her walking in 3-5 minutes late on a daily basis could be irritating, but I wonder what the real issue is here.
Why are you watching the clock so closely that 3 minutes upsets you? Have you scheduled your morning so tightly that 3 minutes makes a difference? Are you unhappy with the rate you're paying her and trying to squeeze out every minute of work from her? Are you unhappy with her performance? We're you spoiled by your former nanny who actually arrived early, and that's the time you would prefer your nanny to arrive?
Once you figure out what your real issue is, you might have better luck in addressing it with her. Because for someone who isn't naturally punctual, as your nanny seems struggle with this, 3 minutes isn't going to seem like a big deal no matter how many times you point it out. She needs to understand why and what your real issue is otherwise you just seem like a miserable bitch looking for a reason to complain. That's not a good way to start out your new relationship.