Anonymous wrote:Wow. My mom's had epilepsy for my entire life and took pills for it four times a day throughout my entire childhood. I used to BRING her the anti-seizure pills with a glass of Coke as a little kid. I would check her pillbox and come running with it if I saw it was past the time she was supposed to take one and hadn't done it yet. They all lived on the lazy Susan above the kitchen sink.

And I was the impulsive, bad decision maker kid of the family. Yet I STILL never would have taken her medicine. And I didn't even know it was for epilepsy until I was in 12th grade. I just knew my dad made sure she took her pills, so we did too, to help him.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is insane. How did children ever survive until the mid to late 1980's? Minimal child seats or seat belts for that matter, drinking age and smoking age were lower; how did anyone survive these dark ages?

Oh, yeah - maybe parenting and teaching children there are things you should and should not do.
Do not climb out the window.
Do not eat medicine.
Do not touch a gun. These seem kind of basic.
It is not like AP has some freaky new medicine bottles that look like candy to kids, say like some laundry detergent products that have appeared that parents have to deal with now.

I would say do the AP a favor and rematch, drop out of the program and find some land in Wyoming to homestead on and live off the land; something a kin to 1800's style of life and put quill to paper (yes, it was around back then) so your great, great children can tweet about their crazy great grandparents.

Your post is exactly in the vein of "get off my lawn! I walked uphill in six feet of snow barefoot to go to school -- BOTH WAYS -- and look at me! I'm fine!" If you're a parent, I fear for your kids. If you're a nanny or an au pair troll, I hope devoutly you never work in childcare again.

The answer to your stupid rhetorical question is that kids DIED before the mid to late 1980s because of inadequate child safety laws for cars such as seat belts and carseat requirements. Those kids aren't around any more. Many kids but not all kids survived their childhood because of preventable, survivable accidents where carseats and seat belts could have saved their lives.

It is stupid and irresponsible for a parent NOT to take basic child safety precautions to prevent PREVENTABLE accidents. That includes supervising people you employ to keep your children safe to make sure they follow fundamental and basic safety precautions, as well as childproofing the most dangerous aspects of your house, particularly if you have young and therefore by definition impulsive children.

The idea that you can "teach kids not to touch guns" is so freaking stupid that I doubt your basic intelligence. In the US, small children shoot themselves or others roughly once a week, year in and year out. You cannot teach a young child to control his or her impulses every second of every day. The best and most basic safety precaution is never to have a gun in the home, because it's far more likely that you or your child will be harmed by it than protected by it.

Children fall out of windows all. the. time. About 5,000 a year in this country. It happened to a neighbor's kid -- under an au pair's watch, I might add. The little boy narrowly missed getting impaled on their fence. Literally a couple inches' difference made the difference between a normal life and death or permanent disability.

Kids poison themselves all the time with prescription medications. In the US 60,000 to 100,000 kids a year, are treated in ERs for prescription medication ingestion. That's not even counting the kids who poison themselves with household products -- that's more like 700,000 a year. Some of these kids will die. True story. I bet the parents of the children who die would have even stronger words for you than I do about how well the "teach children not to eat medicine"

To the OP -- I think you might have gone a bit overboard in looking in the AP's drawers, but your bigger issue here is not food in your AP's room but your ability to trust her to do her basic job, which is keeping your kids safe from preventable accidents. Not all accidents are preventable, but prescription medication poisonings and falls out of windows certainly are.
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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is insane. How did children ever survive until the mid to late 1980's? Minimal child seats or seat belts for that matter, drinking age and smoking age were lower; how did anyone survive these dark ages?

Oh, yeah - maybe parenting and teaching children there are things you should and should not do.
Do not climb out the window.
Do not eat medicine.
Do not touch a gun. These seem kind of basic.
It is not like AP has some freaky new medicine bottles that look like candy to kids, say like some laundry detergent products that have appeared that parents have to deal with now.

I would say do the AP a favor and rematch, drop out of the program and find some land in Wyoming to homestead on and live off the land; something a kin to 1800's style of life and put quill to paper (yes, it was around back then) so your great, great children can tweet about their crazy great grandparents.

Your post is exactly in the vein of "get off my lawn! I walked uphill in six feet of snow barefoot to go to school -- BOTH WAYS -- and look at me! I'm fine!" If you're a parent, I fear for your kids. If you're a nanny or an au pair troll, I hope devoutly you never work in childcare again.

The answer to your stupid rhetorical question is that kids DIED before the mid to late 1980s because of inadequate child safety laws for cars such as seat belts and carseat requirements. Those kids aren't around any more. Many kids but not all kids survived their childhood because of preventable, survivable accidents where carseats and seat belts could have saved their lives.

It is stupid and irresponsible for a parent NOT to take basic child safety precautions to prevent PREVENTABLE accidents. That includes supervising people you employ to keep your children safe to make sure they follow fundamental and basic safety precautions, as well as childproofing the most dangerous aspects of your house, particularly if you have young and therefore by definition impulsive children.

The idea that you can "teach kids not to touch guns" is so freaking stupid that I doubt your basic intelligence. In the US, small children shoot themselves or others roughly once a week, year in and year out. You cannot teach a young child to control his or her impulses every second of every day. The best and most basic safety precaution is never to have a gun in the home, because it's far more likely that you or your child will be harmed by it than protected by it.

Children fall out of windows all. the. time. About 5,000 a year in this country. It happened to a neighbor's kid -- under an au pair's watch, I might add. The little boy narrowly missed getting impaled on their fence. Literally a couple inches' difference made the difference between a normal life and death or permanent disability.

Kids poison themselves all the time with prescription medications. In the US 60,000 to 100,000 kids a year, are treated in ERs for prescription medication ingestion. That's not even counting the kids who poison themselves with household products -- that's more like 700,000 a year. Some of these kids will die. True story. I bet the parents of the children who die would have even stronger words for you than I do about how well the "teach children not to eat medicine"

To the OP -- I think you might have gone a bit overboard in looking in the AP's drawers, but your bigger issue here is not food in your AP's room but your ability to trust her to do her basic job, which is keeping your kids safe from preventable accidents. Not all accidents are preventable, but prescription medication poisonings and falls out of windows certainly are.

You need to have a hard reset conversation, preferably with your LCC involved, and you need to document your instructions to the AP on this issue in emails that your LCC gets. Then you need to install safety bars on all your second-floor windows if you haven't done so already.

Well said.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is insane. How did children ever survive until the mid to late 1980's? Minimal child seats or seat belts for that matter, drinking age and smoking age were lower; how did anyone survive these dark ages?

Oh, yeah - maybe parenting and teaching children there are things you should and should not do.
Do not climb out the window.
Do not eat medicine.
Do not touch a gun. These seem kind of basic.
It is not like AP has some freaky new medicine bottles that look like candy to kids, say like some laundry detergent products that have appeared that parents have to deal with now.

I would say do the AP a favor and rematch, drop out of the program and find some land in Wyoming to homestead on and live off the land; something a kin to 1800's style of life and put quill to paper (yes, it was around back then) so your great, great children can tweet about their crazy great grandparents.

Your post is exactly in the vein of "get off my lawn! I walked uphill in six feet of snow barefoot to go to school -- BOTH WAYS -- and look at me! I'm fine!" If you're a parent, I fear for your kids. If you're a nanny or an au pair troll, I hope devoutly you never work in childcare again.

The answer to your stupid rhetorical question is that kids DIED before the mid to late 1980s because of inadequate child safety laws for cars such as seat belts and carseat requirements. Those kids aren't around any more. Many kids but not all kids survived their childhood because of preventable, survivable accidents where carseats and seat belts could have saved their lives.

It is stupid and irresponsible for a parent NOT to take basic child safety precautions to prevent PREVENTABLE accidents. That includes supervising people you employ to keep your children safe to make sure they follow fundamental and basic safety precautions, as well as childproofing the most dangerous aspects of your house, particularly if you have young and therefore by definition impulsive children.

The idea that you can "teach kids not to touch guns" is so freaking stupid that I doubt your basic intelligence. In the US, small children shoot themselves or others roughly once a week, year in and year out. You cannot teach a young child to control his or her impulses every second of every day. The best and most basic safety precaution is never to have a gun in the home, because it's far more likely that you or your child will be harmed by it than protected by it.

Children fall out of windows all. the. time. About 5,000 a year in this country. It happened to a neighbor's kid -- under an au pair's watch, I might add. The little boy narrowly missed getting impaled on their fence. Literally a couple inches' difference made the difference between a normal life and death or permanent disability.

Kids poison themselves all the time with prescription medications. In the US 60,000 to 100,000 kids a year, are treated in ERs for prescription medication ingestion. That's not even counting the kids who poison themselves with household products -- that's more like 700,000 a year. Some of these kids will die. True story. I bet the parents of the children who die would have even stronger words for you than I do about how well the "teach children not to eat medicine"

To the OP -- I think you might have gone a bit overboard in looking in the AP's drawers, but your bigger issue here is not food in your AP's room but your ability to trust her to do her basic job, which is keeping your kids safe from preventable accidents. Not all accidents are preventable, but prescription medication poisonings and falls out of windows certainly are.

You need to have a hard reset conversation, preferably with your LCC involved, and you need to document your instructions to the AP on this issue in emails that your LCC gets. Then you need to install safety bars on all your second-floor windows if you haven't done so already.

Anonymous wrote:OP is insane. How did children ever survive until the mid to late 1980's? Minimal child seats or seat belts for that matter, drinking age and smoking age were lower; how did anyone survive these dark ages?

Oh, yeah - maybe parenting and teaching children there are things you should and should not do.
Do not climb out the window.
Do not eat medicine.
Do not touch a gun. These seem kind of basic.
It is not like AP has some freaky new medicine bottles that look like candy to kids, say like some laundry detergent products that have appeared that parents have to deal with now.

I would say do the AP a favor and rematch, drop out of the program and find some land in Wyoming to homestead on and live off the land; something a kin to 1800's style of life and put quill to paper (yes, it was around back then) so your great, great children can tweet about their crazy great grandparents.

Anonymous wrote:Do all of you leave your medicine in a locked cabinet at all times?
I know I dont have and I have a 4yo. If your au pair takes this medicine on a daily basis it would be a pain in the ass to have to lock it up every day.
You also should not have gone in her drawers, you have control issues.