Anonymous wrote:You all are crazy. I bet all of you have nannies that last only a year or two. I'm on year 8 with my nanny. Every year we go over the changed schedule and needs that my kids have due to their ages and schedules and the different responsibilities that come with that. We give her a raise based on those things.

When kids were little she had to time to eat lunch and that's all, as she was watching them all the time. Now my kids are barely home unless she is driving them somewhere. So now, she cooks, cleans, drives, runs errands, organizes stuff around the house and goes to the stores. Then she takes breaks during the day and drives them around in the afternoons. All of that is specified and part of the deal and if that wasn't ok, then we would find someone else that could do it.

Nannies are not housekeepers. You have a helper who will do whatever you need. That's fine, but at least be honest about it.

You all are crazy. I bet all of you have nannies that last only a year or two. I'm on year 8 with my nanny. Every year we go over the changed schedule and needs that my kids have due to their ages and schedules and the different responsibilities that come with that. We give her a raise based on those things.

When kids were little she had to time to eat lunch and that's all, as she was watching them all the time. Now my kids are barely home unless she is driving them somewhere. So now, she cooks, cleans, drives, runs errands, organizes stuff around the house and goes to the stores. Then she takes breaks during the day and drives them around in the afternoons. All of that is specified and part of the deal and if that wasn't ok, then we would find someone else that could do it.

More abusive nanny employers...then the whine and wonder how they can't keep nannies and they're children are emotional and developmental wrecks. Treat a nanny with respect and your kids will have loving BFFs for years to come, won't have to go through changing care givers every couple months, it's so bad for young children! Most of them don't understand why one goes and a new comes, they think it's because they're not loved!
I'm a very loving nanny and try to explain it to parents, but most parents don't care. You know at the end the parents lose a great nanny, nanny loses her job, kids loose their beloved BFF, and the kids are the ones who lose the most!
Parents can find a new nanny and nanny can find a new job.
Just think about it. So sad

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^It means that the 18:10 poster has a housekeeper who watches children on the side, and that her friend has a lazy babysitter.

There are actually nannies out there who like to keep busy with household jobs. This is what my nanny has told me. I have pushed many times for her to sit and put her feet up but she says she'd rather be doing stuff so she will walk around finding things that need to be done. If the kids are asleep or doing homework or playing a video game, why is it terrible that she is doing a household chore? Doesn't mean she is not a nanny.

When she's cleaning your house, she's a housecleaner, not a nanny. It's that simple.

Anonymous wrote:I would be interested in what other employers ask their nanny to do while children are sleeping or out of the house for camp, for example. I find that my nanny has several hours of time some days.

Nannies, just like you, deserve some quiet time. You get coffee breaks, gab with your friends, post on DCUM and ALL on your employer's time. Also, nannies should only have duties pertaining to children. Cleaning your stove, refrigerator, grocery shopping, doing your laundry, washing dog, and all the other household chores you are too lazy to do are not, let me repeat ARE NOT duties for nannies. These are duties for maids or housekeepers.

Also, I am not a Nanny but when I hired a nanny her duties pertained to childcare.

Anonymous wrote:^^^^It means that the 18:10 poster has a housekeeper who watches children on the side, and that her friend has a lazy babysitter.

There are actually nannies out there who like to keep busy with household jobs. This is what my nanny has told me. I have pushed many times for her to sit and put her feet up but she says she'd rather be doing stuff so she will walk around finding things that need to be done. If the kids are asleep or doing homework or playing a video game, why is it terrible that she is doing a household chore? Doesn't mean she is not a nanny.

^^^^It means that the 18:10 poster has a housekeeper who watches children on the side, and that her friend has a lazy babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:In addition to childcare our nanny will do the following while kids are awake:

empties dishwasher
folds clothes
sweeps floor once in awhile

When they're asleep:
Cleans the fridge
Organizes the pantry

Often times she will do things without me asking. She was a cleaner for 10 years and likes to keep busy she says. I tell her to take more breaks but she doesn't like to sit around she says. Her sister who is a nanny for my friend is the opposite and tells her she's dumb for doing so much for us. Her sister much prefers to sit around and watch TV with the kids or be on her phone.

Neither one is a nanny. Sorry.

What is that supposed to mean?

Anonymous wrote:In addition to childcare our nanny will do the following while kids are awake:

empties dishwasher
folds clothes
sweeps floor once in awhile

When they're asleep:
Cleans the fridge
Organizes the pantry

Often times she will do things without me asking. She was a cleaner for 10 years and likes to keep busy she says. I tell her to take more breaks but she doesn't like to sit around she says. Her sister who is a nanny for my friend is the opposite and tells her she's dumb for doing so much for us. Her sister much prefers to sit around and watch TV with the kids or be on her phone.

Neither one is a nanny. Sorry.

In addition to childcare our nanny will do the following while kids are awake:

empties dishwasher
folds clothes
sweeps floor once in awhile

When they're asleep:
Cleans the fridge
Organizes the pantry

Often times she will do things without me asking. She was a cleaner for 10 years and likes to keep busy she says. I tell her to take more breaks but she doesn't like to sit around she says. Her sister who is a nanny for my friend is the opposite and tells her she's dumb for doing so much for us. Her sister much prefers to sit around and watch TV with the kids or be on her phone.

Anonymous wrote:Our child's nanny does anything and everything directly related to our child's care (Child's laundry, ironing, meal prep and clean up of meal prep)- and nothing more whether our child is sleeping or away with us. She is an educated nanny and not a housekeeper.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:OP, and other nanny employers, please imagine what it would feel like/what you would do if your boss came to you one day at said "Larla, here's a list of CHORES (because you are 10 years old) I'd like you to start doing in your downtime". I doubt that would fly at your job, why should it for your nanny?

Huh? I don't have downtime at work.

Huh? That's suck!

And is totally normal. Welcome to real life.

+1. There are some very naive posters on this forum.

Our kids are now 8 and 5. The only things we've asked for/expect are the following:
-kid laundry (1 load/week)
-kids' breakfast and lunch (if they're home)
-pick up after the kids or, ideally, supervise them picking up their stuff
-load/empty dishwasher with any stuff that's dirtied in the course of the day (we don't leave our dishes for her)
-wipe off kitchen counters

Our nanny is really awesome and routinely does additional stuff as both of our kids are at school/camp at least some of the time. Additional things she does:
-takes out trash/recycling and moves carts to/from street
-wipes down bathroom sinks
-tosses our stuff in laundry if she has space
-picks up milk or cereal if we're out

Honestly some of these things might take her 10 minutes or less but the difference they make in our lives is so big. Coming home to a clean, orderly home is so amazing and not something I expect from having a nanny--just a big bonus.

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Anonymous wrote:For a nap, I wouldn't stick her with any chores.

Let her eat a peaceful lunch and rest so when your child wakes up, she will feel rejuvenated + refreshed for the latter part of her shift.

As for when your child is away @camp, perhaps some laundry, ironing duties, grocery shopping or errand runs.

How refreshed does she need to be to sit on her phone at the park, push a stroller, or put baby in a bouncer? That's all I ever see these nannies doing.

She is taking care of children which is a thankless job.

I take care of two boys and I feel well thanks and well loved by the entire family. MB, DB, the boys, and the dog. Not thankless at all.

Zipidee do dah for you.

Anonymous wrote:Our child's nanny does anything and everything directly related to our child's care (Child's laundry, ironing, meal prep and clean up of meal prep)- and nothing more whether our child is sleeping or away with us. She is an educated nanny and not a housekeeper.

You have clothes for a kid that need to be ironed??