Anonymous
06/26/2016 10:32
Subject: Re:Stay out of it WFHM!!!
I had the worst experience with a mom who wasn't working and would come in and ruin pretty much every other activity we had - I actually quit nannying after that job for almost a year because I was so stressed out. I now work for another mom who's not working, but she's much better at allowing me to actually do my job, but it's still annoying because the older kid wants to show her things and talk to her half the time and I never know if the mom wants to be interrupted or not. We try to be out of the house most of the time, and the mom as well, so it's been working out fairly well. But for sure the days that the mom is out are much smoother with fewer tantrums.
Anonymous
06/25/2016 10:43
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Why I will never again work for an at home mom. Nanny + parent who's there all day = a job that's impossible to do. [/quote
Nanny here, working with WAHM currently but I will never take something like this ever rather be out of job then working with WAHM. It's very stressful.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 15:39
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Why I will never again work for an at home mom. Nanny + parent who's there all day = a job that's impossible to do.
Anonymous
06/13/2016 22:08
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:I feel your pain. My MB acts the same way but the worst is when my charge is napping. I'll clean up the kitchen, living room and wipe down everything. Then I'll break out my lunch. Here she comes! I won't even get to take a bite and she'll start talking about things I can do "if I have time." Or if I can work this or that day. Can I please eat in peace? I've made sure the house is picked up, restocked everything. Can I eat my damn sandwich without you coming in with a list of shit that I can do to help you out? No I don't want to talk about cleaning up the litter box while I'm eating and I don't want to talk about my charges poops of that day.
Tell her.
Anonymous
06/13/2016 18:46
Subject: Re:Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Just bumping
Anonymous
04/26/2016 12:17
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
On-demand nursing is at the CHILD'S demand, not the parent's. A parent coming in and out repeatedly through the day can destroy a good play session between baby and nanny, or it can disrupt a toddler/preschooler and cause them to act out. Parents don't go in and out when they have a nanny, they do when they have a mother's helper who they don't trust.
Exactly. And when my 9 week old baby cried, she was wanting to nurse. Maybe you should research on-demand nursing of newborns.
Your child never cried due to a dirty diaper, startling awake or just because? If so, you're very lucky. I'm well aware of what on-demand nursing for newborns looks like. The point that several nannies here are trying to make is that a parent shouldn't run every time the child cries (and there is a nanny present with the child), and yes, that includes a 9 week old baby.
Anonymous
04/26/2016 12:06
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
On-demand nursing is at the CHILD'S demand, not the parent's. A parent coming in and out repeatedly through the day can destroy a good play session between baby and nanny, or it can disrupt a toddler/preschooler and cause them to act out. Parents don't go in and out when they have a nanny, they do when they have a mother's helper who they don't trust.
Exactly. And when my 9 week old baby cried, she was wanting to nurse. Maybe you should research on-demand nursing of newborns.
PP someone already tried once, quite eloquently, to dismiss you as you are not on topic. I'll try again, GO AWAY.
We aren't talking about nursing. Any competent nanny will have no problem with on demand nursing, what we are talking about is entirely different. Stop trying to push your agenda and go bond with your baby.
Anonymous
04/26/2016 10:58
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
On-demand nursing is at the CHILD'S demand, not the parent's. A parent coming in and out repeatedly through the day can destroy a good play session between baby and nanny, or it can disrupt a toddler/preschooler and cause them to act out. Parents don't go in and out when they have a nanny, they do when they have a mother's helper who they don't trust.
Exactly. And when my 9 week old baby cried, she was wanting to nurse. Maybe you should research on-demand nursing of newborns.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 19:17
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Lots of good posts here explaining how mommy popping in and out at her whim is nothing but selfish on her part.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 18:54
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
On-demand nursing is at the CHILD'S demand, not the parent's. A parent coming in and out repeatedly through the day can destroy a good play session between baby and nanny, or it can disrupt a toddler/preschooler and cause them to act out. Parents don't go in and out when they have a nanny, they do when they have a mother's helper who they don't trust.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 18:54
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
I'm pretty sure day cares allow access to parents, but the understanding is you aren't going to be just popping in and definitely not in response to the kid getting upset. Nursing is different and was not the subject of this chain.
I went to visit my daughter at school and pick her up early the other day. It was nice but definitely an infrequent thing - you could see how it threw her totally off.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 16:50
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.
A mom coming in to say hello is "unpredictable" and therefore bad? You're insane. Thankfully my nanny understood the important on on-demand nursing and bonding. I'd never hire someone who had such a lack of understanding of infant care.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 13:24
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Perhaps the important concept of "predictability" is unknown to some of you.