Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im the OP and I want to say THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART to the ones that gave me great ideas/suggestions to help me through this difficult situation. But also than you for sticking up for me. I didn't start this thread to offend anyone, nor did I say anything about expecting to get a nanny for free. I know that I would have to pay for someone to watch my child. I just know that I cant pay my whole salary to do that. Getting out of that abusive relationship was the hardest thing ive ever had to do. Yes, L/E's go through those kind of things too. You all have given me some great advice. I am looking into college students and I found a weekend home day care and the owner sounds very nice and accommodating and willing to work with me with the price. I just gotta stay strong for my son, that's all ive been doing since hes been in my belly.

and for the trolls that had nothing but negative things to say and sarcasm ...go pick up a bible and read a few verses !!! cant believe the nerve of some of you!!!! ill pray for you trolls. and god forbid any of you get into a tough situation in your life and need help!

Good for you OP! Glad you got a bit of helpful advice here, and that you're finding a few solutions. Remember that these early young years are hard for everyone, and I don't know a single mother who doesn't struggle with childcare - it is unbelievably difficult on so many levels. But it does get easier.

You sound like an amazing mother, and also a pretty great citizen also. I'm glad to have someone like you in our police force, and raising a boy.

Hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im the OP and I want to say THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART to the ones that gave me great ideas/suggestions to help me through this difficult situation. But also than you for sticking up for me. I didn't start this thread to offend anyone, nor did I say anything about expecting to get a nanny for free. I know that I would have to pay for someone to watch my child. I just know that I cant pay my whole salary to do that. Getting out of that abusive relationship was the hardest thing ive ever had to do. Yes, L/E's go through those kind of things too. You all have given me some great advice. I am looking into college students and I found a weekend home day care and the owner sounds very nice and accommodating and willing to work with me with the price. I just gotta stay strong for my son, that's all ive been doing since hes been in my belly.

and for the trolls that had nothing but negative things to say and sarcasm ...go pick up a bible and read a few verses !!! cant believe the nerve of some of you!!!! ill pray for you trolls. and god forbid any of you get into a tough situation in your life and need help!

Good for you OP! Glad you got a bit of helpful advice here, and that you're finding a few solutions. Remember that these early young years are hard for everyone, and I don't know a single mother who doesn't struggle with childcare - it is unbelievably difficult on so many levels. But it does get easier.

You sound like an amazing mother, and also a pretty great citizen also. I'm glad to have someone like you in our police force, and raising a boy.

ok now you've made me tear up. you are very kind and I appreciate what you've been able to see just based off the little bit ive said in here. I really am a good mom I love my son more than life it self. I also love my community and I work hard everyday to keep people, other officers and myself safe . the level of difficulty being a female police officer and a single mom with no help from family or his father is unbelievable. It has to be god and my angels helping me through this because I don't know how I am able to do this everyday. My son is so happy and healthy. he has food in his belly, a roof over his head, clothes on his body and toys. hes a great kid and he makes me so proud. seriously unless you're in my shoes no one could fathom the daily struggle. I just need a lil help. May god bless you and thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement.

Hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you looking for a nanny?

Anonymous wrote:Im the OP and I want to say THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART to the ones that gave me great ideas/suggestions to help me through this difficult situation. But also than you for sticking up for me. I didn't start this thread to offend anyone, nor did I say anything about expecting to get a nanny for free. I know that I would have to pay for someone to watch my child. I just know that I cant pay my whole salary to do that. Getting out of that abusive relationship was the hardest thing ive ever had to do. Yes, L/E's go through those kind of things too. You all have given me some great advice. I am looking into college students and I found a weekend home day care and the owner sounds very nice and accommodating and willing to work with me with the price. I just gotta stay strong for my son, that's all ive been doing since hes been in my belly.

and for the trolls that had nothing but negative things to say and sarcasm ...go pick up a bible and read a few verses !!! cant believe the nerve of some of you!!!! ill pray for you trolls. and god forbid any of you get into a tough situation in your life and need help!

Anonymous wrote:Where are you located OP? I am the above PP in L/E. I have a coworker who works the midnight shift and his wife travels a lot. They have their 2yo at a home daycare where she does overnights as well. I dont know exactly where but its in Moco and I can find out if youre in that area.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"OP isnt willing to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

or

"OP isnt able to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

Why use language meant to shame her? She is trying to figure out a situation more stressful than most of you will experience. Leaving an abuser without social, financial and famililal resources?

And you jump to shame her?

You people suck

Abuse is awful for any victim, OP. I think you don't realize how routinely nannies are abused and taken advantage of behind closed doors. Of course people like to say, "just leave", but as you know that's easier said than done. Good that you got away from an abuser. I hope certain nannies will leave their abusers, especially the illegal ones who are very afraid of getting deported by President Obama.

Anonymous wrote:"OP isnt willing to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

or

"OP isnt able to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

Why use language meant to shame her? She is trying to figure out a situation more stressful than most of you will experience. Leaving an abuser without social, financial and famililal resources?

And you jump to shame her?

You people suck

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about a live in babysitter? She can live for free in exchange for child care- especially for your tricky night time schedule? You would still pay her a salary but it might be more affordable.

OP said there's no room for another to live-in.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I'm so sorry you're putting up with all this self-righteous horseshit on this thread. I can only imagine how hard your situation is right now you just came to the wrong place for sympathy. Any chance they can pull you off of shift work for a while? Until things level out? Ignore all the 20 year olds on here with no job training who tell you they're worth $25 an hour, there are plenty of people if you read through the threads that work for $15 an hour

It sounds like she wouldn't be willing to pay $15/hour... $15/hour would be completely acceptable for the overnight hours, but I don't know that it's acceptable for a sporadic schedule that has the shifts change too.

Anonymous wrote:OP I'm so sorry you're putting up with all this self-righteous horseshit on this thread. I can only imagine how hard your situation is right now you just came to the wrong place for sympathy. Any chance they can pull you off of shift work for a while? Until things level out? Ignore all the 20 year olds on here with no job training who tell you they're worth $25 an hour, there are plenty of people if you read through the threads that work for $15 an hour

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you think that a single Mom who is a public servant probably making between $45,000 to $60,000 a year can afford an au pair at a cost of over $20,000 a year? Plus all the other misc expenses incurred.
Mortgage or rent, plus bills on one income doesn't leave over enough for an au pair.

And it's still cheaper than any nanny. We fail our families in this country.

Anonymous wrote:How do you think that a single Mom who is a public servant probably making between $45,000 to $60,000 a year can afford an au pair at a cost of over $20,000 a year? Plus all the other misc expenses incurred.
Mortgage or rent, plus bills on one income doesn't leave over enough for an au pair.