Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so odd. Why do people think it's completely inappropriate for children to be exposed to religion? And of course I would be fine with my child going to a playgroup at a mosque, synagogue, church, LDS group, etc. What is going to happen there that couldn't happen in a home or playground playgroup? Even if it was a full on bible study for three year olds, what do you think that could be? A coloring page and a bible story? My three year old has probably been to three events about thanksgiving, and she still has no understanding of what it is.
Also, it is not my job to come up with activities for the nanny to do so she doesn't get bored. That is her job. Of course I will provide passes to the zoo et al, and I might sign my daughter up for classes that I pay for or suggest a library story time, but it is her job to set up play dates with the other moms and nannies waiting around at preschool pick up and drop off and to pick up the flyer at the library when she is there. This absolutely sounds like a word of mouth thing, and I am willing to bet that it's not listed on the church's website.

Nanny PP here, no idea what time I posted last. I'm the nanny who makes sure I am trusted to take my charge to 1 activity, and to pull my charge from any activity at any time.

This is it, precisely! I've had employers give me lists of what they wouldn't approve, lists of things they would love to have the kids do, but I'm always the one who finds directions, signs up the child and arranges the schedule. If there's a charge, I pay for it, and the parent either reimburses it or the receipt goes back into the petty cash envelope. My employers don't micromanage me, they trust my judgment, and they trust that my focus is the child's best interest, not the child's momentary happiness.

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so odd. Why do people think it's completely inappropriate for children to be exposed to religion? And of course I would be fine with my child going to a playgroup at a mosque, synagogue, church, LDS group, etc. What is going to happen there that couldn't happen in a home or playground playgroup? Even if it was a full on bible study for three year olds, what do you think that could be? A coloring page and a bible story? My three year old has probably been to three events about thanksgiving, and she still has no understanding of what it is.
Also, it is not my job to come up with activities for the nanny to do so she doesn't get bored. That is her job. Of course I will provide passes to the zoo et al, and I might sign my daughter up for classes that I pay for or suggest a library story time, but it is her job to set up play dates with the other moms and nannies waiting around at preschool pick up and drop off and to pick up the flyer at the library when she is there. This absolutely sounds like a word of mouth thing, and I am willing to bet that it's not listed on the church's website.

Your post is a rare breath of fresh air on this forum. It's indicative of a knowledgeable employer and a very secure parent, the ultimate ticket to success.

I suspect the control freak parents on this forum have "wonderful" inept nannies that simply can't be trusted to make responsible decisions for their charges. So unfortunate.

This whole thread is so odd. Why do people think it's completely inappropriate for children to be exposed to religion? And of course I would be fine with my child going to a playgroup at a mosque, synagogue, church, LDS group, etc. What is going to happen there that couldn't happen in a home or playground playgroup? Even if it was a full on bible study for three year olds, what do you think that could be? A coloring page and a bible story? My three year old has probably been to three events about thanksgiving, and she still has no understanding of what it is.
Also, it is not my job to come up with activities for the nanny to do so she doesn't get bored. That is her job. Of course I will provide passes to the zoo et al, and I might sign my daughter up for classes that I pay for or suggest a library story time, but it is her job to set up play dates with the other moms and nannies waiting around at preschool pick up and drop off and to pick up the flyer at the library when she is there. This absolutely sounds like a word of mouth thing, and I am willing to bet that it's not listed on the church's website.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents should not hire a nanny who might do something not safe.

True. Toddler playgroups can be DEADLY.

(?Church ). . mind and body and the Holy spirit ... Who created (ME) Who I abelong to?

when is now!!

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like an awesome nanny for finding an age-appropriate playgroup on your own.

Too bad the parents didn't do their homework, then they could have found it for you.

And kudos to you for being so engaged with keeping your charge busy and happy. I think the father just feels bad that he wasn't the one who sought out local activities first and his statement is mostly one of pride.

Yeah, riiiiigggghhhht!

Lol PP.

I was just about to bold this line and re-post it but it looks like you beat me to the punch. Or the kool-aid.

I think the father here knows you did a great thing and just wishes he had done it first.

In other words, he may have taken a hit to his parenting skillz. To say the least.

It is the family's job to find engaging and interactive activities for you and your charge to do. If the nanny finds something, great...But ultimately the parents should take the time to do some research so nanny and child get to do a variety of things, not the same thing each and every day.

I haven't found ONE family who has taken the initiative to plan activities for us to do, I have always had to go online and look things up myself.

Don't parents understand that a bored nanny equates a bored and unhappy child??! It's not rocket science.

So this father was okay for you guys to go to the library over and over...And over. So you found a new, fun local activity and he has to approve it? As a parent, he should have found this local playgroup himself.

I agree with your post what about clueless parent how do you do that one thing we all don't understand specially specially firs time parent ???

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Anonymous wrote:Parents should not hire a nanny who might do something not safe.

True. Toddler playgroups can be DEADLY.

(?Church ). . mind and body and the Holy spirit ... Who created (ME) Who I abelong to?

I'm an MB who replied earlier.

Any nanny who thinks his/her opinion trumps my own will not work for me. Hopefully I'd never hire that person in the first place but it sure wouldn't work out if somehow we didn't realize right away that we were incompatible.

The father's reaction to OP was reasonable and appropriate and not micromanaging in any way. OP's approach sounded reasonable also. I don't see a huge problem here, assuming these parents and nanny work together well most of the time.

I love when our nanny finds new fun things to do with the kids. And she appreciates when I send her ideas of things I've heard about, or have tried with them that were fun. We work together and are a good team.

But I'm the parent. And I make the decisions about anything as important as religious exposure. And if there is any doubt whatsoever in a nanny's mind about the appropriateness of that then you need to have your own children.

Flame away. This is pretty basic employer/employee stuff. It's having a boss and a job versus being a company owner (or parent).

My kid, my rules. That isn't "sick microamanagement".

Some of you are nuts. Some parents are nuts also - of course. But this board is such a toxic place for highlighting the worst of the worst, it's unreal.

I'm the nanny who does what I see is the best thing for the child. Obviously I'd never be interested in a sick micromanagement situation.

As a professional, my work is the child, not the parents who may need real counseling.