We are thinking about this too. After reading this thread maybe not!

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,
I am interested about the relocation. I have more than 8+ years of experiences.I am single with no children with a degree. If you are interested please forward your contact information and I would be pleased to contact you.
Thank you

Oh my god. Do you not understand that she's looking to relocate the nanny she's already had for a few years? She's not looking to relocate a nanny who has zero bond!

Hi OP,
I am interested about the relocation. I have more than 8+ years of experiences.I am single with no children with a degree. If you are interested please forward your contact information and I would be pleased to contact you.
Thank you

OP, what would it take for you to agree to the same move? Would you move from DC to SF for what you're offering? That thought experiment should help you figure this out.

Anonymous wrote:Naysayers abound. They're jealous of op and the nanny, who just might be able to continue their amazing relationship. Op's child(ren) are potentially the most fortunate beneficiaries here.

hoops jealous to who ?? attention seeker not what you think on your dream I have a better life than you my dear. Love it OR Leave it You can have both !! ?

Certainly are apartments in that range in the bay area.

And pp yes 75 isn't an excess amt but they do have a combined income if over 120k.

75,000 a year is really just an average salary in the city of SF, especially for 4 children. I make more than that and still am not rolling in the dough.

Anonymous wrote:We don't have "heaps" of cash just laying around. We just want to do what is right by her. Her salary moving with us the first year would be increased from 55k to around 75k plus we are looking at what kind of bonus/gift we could give them for doing this . As it would be a tremendous help to us.

Pp if you can read- you'd see that we could guaranteed 90k in 3 years as long as my own salary increases. If I'm getting raises and can afford to then pay our nanny more why shouldn't I?? We aren't here trying to find a bargain like so many other MBs.


I know she wants to stay home when she has her own children....I would never ask her to compromise that. She isn't living off her income alone. Her husband makes a great living. And from what I have talked to her about most of her income if not all goes towards savings.

Actually, you said $75K plus all relocation expenses, and an additional stipend for an apartment, plus raises, and help with additional funds while hubby finds a job. Once you add taxes, yes, you are looking at 100K+. I lived in San Francisco before moving to the DC area. The cost of living is outrageous. Everything is expensive: gas, taxes, housing, school ... About the only thing that is cheaper is excellent produce and beautiful flowers.

The problem I see with your plan is largely an ethical one. What if you move this woman and her husband out there with you, and in six months they realize that his $90K job no longer affords them enough for her to stay home when they have babies because she can no longer save her salary? Are you going to finance the move back? Increase her salary again? What if they just hate it? You are really becoming responsible for them by moving her.

22:10- very good point. My husband is in contact with our advisor and accountant to make sure numbers will make sense and to see the highest we can afford while still having a cushion.

I don't know how people go from nanny to nanny like a business transaction. Our nanny is very much one of a kind and someone we view with high regard for helping us raise our children. Why we are trying so hard to find a solution that works with everyone

Naysayers abound. They're jealous of op and the nanny, who just might be able to continue their amazing relationship. Op's child(ren) are potentially the most fortunate beneficiaries here.

I see what you are trying to do here, OP, but did you really figured out all the financials and tax implications? I assume you will have high income, but with CA taxes and increased your federal bracket, COL increase, you really need to understand what you can afford (unless you have >$500K HHI and then it is not a issue).

I would first find out how interested she is, and that maybe will show you how far you should go to entice her. Also what does her husband do and does his job requires any state licenses or (reversely) is in high demand?

Anonymous wrote:We don't have "heaps" of cash just laying around. We just want to do what is right by her. Her salary moving with us the first year would be increased from 55k to around 75k plus we are looking at what kind of bonus/gift we could give them for doing this . As it would be a tremendous help to us.

Pp if you can read- you'd see that we could guaranteed 90k in 3 years as long as my own salary increases. If I'm getting raises and can afford to then pay our nanny more why shouldn't I?? We aren't here trying to find a bargain like so many other MBs.


I know she wants to stay home when she has her own children....I would never ask her to compromise that. She isn't living off her income alone. Her husband makes a great living. And from what I have talked to her about most of her income if not all goes towards savings.

You, OP, are a stellar parent. You understand how critical stability is in the world of FT care giving. The retention of your nanny may or may not work out. But at least you want to give it your best shot. That's the most any of us can do, but most don't bother. Beloved nannies are never replaceable.

Talk with your nanny. Maybe send her and her husband to visit the new town. Who knows, maybe they'll both love the place. At the very least, maybe nanny will help get you settled in your new place.

Hugs and good luck. I wish more parents here cared about their children as much as you do.

We don't have "heaps" of cash just laying around. We just want to do what is right by her. Her salary moving with us the first year would be increased from 55k to around 75k plus we are looking at what kind of bonus/gift we could give them for doing this . As it would be a tremendous help to us.

Pp if you can read- you'd see that we could guaranteed 90k in 3 years as long as my own salary increases. If I'm getting raises and can afford to then pay our nanny more why shouldn't I?? We aren't here trying to find a bargain like so many other MBs.


I know she wants to stay home when she has her own children....I would never ask her to compromise that. She isn't living off her income alone. Her husband makes a great living. And from what I have talked to her about most of her income if not all goes towards savings.

I am starting to not get this either. If you have heaps of money, then just cover the husband's salary, buy a big home, and move them in. If you don't have heaps of money, how are you going to afford $100K+ per year for at least 5 years plus relocation expenses? Why not put your energy into helping her find a new job here, and find a stellar, expensive nanny who already lives there through an agency.

Honestly, the only nannies I know who have moved with families are single, or are supporting very young, unemployed/underemployed/hourly-worker husbands.

What will you do if she gets pregnant or wants to start a family??

Will you let her bring the baby to work? Or will she be without a High paying job with increased living expenses? She won't make this salary starting with a new family. Heck I didint make more than 65k for years busting my butt and I have a masters.