Anonymous
09/19/2015 21:04
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex employer was a raging bitch during maternity leave. I have no idea why I stayed. She was paranoid, micromanage me, rude, and indecisive. I told her to her face I was ready to walk out the door one afternoon. This was after 5 yrs. Never again will any employer treat me that way.
For 5 years she is GOOD MB huh? and for that one period of time you CHOP/LABEL her as a raging BITCH?
Next time when you are in maternity leave I hope your husband wont call you a raging bitch and walk away!
Just because you have just had a baby, a choice you made, does not give you the right treat your employee so shamefully. You chose your situation and you can suffer in silence. If you did this in my office, there would be serious consequences. I have had 3 children and I have never treated anyone like this.
I do not accept "hormones" as an excuse for an adult behaving like a spoiled brat.
Anonymous
09/19/2015 20:39
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:My ex employer was a raging bitch during maternity leave. I have no idea why I stayed. She was paranoid, micromanage me, rude, and indecisive. I told her to her face I was ready to walk out the door one afternoon. This was after 5 yrs. Never again will any employer treat me that way.
For 5 years she is GOOD MB huh? and for that one period of time you CHOP/LABEL her as a raging BITCH?
Next time when you are in maternity leave I hope your husband wont call you a raging bitch and walk away!
Anonymous
09/19/2015 14:49
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
My ex employer was a raging bitch during maternity leave. I have no idea why I stayed. She was paranoid, micromanage me, rude, and indecisive. I told her to her face I was ready to walk out the door one afternoon. This was after 5 yrs. Never again will any employer treat me that way.
Anonymous
09/18/2015 02:21
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
It sounds like your nanny previously cared for your first child when you worked outside of the home. Now with you being home ten hrs. a day, the dynamic has changed dramatically, not in her favor.
I am sure you are truly concerned about their whereabouts during the day as any normal mother would and should be.
However, please keep in mind that for many nannies, working alongside the parent in the home is very complicated. It's like working in an office where your boss is right behind you, watching and listening to everything that you do.
Not saying that is what you are doing, but that is the gist of it.
If you want this whole set-up to work out and you most definitely DO NOT want to lose your nanny, then I suggest you back off a little, choose your battles wisely and give your nanny complete autonomy in her job.
Concentrate fully on your new baby and take some of your focus away from your nanny and your DD while she is in charge.
There needs to exist an important level of trust here and if you are texting her during the day, that might be a sign that you do not trust her completely. And if the nanny gets wind of this, she will understandably feel uncomfortable around you.
Good luck.
I am sure you are truly concerned about their whereabouts during the day as any normal mother would and should be.
However, please keep in mind that for many nannies, working alongside the parent in the home is very complicated. It's like working in an office where your boss is right behind you, watching and listening to everything that you do.
Not saying that is what you are doing, but that is the gist of it.
If you want this whole set-up to work out and you most definitely DO NOT want to lose your nanny, then I suggest you back off a little, choose your battles wisely and give your nanny complete autonomy in her job.
Concentrate fully on your new baby and take some of your focus away from your nanny and your DD while she is in charge.
There needs to exist an important level of trust here and if you are texting her during the day, that might be a sign that you do not trust her completely. And if the nanny gets wind of this, she will understandably feel uncomfortable around you.
Good luck.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 20:03
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny is mad because now she cant take a nap, cant call her friend, cant eat, cant let your daughter watch tv while in the house because now you are at home!
They want high pay, easy job but refuse to tolerate or give and take with simple issue like this.
+1000 This is what I found out when I stayed home. My nanny had the balls to not even change her routine while I was in the house.... She thought I wasn't up to walking around and I saw DD playing iPad, watching tv, and having tons of sweets and treats. All things my nanny had told me never happen. Immediately fired her.
Try paying more to get legal, educated nannies next time, Ladies.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 19:58
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Nanny is mad because now she cant take a nap, cant call her friend, cant eat, cant let your daughter watch tv while in the house because now you are at home!
They want high pay, easy job but refuse to tolerate or give and take with simple issue like this.
+1000 This is what I found out when I stayed home. My nanny had the balls to not even change her routine while I was in the house.... She thought I wasn't up to walking around and I saw DD playing iPad, watching tv, and having tons of sweets and treats. All things my nanny had told me never happen. Immediately fired her.