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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not cheap. She is getting $1/hr less because she brings her son. That's all.

Yikes, OP, she is totally taking advantage of you and you need a new nanny. You should also rethink automatically providing your nanny with all her meals. This isn't common. Most nannies bring their own food and help themselves to snacks (or, on occasion, simple sandwich fixings) if the NF wants to provide that perk. Giving a nanny free reign of your food every day can significantly increase your food budget because you are feeding another adult all day! Why would you do that? Next time, when interviewing, let your nanny know you expect her to bring her own food, like most of American workers do.

NEWS FLASH:
Most American workers have the option to go out during their one hour lunch time. They aren't tethered to their desk for 10-12 hours a day, or are you?

Irrelevant. Having the option to go out (which is not automatic for American workers) does not translate into free food on demand all paid for by the employers. Different things.

Also, there are many of us tethered to our desks or workplaces for our entire 10-12hr work day. Many of us don't have an hour to go out to lunch. More of us don't have the money to eat out every day and bring a sandwich or leftovers to eat at our desks. We are as busy, or busier, than you are. And no one, and I mean no one, is getting free food all day from our employers or, even more obnoxiously, expect our employers to stock specific food we want to eat.

You nannies are ridiculous. Bring your own lunch like everybody else.

Anonymous wrote:Why do MB don't tell their nannies to bring their own food from day 1. So that it won't be an issues. I can see so may thread on this topic.

We redid the contract year two with no food. It was just a pain in the ass for every involved. And a stupid negotiating point on her part originally.

Op, I hear you. The food cost would be ok if she was a great nanny and you can chalk it up to her pay. But doesn't sound like she is doing her job and is taking advantage of you. She doesn't treat your stuff, like washing machine, like her own. She may possibly be looking for opportunities to abuse her job. No one washes car mats at the employers house. That is not ok. I have serious concerns about how she is treating your kids with her own kids in sight. You know what you need to do.

Why do MB don't tell their nannies to bring their own food from day 1. So that it won't be an issues. I can see so may thread on this topic.

OP-- obviously the answer is find a new nanny! The way you talk about her, clearly the extra food cost is not the issue.

"The other day she took the kids for a walk, my son got bitten by some bug and had a huge bug bite on his leg, he was scratching and upset the whole time. They came back, my son ran to his dad ( DH was working from home that day) and asked him to do something, my husband asked our nanny as to what happened and she said she wasn't even aware that something had happened. Something like this shows negligent behavior and it's spilling into other areas. "

Your last examples were concerning. Your example above sounds nutso. I don't notice my kids get bit by mosquitos either until it turns into a big bump and they itch it a lot. And surprise surprise - you sometimes get bitten by bugs when you are outside.

OP here: The truth is that food cost comes to my mind because of her sub par performance. We pay her a competitive wage with 2 weeks vacation and 5 paid sick days, health insurance benefits etc. Kids will be back to preschool in September from 9-12, she is free to use that time for her own stuff, be it gym or just unwinding. We are not expecting her to do household chores or even be in the house if she doesn't want to. We treat her and her son well ( he is a really sweet kid, I am genuinely fond of him), I have never made a request without saying please first but I can't remind her everyday to finish her tasks, every single day. If I don't direct, kids will be eating PB&J for lunch 5 days a week, playroom will never be wiped down. She is so lazy that I question my hiring judgement.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, but who are all these nannies who are eating SO MUCH FOOD every week that it is breaking someone else's food budget? And I've never heard of a nanny not eating breakfast before they get to work.

A real nanny eats before she shows up, and packs her lunch. Who gets paid to make or cook their lunch and then eat it, at an office job? Most people grab sandwich and eat at their desk.

You tell me where you work, and I'll show you where people eat lunch. Just because you're wolfing down a P&J sandwich at your desk, doesn't mean most people do that. Not to mention the fact that getting outside for a breath of fresh air at noon will improve your afternoon productivity.

Btw, bimbo, a "real nanny" has nothing to do with how or when she eats her lunch. Your lack of common sense is shameful.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, but who are all these nannies who are eating SO MUCH FOOD every week that it is breaking someone else's food budget? And I've never heard of a nanny not eating breakfast before they get to work.

A real nanny eats before she shows up, and packs her lunch. Who gets paid to make or cook their lunch and then eat it, at an office job? Most people grab sandwich and eat at their desk.

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Anonymous wrote:Is $10/day really that big of a deal?

It's not a big deal at all if it's not your money.

Triple that!

This gets out of hand fast. It did for us for vacationing adult kids and bringing adolescents into the house.

Not only did our food turnover at hyper rates, creating more grocery trips and bills. Nanny was full out cooking 3-4 things for herself and kid for lunch, then eating, while our two kids sat in the playpen, went for naps late or just wandered the house. All While she complained that two kids no longer gave her time for her nap.

We ended that arrangement after two summers of sponsoring her and her kid.

Make the parent posters on this thread happy, OP, and fire your child's nanny. Stability doesn't matter. Then let us know how things are going in a few months.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not cheap. She is getting $1/hr less because she brings her son. That's all.

Yikes, OP, she is totally taking advantage of you and you need a new nanny. You should also rethink automatically providing your nanny with all her meals. This isn't common. Most nannies bring their own food and help themselves to snacks (or, on occasion, simple sandwich fixings) if the NF wants to provide that perk. Giving a nanny free reign of your food every day can significantly increase your food budget because you are feeding another adult all day! Why would you do that? Next time, when interviewing, let your nanny know you expect her to bring her own food, like most of American workers do.

NEWS FLASH:
Most American workers have the option to go out during their one hour lunch time. They aren't tethered to their desk for 10-12 hours a day, or are you?