What a bunch of crap most of these people are spewing (many of them no doubt nannies). I would have told my kid not to interrupt and to please go away and told my nanny to mind her own damn business--if she wants to tell the kid to please not interrupt her, that's fine, but the rest of her statement is nonsense.

High needs =spoiled brat. Not an excuse for bad behavior.

I have a high needs 5 year old too, so I get where you are coming from. But teaching boundaries and manners isn't impossible. We started with saying excuse me (and rewarded her by answering right away at first and praising saying excuse me), then moved on to waiting a bit when she says excuse me (but acknowledging that she said it), then to raising hand which was reinforced at preschool. Now she always raises her hand, we acknowledge and say something like "I will talk to you in 5 min after xyz" and rarely have an issue. Get nanny on board, obviously she is frustrated.

Anonymous wrote:I am so glad I read this thread because it has made it very clear to me I should never hire a nanny. You folks are horrible.

Educated nanny sometimes lack in common sense.

Her nanny should use more polite way to teach the kid.

Print this Taekwondo rules and stick it on the door so that the kid know the house rules:-

# Numbero cinco (8)


Home Rules for Children

Children:
1.must show respect to their parents and family members at all times.
2.shall greet their parents when they enter the house and tell them goodbye when they leave.
3.will be truthful at all times.
4.will maintain a good relationship with their brothers and sisters.
5.must help with household chores.
6.will keep their own rooms neat and clean.
7.must keep their body, hair, and teeth clean at all times, every day.
8.will not interrupt adult conversations.
9.will study their schoolwork at school and at home.
10.must show respect for teachers and peers at all times.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so glad I read this thread because it has made it very clear to me I should never hire a nanny. You folks are horrible.

You actually should never hire a nanny if that is what you got from this thread. I am sure all nannies applaud your decision. You couldn't afford one anyway.

- signed, an MB

+1 Most of the responses came from mothers like me. Perhaps it should be clear to you that you should never become a mother.

Anonymous wrote:I am so glad I read this thread because it has made it very clear to me I should never hire a nanny. You folks are horrible.

You actually should never hire a nanny if that is what you got from this thread. I am sure all nannies applaud your decision. You couldn't afford one anyway.

- signed, an MB

I am so glad I read this thread because it has made it very clear to me I should never hire a nanny. You folks are horrible.

Anonymous wrote:A high-quality nanny would be sensitive to your child's emotional needs and would be helping to gently prepare her to become and older sibling. Unfortunately, a high-quality nanny would steer clear of any parent who excuses age-inappropriate behavior with the BS label of "high needs." So you will need to get used to the low-quality of nanny that your questionable parenting choices will attract.

OP's kid is not a rare hot house orchid. She is a horridly behaved brat.

A high-quality nanny would be sensitive to your child's emotional needs and would be helping to gently prepare her to become and older sibling. Unfortunately, a high-quality nanny would steer clear of any parent who excuses age-inappropriate behavior with the BS label of "high needs." So you will need to get used to the low-quality of nanny that your questionable parenting choices will attract.

If they want a 10 minute debriefing , they can pay for it. 10 minutes a day is 50 minutes OT/wk x 50 weeks is a week,of overtime.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should get home 5-10 minutes before nanny's end time. Take 5 minutes to interact with your daughter, give her your full attention since she's most likely excited that you are home and then set up an activity like coloring or a puzzle and be very clear that she cannot interrupt you and the nanny while you are talking, unless it's an emergency. This way your daughter can interact with you immediately, nanny gets to leave on time, your child learns how to wait her turn, and you will actually get to hear everything nanny says.
If you're unable to get home early then ask nanny to write everything she wants to tell you in a notebook and you can go over it when you have a moment. Leave questions or comments in there and then nanny can answer them the next day

I do this. I noticed my mb would let the kids takeover our convos and she wanted to talk for 10 minutes everynight despite knowing I had an half hr commute in dead lock traffic. So I began keeping a journal. Guess what? She still stands there asking about bowel movements and did they make friends at the park for 10 minutes and tellinge to hold on while she looks at her kids art being shoved in her face. I just started picking up my things and waking towards the door. That jiggle from the keys makes her shut the kids up and respect that I'm trying to discuss things with her

Good for you! That's really excellent.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should get home 5-10 minutes before nanny's end time. Take 5 minutes to interact with your daughter, give her your full attention since she's most likely excited that you are home and then set up an activity like coloring or a puzzle and be very clear that she cannot interrupt you and the nanny while you are talking, unless it's an emergency. This way your daughter can interact with you immediately, nanny gets to leave on time, your child learns how to wait her turn, and you will actually get to hear everything nanny says.
If you're unable to get home early then ask nanny to write everything she wants to tell you in a notebook and you can go over it when you have a moment. Leave questions or comments in there and then nanny can answer them the next day

I do this. I noticed my mb would let the kids takeover our convos and she wanted to talk for 10 minutes everynight despite knowing I had an half hr commute in dead lock traffic. So I began keeping a journal. Guess what? She still stands there asking about bowel movements and did they make friends at the park for 10 minutes and tellinge to hold on while she looks at her kids art being shoved in her face. I just started picking up my things and waking towards the door. That jiggle from the keys makes her shut the kids up and respect that I'm trying to discuss things with her

Do you plan to send your kid to school, OP? If so, believe me, the teachers will let her know that the world does not revolve around her and to stop interrupting. You are a horrible parent for not teaching your child basic good manners.

Mom of 4 here. Children need to learn they cannot and should not interrupt adult conversations. Your nanny was right in this case.