Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread keeps popping up. Pretty funny.

Thanks to 9:41 today.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, please don't allow this to affect any references you may give her. You just don't know that she took them.
I can't imagine why a grown woman would steal your trains.

To sell them for profit.

And I can totally see that happening. I've had grown people steal my doormat. Seriously. I have no proof thus no legal recourse, but I know what happened and what it was.

OP, I'd ask her for a face to face meeting, without witnessing. Make sure she's not recording you, to avoid being sued for slander, then ask her what she knows about the trains. Tell her that if she has taken them and she returns them immediately, it won't influence the reference you're giving her. Read her non verbal clues very carefully and take it from there.

please, there is no slander if you tell the person that she stole something from you. slander if you tell others that she is a thief and have not proof to back it up.

I can't believe this thread keeps popping up. Pretty funny.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, please don't allow this to affect any references you may give her. You just don't know that she took them.
I can't imagine why a grown woman would steal your trains.

To sell them for profit.

And I can totally see that happening. I've had grown people steal my doormat. Seriously. I have no proof thus no legal recourse, but I know what happened and what it was.

OP, I'd ask her for a face to face meeting, without witnessing. Make sure she's not recording you, to avoid being sued for slander, then ask her what she knows about the trains. Tell her that if she has taken them and she returns them immediately, it won't influence the reference you're giving her. Read her non verbal clues very carefully and take it from there.

What a fool you are for hiring criminals. Duh.

Anonymous wrote:Also, please don't allow this to affect any references you may give her. You just don't know that she took them.
I can't imagine why a grown woman would steal your trains.

To sell them for profit.

And I can totally see that happening. I've had grown people steal my doormat. Seriously. I have no proof thus no legal recourse, but I know what happened and what it was.

OP, I'd ask her for a face to face meeting, without witnessing. Make sure she's not recording you, to avoid being sued for slander, then ask her what she knows about the trains. Tell her that if she has taken them and she returns them immediately, it won't influence the reference you're giving her. Read her non verbal clues very carefully and take it from there.

Is this them?!??!!

https://washingtondc.craigslist.org/nva/tag/5027688390.html

I have seen many instances where friends, family members, and employers think is something is missing. Then they think they've re-traced who was in the house and decided it could only be one person. It never panned out to be true. Many times the things were still in the house. Sometimes things were accidentally thrown out or donated. Even DH and I have done that. No one can accurately remember things that went on in the past, and accidents happen with donations, garbage, and just where things are placed in the house. Also, people generally forget who has had access to the house.

In addition, I highly doubt a repair person or a nanny would just feel like those trains are so valuable that they must steal them and risk their jobs, etc. If OP feels like she was always a good nanny, why pin this on her? She needs to chalk it up to one of those mysteries of life and get over it. I've had movers lose much more important things. It is fine to call and nicely ask her if she knows by chance where they are, under the idea that maybe she knows where they were moved to during re-organization or something. However it would be entirely unfair to think she knows for sure nanny took them, or have it affect any references she is asked to give.