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Anonymous wrote:My dream job is to be a stay at mom with a wealthy loving husband. I never want to nanny again.

Whats the difference? Being a nanny is like being a SAHM but at least you aren't a mooch on your husband.

The difference is that it's your kids, house and you make all the decisions. You're not a mooch because a marriage is a team effort. All the money we save on childcare, cleaning services etc would equal any income I'd bring in from working plus I get to spend quality time with my children and get stuff down around my house. Being a sahm is benefit to any husband as he never has to worry about home life because everything is taken care of.

BS to the income portion, cooking, cleaning, and childcare does not total to more than what a a working woman's salary would be.

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I agree, unless you didn't go to college because your plan all along was to mooch of a man a woman can earn more than the cost of childcare month quite easily. There are plants of working women who are still REAL moms who can keep a house clean and children happy.

I never said anything about what makes a "real" mom. Me prefering to be a sahm while my children are young has nothing to do with anyone else. I'm not mooching off a husband, if you have multiple children than staying home is financially cheaper than childcare. I want my kids to have the best childcare and that's not cheap. I have a degree in Human Services and i'm working towards my MSW, but unforunately that field is not lucrative. If i had a career in finance, law or medicine than maybe I would think differently about staying home. My statement about my husband having it easier if I stay home is true in many aspects. The division of labor would be clear and he could focus on work and family time since I would be handling everything else. It's not a gender stereotype of the 50's, it just makes sense to divide everything this way. Once I returned to work than we would go back to dividing household chores and childcare equally. SAHM is not easy and probably more stressful than being nanny since it's 24/7 but I would much rather do that than care for someone else's children and home under their terms.

I love moms like you. It's really the best thing for the children. But let the "working" mothers hate what you're doing. Deep down they know you've got the hardest, but most important job.

As a mom who SAH for 7years, I have to say that it wasn't as hard as being a working parent. I referred to it as retirement. I had to return to the work force because my kids were in school FT and just couldn't justify loafing about the house all day while my husband busted his balls.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these unrelated threads always degenerate into the wohm v. sahm war? So tiresome. The question posed to the nannies was what is your dream NANNY job? Stay on topic people.

Are you new here? These threads almost never stay on topic.

Anonymous wrote:Why do these unrelated threads always degenerate into the wohm v. sahm war? So tiresome. The question posed to the nannies was what is your dream NANNY job? Stay on topic people.

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Anonymous wrote:My dream job is to be a stay at mom with a wealthy loving husband. I never want to nanny again.

Whats the difference? Being a nanny is like being a SAHM but at least you aren't a mooch on your husband.

The difference is that it's your kids, house and you make all the decisions. You're not a mooch because a marriage is a team effort. All the money we save on childcare, cleaning services etc would equal any income I'd bring in from working plus I get to spend quality time with my children and get stuff down around my house. Being a sahm is benefit to any husband as he never has to worry about home life because everything is taken care of.

BS to the income portion, cooking, cleaning, and childcare does not total to more than what a a working woman's salary would be.

+1

I agree, unless you didn't go to college because your plan all along was to mooch of a man a woman can earn more than the cost of childcare month quite easily. There are plants of working women who are still REAL moms who can keep a house clean and children happy.

I never said anything about what makes a "real" mom. Me prefering to be a sahm while my children are young has nothing to do with anyone else. I'm not mooching off a husband, if you have multiple children than staying home is financially cheaper than childcare. I want my kids to have the best childcare and that's not cheap. I have a degree in Human Services and i'm working towards my MSW, but unforunately that field is not lucrative. If i had a career in finance, law or medicine than maybe I would think differently about staying home. My statement about my husband having it easier if I stay home is true in many aspects. The division of labor would be clear and he could focus on work and family time since I would be handling everything else. It's not a gender stereotype of the 50's, it just makes sense to divide everything this way. Once I returned to work than we would go back to dividing household chores and childcare equally. SAHM is not easy and probably more stressful than being nanny since it's 24/7 but I would much rather do that than care for someone else's children and home under their terms.

I love moms like you. It's really the best thing for the children. But let the "working" mothers hate what you're doing. Deep down they know you've got the hardest, but most important job.