It always blows my mind when people post questions and then get SUPER DEFENSIVE when they don't get the answer they want.

They didn't call you a liar, they may not have even intended to convey that they think you *might* be lying, but you decided that is what they meant.. I don't know if it's drama queen or guilty conscience or what but I think it's best that you part ways because aside from everything else in your post at 20:44 you just insinuated that you can't trust them so it's over now.

Anonymous wrote:Johnny Cash did not sing, Take this job
and shove it. Johnny Paycheck sang it.

Well you cannot blame the PP for confusing Johnny Cash from Johnny Paycheck.

I mean...it's not like the names are that different. Lol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Did they actually use the word "liar"?


No but they said " We don't know if it was us or any other reason why you don't want to come to work.". That insinuates they think I was not actually sick.

Ah, just as I thought. You're a drama queen, OP, focussed on telling off your soon to be ex employers because you have a complete narrative in your head about how wronged you are.

In reality, the simple truth is you want to leave this job. That's fine. You already lined up another job and you haven't been in this job long, so, well, clearly you were never committed to this job. Which is also fine. Rather than be all self involved with telling them off, just act like a simple professional and be done with it. Give your two weeks notice on Friday and move on.

You really have no clue what you are talking about. I took 3 days off but that does not meet I am not " committed' to the job. I was sick with a flu. I care for a 3.5 month old. It's dangerous to be around a baby that young with the flu. My employers told me to stay home. I was committed up until the point she made the comment about me not coming in because I didn't " like them".

I had every intention of turning this offer down but once it was insinuated that I was not sick, I accepted. Part of me does want to talk and work this out but I can't be certain they will be upfront and truthful about this.

Anonymous wrote:
Did they actually use the word "liar"?


No but they said " We don't know if it was us or any other reason why you don't want to come to work.". That insinuates they think I was not actually sick.

Ah, just as I thought. You're a drama queen, OP, focussed on telling off your soon to be ex employers because you have a complete narrative in your head about how wronged you are.

In reality, the simple truth is you want to leave this job. That's fine. You already lined up another job and you haven't been in this job long, so, well, clearly you were never committed to this job. Which is also fine. Rather than be all self involved with telling them off, just act like a simple professional and be done with it. Give your two weeks notice on Friday and move on.

It sounds to me like they wanted to make sure you were comfortable, and not upset about anything.

Not that think you are a liar.

Anonymous wrote:Did they actually use the word "liar"?

No but they said " We don't know if it was us or any other reason why you don't want to come to work.". That insinuates they think I was not actually sick.

Did they actually use the word "liar"?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just let it go OP. Move on. I'm sure that you leaving will be difficult and distressing for them - count that as your vengeance and just get on with things.

FWIW, I think you may need to develop a thicker skin in general - there will be all kinds of times when tone/attitude/communication styles vary from boss to boss and being able to successfully navigate those things can mean not taking things so personally.

But for this - chalk it up as a short episode and get on with your life.

I don't to be rude but you don't know me. I have very thick skin and I have dealt with my fair share of cristicism. While I don't normally see that with my job because I'm good at it, I have dealt with various issues. What I won't deal with I'd being called a liar. Its personal when someone calls me a liar. You may deal with that but I won't.

Of course I don't know you. I am only going on what you have written here. But what you wrote in your initial post was: MB and DB told me they were worried I was not interested in continuing to work for them because I missed days. They basically accused me of lying that I was sick just so I didn't have to go into work. They went on and on about how they are worried I missed those days because I don't like them. I am beyond upset because they basically called me a liar.

And you've repeatedly said that the reason you're leaving is because they accused you of lying.

But I could see a version of this where they were anxious, handled it poorly, etc... and you felt accused while they felt genuinely worried you were quitting. I'm just saying that if you base your plans on communications that perhaps you took more personally than was intended, then a relationship that could have been salvaged is instead destroyed.

It's great that you can move on so easily. But I also think it's a shame if this was just the result of poor/misunderstood communication. I didn't mean anything I said as an attack. But you're perceiving what I said as harshly as the interaction w/ your employers. Maybe there is a piece of this you could learn from. That's all. All the best to you (and to them) in finding better/happier working relationships.

Anonymous wrote:All sounds reasonable if not responsible way to handle illness.

I was one that though this is a situation that could be worked out. I understand if you don't want to. I can understand why you are upset.
This job truly may be a bad fit for you, and it could be the best to move on now early on rather than 2 years later when you are miserable.
My advice to you, and I am basing this only on what is written here as I don't know, you but it seems you need to work on communication when it comes to defining boundaries and standing up for yourself and resolving conflict. I don't mean that to be "nasty". Aside from this there are things that are bothering you about this job the "job creep", the lateness, that you don't have paid sick days, and I'm guessing there is more don't be afraid to advocate for what you need it doesn't have to be you not speaking up or quitting as your only options.

Good luck with your new job!

I didn't find your response nasty. I will admit that I'm not as assertive as I should be. I tend to be a pushover and that has led me to being in bad situations where I'm overworked.


Before this incident of being called a liar, we hit if off. I have worked with enough people to know when it's right. I felt that and so did she. She was so supportive late week, then she saw her in-laws and it all changed. I can't say what happened over the weekend but like I said, the conversation about missing work and my commitment is one thing. Attacking my character is another.

Anonymous wrote:Just let it go OP. Move on. I'm sure that you leaving will be difficult and distressing for them - count that as your vengeance and just get on with things.

FWIW, I think you may need to develop a thicker skin in general - there will be all kinds of times when tone/attitude/communication styles vary from boss to boss and being able to successfully navigate those things can mean not taking things so personally.

But for this - chalk it up as a short episode and get on with your life.

I don't to be rude but you don't know me. I have very thick skin and I have dealt with my fair share of cristicism. While I don't normally see that with my job because I'm good at it, I have dealt with various issues. What I won't deal with I'd being called a liar. Its personal when someone calls me a liar. You may deal with that but I won't.

All sounds reasonable if not responsible way to handle illness.

I was one that though this is a situation that could be worked out. I understand if you don't want to. I can understand why you are upset.
This job truly may be a bad fit for you, and it could be the best to move on now early on rather than 2 years later when you are miserable.
My advice to you, and I am basing this only on what is written here as I don't know, you but it seems you need to work on communication when it comes to defining boundaries and standing up for yourself and resolving conflict. I don't mean that to be "nasty". Aside from this there are things that are bothering you about this job the "job creep", the lateness, that you don't have paid sick days, and I'm guessing there is more don't be afraid to advocate for what you need it doesn't have to be you not speaking up or quitting as your only options.

Good luck with your new job!

Just let it go OP. Move on. I'm sure that you leaving will be difficult and distressing for them - count that as your vengeance and just get on with things.

FWIW, I think you may need to develop a thicker skin in general - there will be all kinds of times when tone/attitude/communication styles vary from boss to boss and being able to successfully navigate those things can mean not taking things so personally.

But for this - chalk it up as a short episode and get on with your life.

Anonymous wrote:How did you handle the 3 days off OP?
How did you inform them that you would need the time off?

I was feeling sick on the Monday I was working. I called MB at 6am ( per contract) and told her I felt worse ( fever, vomiting, congestion, achy, etc.). I told her I could still go in but I wanted to inform her. She said stay home. The night I updated her and so she said dont come in Wednesday either. I planned on Thursday going in but still felt horrible so she said stay. I felt sick but better Friday so I told MB I could go in.

How did you handle the 3 days off OP?
How did you inform them that you would need the time off?

OP again. Let me just say that I get where my bosses see coming from with the 3 sick days. If they were to bring up tht and their question about my interest in working for them, that's understandable and we would work it out. For them to call me a liar and claim I took off for other things besides sickness, is crossing the line to me. It shows clear mistrust and how they have such a negative view. They also whined how they thought it was them personally and how my former references all spoke highly about my reliability and me never missing days.

I don't know if I should tell them why I'm leaving anymore. I doubt want to seem like I'm playing the victim telling them how I feel I'm not trusted and so forth. I just know that I can't work for someone who thinks I would destroy my reputation for a sick day that im not even being paid for.