Anonymous wrote:Not so much trolls, but 2 or 3 nannies from another forum that are prone to stalking people on and off line.
They think themselves to be stellar nannies and the police of all nannies.
It's too bad the actual police have been contacted about them

This is the Op. I have not commented since yesterday. How this thread ended up is not what I was asking. I pointed no fingers at MB's or nannies. I have no war with anyone. My bosses over the past years have been good to me and I'm not here to complain or talk about parents or say negative things. Before I was a nanny, I was a chef and business owner, along with being a mother, and I know what hard work working and children are. Do not drag me into the nanny/Mb war.

I wanted to know why there is someone/someones poisoning the forum with extra vitriol lately. It's picked up over the past months and it's especially aimed at telling nannies they are no better than burger flippers or mothers that they suck. I'm a working mom, working 3 jobs just to support my teenage daughter and I, and when you are struggling just to keep your head above water, you don't have energy to troll the internet. I'm sick of weeding through the fighting.

That's all. Sorry for ranting, exhausted today.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the problem is the numerous inane and petty threads posted again and again. It's just one dumb question after another.

"I need to take a day off to see a doctor so I don't die, is this ok?"

"I

The list goes on and on and on and on.

First of all, huge exaggerations there.

Second, so? All forums have some amount of inanity. Does that give you an excuse to be rude, or nasty? How does it feel? Because kind humans don't speak to others that way, even anon.

Third, many of the nasty remarks have been about normal nanny issues, like guaranteed hours.

Fourth, you can call out inanity without being a jerk.

This one is ironic as well.

I'm the OP, and I wasn't attempting to fan the flames or be ironic. I would like this forum to at least be what it was last summer. There's always been shitty posters and there always will be, but as of late, it's been so bad, Jeff even had to come in and clean up one posting about Indian bosses because of the outright hatred. I read other sections of DCuM and it's not as nasty as it has become here, of late.
I have really honest intentions. I wanted to ask for some very serious, heartfelt advice but I'm not sure it's worth it anymore. But I can't post on the general parenting forum. I'm stuck here with a few decent folks over run by some trolls.

hahaha, riiiiight.

DCUM is a joke and it's not actually a good resource. It's quite misleading with inaccurate, exaggerated information (if you can call it that).
We got much better and valid market intel from speaking with colleagues, neighbors, agencies and other online sites than anonymous DCUM. New York City friends were most helpful at nanny terms, contract clauses, ways to structure things and how to communicate up front when interviewing. I wouldn't waste time with any of the nanny posters on DCUM.

As for the petty mean girl comments, and obvious repeat posters having conversations with themselves, it just makes DCUM more of a joke and gives English-writing nannies a poor rep.

I'm quiteaware of my options in information gathering. Relying on just one source would be silly. This board has a huge potential and Jeff seems like a caring person. You sound angry, especially if you are the same poster that railed at the just being happy with her Mb. It's a nanny board, it can be about spreading joy as much as sharing information.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you - though I think there is quite a bit of mom bashing also.

It's a mean, nasty place here - interspersed with occasionally really helpful feedback.

Pretty tough to navigate without getting drawn in or feeling like you're falling victim to just a couple of especially nasty people taunting us all for sport.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the problem is the numerous inane and petty threads posted again and again. It's just one dumb question after another.

"I need to take a day off to see a doctor so I don't die, is this ok?"

"I

The list goes on and on and on and on.

First of all, huge exaggerations there.

Second, so? All forums have some amount of inanity. Does that give you an excuse to be rude, or nasty? How does it feel? Because kind humans don't speak to others that way, even anon.

Third, many of the nasty remarks have been about normal nanny issues, like guaranteed hours.

Fourth, you can call out inanity without being a jerk.

This one is ironic as well.

I'm the OP, and I wasn't attempting to fan the flames or be ironic. I would like this forum to at least be what it was last summer. There's always been shitty posters and there always will be, but as of late, it's been so bad, Jeff even had to come in and clean up one posting about Indian bosses because of the outright hatred. I read other sections of DCuM and it's not as nasty as it has become here, of late.
I have really honest intentions. I wanted to ask for some very serious, heartfelt advice but I'm not sure it's worth it anymore. But I can't post on the general parenting forum. I'm stuck here with a few decent folks over run by some trolls.

hahaha, riiiiight.

DCUM is a joke and it's not actually a good resource. It's quite misleading with inaccurate, exaggerated information (if you can call it that).
We got much better and valid market intel from speaking with colleagues, neighbors, agencies and other online sites than anonymous DCUM. New York City friends were most helpful at nanny terms, contract clauses, ways to structure things and how to communicate up front when interviewing. I wouldn't waste time with any of the nanny posters on DCUM.

As for the petty mean girl comments, and obvious repeat posters having conversations with themselves, it just makes DCUM more of a joke and gives English-writing nannies a poor rep.