Anonymous wrote:We eat a lot of meat in our house and I would have no problem with my kids eating vegetarian meals whenever they're with the nanny. No big deal.

Personally, I would not bother making meatballs for the kids the night before. If you happen to have leftover meat from dinner, sure have the kids eat it for lunch the next day. But they'll also been just fine having rice & lentils for lunch instead. I would not inconvenience myself to make sure the kids were getting meat at every meal. Protein yes, meat no.

Kids raised in vegetarian households often have numerous health issues and growth problems.

We eat a lot of meat in our house and I would have no problem with my kids eating vegetarian meals whenever they're with the nanny. No big deal.

Personally, I would not bother making meatballs for the kids the night before. If you happen to have leftover meat from dinner, sure have the kids eat it for lunch the next day. But they'll also been just fine having rice & lentils for lunch instead. I would not inconvenience myself to make sure the kids were getting meat at every meal. Protein yes, meat no.

Is she doing all three meals with them? Otherwise, I agree with everyone else and say let her manage the meals she does, and you add meat for dinner.

Another option is not to cook so often. Make a huge batch of meatballs and freeze them. We do that with meatballs, meatloaf, and salmon cakes, which we serve to the kids on nights we run out of time for family dinner.

Your nanny sounds wonderful OP and it would be a shame to let her go over something this petty.

Your husband is being unreasonable and I wouldn't let him talk to the nanny about this issue because in doing so, he may offend her and she may end up quitting the position just by whatever he says to her.

She is entitled to her views on things and I really do not see them as being extreme. I think she is being very reasonable while your husband is being very unreasonable.

Tell him to leave her alone and if he really has an issue preparing the meat at night, then leave him out of it and assign him another "chore."

Former nanny here who was/is a vegetarian. I told my family the same thing your nanny told you OP except for me it came up in the interview because the kids were 1 and 3 when I started.
I did breakfast and lunch with the kids but rarely dinner, It was only an issue once, DH asked me to brown some hamburger meat so it would be done when he got home. I did it but the smell made me gag, it was nauseating for me. When he got hom I asked him to please not ask me to do that again due to the smell. He never asked again. I was with that family for 7 years and we managed to work around our food differences.

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Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

I looove how ageism is prejudice when talking about old people, but its totally cool to judge young nannies as a big, immature, technology-addicted monolith. Carry on.

You don't know what ageism means.

I'm also a vegetarian nanny. I've prepared meat for my charges, fwiw.

Your nanny sounds great, and you sound levelheaded. Tell your husband to get a grip!

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

Did you even read what you're quoting?

Sure did, and you never addressed my comment.

I spoke against eating too much soy and you are saying that I know nothing about phytoestrogen, implying that I support high soy consumption. Makes no sense.
Please tell me how dangerous phytoestrogens are (they aren't).
I can't wait to hear all about it!

This thread reminds me of trying to explain to overweight "fat acceptance" SJW feminists how they were actually hurting young girls not helping them. You are the same way with vegetarians.

What are you babbling about?

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

Did you even read what you're quoting?

Sure did, and you never addressed my comment.

I spoke against eating too much soy and you are saying that I know nothing about phytoestrogen, implying that I support high soy consumption. Makes no sense.
Please tell me how dangerous phytoestrogens are (they aren't).
I can't wait to hear all about it!

This thread reminds me of trying to explain to overweight "fat acceptance" SJW feminists how they were actually hurting young girls not helping them. You are the same way with vegetarians.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

Did you even read what you're quoting?

Sure did, and you never addressed my comment.

I spoke against eating too much soy and you are saying that I know nothing about phytoestrogen, implying that I support high soy consumption. Makes no sense.
Please tell me how dangerous phytoestrogens are (they aren't).
I can't wait to hear all about it!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

Did you even read what you're quoting?

Sure did, and you never addressed my comment.

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Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

I looove how ageism is prejudice when talking about old people, but its totally cool to judge young nannies as a big, immature, technology-addicted monolith. Carry on.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

I win this contest. My nanny is 76 and rock climbs with my DS strapped to her with a baby bjorn. They also walk 12 miles a day and then jog 4 more. One warm days she will top it off with 2 miles in the pool while DS watches from the side (he can't swim yet)

Oh please.

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Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

I win this contest. My nanny is 76 and rock climbs with my DS strapped to her with a baby bjorn. They also walk 12 miles a day and then jog 4 more. One warm days she will top it off with 2 miles in the pool while DS watches from the side (he can't swim yet)

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

Did you even read what you're quoting?