Anonymous
Post 11/05/2014 23:08     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:I'm serious. I still go to their home, which is super convenient for them. They still get a nanny. Why should I have to pay to watch my child too? Why should they care that I'm not paying child care?


because now it is a nanny share. When a nanny watched just my child, I paid 19. When she watched my child and another (and this my child got less attention), I paid 15 and the other mom paid 12 (it was at my house so I paid more)

The mom 's child is getting less attention and so the moms should pay less.
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2014 11:05     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
So you want basically a nanny share but refuse to "pay" for your portion of the share. Mmmmmmmm, ok.

No.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2014 14:26     Subject: Re:Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hire a nanny because I want DD to get the same level of care she gets from me. A nanny bringing her child isn't quite a share, but it is closer to a share than a dedicated nanny. I would expect to adjust compensation accordingly. I would be unlikely to hire a nanny seeking this type of arrangement though.


I have more than one child, close-together in age, so mine aren't getting one-on-one, either as of the birth of child #2

I also hire a nanny because I don't have to coordinate drop-off/pick-up, don't have to worry about days daycare is closed, or a child has a cold and can't go, or because I want my kid to take classes that daycare doesn't offer. I want the flexibility and continuity a nanny provides, vs. having to follow the daycare's rules and not knowing from day to day which caregivers are there or absent, or if someone is filling in ...

I don't want a nanny who brings her child because we are already dealing with multiple developmental needs, nap schedules, class schedules, car seats, etc.. I can decide which trade-offs I'm willing to make with my own kids (baby can't take a morning nap today, ok or not ok?), but I'm not willing to be in a position where I am either telling some poor woman that her child's needs must always come secondary to mine, or where my children are at the mercy of someone else's child's schedule.


+1. I have more than 1 child as well and while I am ok with my children not getting much one-on-one time because they have siblings I wouldn't want the nanny's attention split even more because she has her own child there too.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2014 12:42     Subject: Re:Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:I hire a nanny because I want DD to get the same level of care she gets from me. A nanny bringing her child isn't quite a share, but it is closer to a share than a dedicated nanny. I would expect to adjust compensation accordingly. I would be unlikely to hire a nanny seeking this type of arrangement though.


I have more than one child, close-together in age, so mine aren't getting one-on-one, either as of the birth of child #2

I also hire a nanny because I don't have to coordinate drop-off/pick-up, don't have to worry about days daycare is closed, or a child has a cold and can't go, or because I want my kid to take classes that daycare doesn't offer. I want the flexibility and continuity a nanny provides, vs. having to follow the daycare's rules and not knowing from day to day which caregivers are there or absent, or if someone is filling in ...

I don't want a nanny who brings her child because we are already dealing with multiple developmental needs, nap schedules, class schedules, car seats, etc.. I can decide which trade-offs I'm willing to make with my own kids (baby can't take a morning nap today, ok or not ok?), but I'm not willing to be in a position where I am either telling some poor woman that her child's needs must always come secondary to mine, or where my children are at the mercy of someone else's child's schedule.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2014 11:32     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The fact that parents pay for constant one on one care is what's wrong with kids these days. It's no wonder there are so many spoiled, self-centered brats who can't socialize.


You already said this earlier.

. Then you can get licensed, watch your own kids, and get laid to watch some others.




I think the poster who thinks kids are brats due to one on one care could really benefit from getting laid ?

Great autocorrect pp
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2014 09:44     Subject: Re:Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
I hire a nanny because I want DD to get the same level of care she gets from me. A nanny bringing her child isn't quite a share, but it is closer to a share than a dedicated nanny. I would expect to adjust compensation accordingly. I would be unlikely to hire a nanny seeking this type of arrangement though.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 21:07     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:The fact that parents pay for constant one on one care is what's wrong with kids these days. It's no wonder there are so many spoiled, self-centered brats who can't socialize.


You already said this earlier.

Why don't you open up a day care in your house. Then you can get licensed, watch your own kids, and get laid to watch some others.

Being a nanny isn't a good fit for you since you are missing some overriding concepts.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 21:02     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:I'm serious. I still go to their home, which is super convenient for them. They still get a nanny. Why should I have to pay to watch my child too? Why should they care that I'm not paying child care?


Every day?
Wear and tear on the house and everything.
Your share of mind and energy is now divided.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 18:31     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Please stop feeding the troll.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 13:45     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Anonymous wrote:The fact that parents pay for constant one on one care is what's wrong with kids these days. It's no wonder there are so many spoiled, self-centered brats who can't socialize.


Are you referring to yourself to justify your behavior?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 13:06     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Kids can have one on one care and still socialize. They have music classes, open gym, story time.

You must be a nanny who wants to bring their child and bitter because the family wants to pay you less because you want to bring your child along. The one on one care a nanny gives is for their needs such as feeding, cuddling, tending to when sick, teaching and so on. Bringing your own child will put their child second because you will most likely run to your own child or defend their actions before a nanny kid
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 11:23     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
The fact that parents pay for constant one on one care is what's wrong with kids these days. It's no wonder there are so many spoiled, self-centered brats who can't socialize.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 15:49     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
Obvious troll is obvious.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 06:08     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
This OP must be on drugs because no one this dumb should be left w/young children alone.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2014 21:57     Subject: Why should I have to take a paycut for bringing my child?
What do you think would be the response from nannies if a mb said she didn't understand why her nanny wanted more money to take care of a second child?

You are expecting something (daycare for your child) for free and don't understand why someone would have a problem with it. You can't understand why?