OP, I was on your side about this being too much time off ... until the 100% reliable 100% of the time thing. Are you 100% reliable 100% of the time? Or have you been taking time off to cover for your nanny (you know, a family issue).

You're delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We fired her after she got in this morning. We found replacement while she was gone. Hated to do it, but we need someone 100% reliable 100% of the time, not just part of the time. We cannot afford backup care and have no family nearby or friends who are available when someone dies.

Wow. No notice.

So you found a robot Nanny? That's the only one I can see being guaranteed 100% reliability. Human beings are prone to things like illness, family dying, etc. Or did you find someone who has no loved ones in their life, so they can be 100% dedicated to you? Plus I'm guessing you got some sort of written guarantee that they will never be ill during the time you need them.

Your previous nanny can consider herself lucky. I'm sure you would have been a real peach to work for.

+ 1. OP is delusional. She knows she is great and 100% reliable after one day. Something tells me she will go through a lot of nannies. I

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We fired her after she got in this morning. We found replacement while she was gone. Hated to do it, but we need someone 100% reliable 100% of the time, not just part of the time. We cannot afford backup care and have no family nearby or friends who are available when someone dies.

Wow. No notice.

So you found a robot Nanny? That's the only one I can see being guaranteed 100% reliability. Human beings are prone to things like illness, family dying, etc. Or did you find someone who has no loved ones in their life, so they can be 100% dedicated to you? Plus I'm guessing you got some sort of written guarantee that they will never be ill during the time you need them.

Your previous nanny can consider herself lucky. I'm sure you would have been a real peach to work for.

Wow, that's cold.

You know how everything that goes around comes around?

wow! you didn't even give her notice? I wish we knew who your new nanny is so we could warn her to never get sick or let anybody in her family die

We used care.com and found someone great!

Wow OP! How on earth did you find a replacement in 1 week flat? Were you already looking before nanny's in-law died?

I hope that either your nanny never gets ill and has no family or friends or that the hours she works are conducive to taking care of her own needs pre- or post-work. Maybe noon - 8pm???

OP here. We fired her after she got in this morning. We found replacement while she was gone. Hated to do it, but we need someone 100% reliable 100% of the time, not just part of the time. We cannot afford backup care and have no family nearby or friends who are available when someone dies.

I think when we get into these discussions, the unspoken issue is paid or unpaid. If I could find coverage, I would agree to the 4 days unpaid, but I would also plan to have a conversation about time off of any sort if she needed another last minute personal day anytime soon.

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Anonymous wrote:4 days seems excessive for a non-relative. A day for the funeral is one thing, or even 2 days to account for travel, but more than that is too much. If it were her own grandma that might be different, but for an inlaw? No way.

Okay, just for the sake of discussion - what if it were the nanny's best friend who she'd been extremely close with and had known her entire life? Would four days be too much time off to ask? Would it be appropriate to ask for time off at all since it's not a relative?

You can have a job or a week off to "grieve" ... pick one

Anonymous wrote:4 days seems excessive for a non-relative. A day for the funeral is one thing, or even 2 days to account for travel, but more than that is too much. If it were her own grandma that might be different, but for an inlaw? No way.

Okay, just for the sake of discussion - what if it were the nanny's best friend who she'd been extremely close with and had known her entire life? Would four days be too much time off to ask? Would it be appropriate to ask for time off at all since it's not a relative?

Give her notice now and let her use those 4 days of leave unpaid to look for a new job.

4 days seems excessive for a non-relative. A day for the funeral is one thing, or even 2 days to account for travel, but more than that is too much. If it were her own grandma that might be different, but for an inlaw? No way.

Wow, just wow. I knew people on the east coast were more distant then other parts of the country but this bad. I can't imagine not coming together to observe the passing of an elder, on either side of my family. Our grandmothers spend their entire lives caring for us and our children. Can we not take four days of our own to show respect for everything they gave to us? This is lack of familial connection is the reason America is sick. My family would take care of me in any circumstance, my employer would lay me off with no ceremony if it served their bottom line. My priorities follow accordingly. OP you made some good points but questioning her need to be with family after a death, only four days at that, is heartless.