Anonymous
10/08/2014 19:55
Subject: Re:Ok to say I love you?
I am so surprised that some nannies feel uncomfortable expressing love. I mean, independence and intelligence and respect and all that are all fine goals but the whole pursuit of life boils down to love. You can have everything else and still be incomplete. Young girls in particular must be shown what healthy love is like. Early attachments are models for future relationships, and love is vital to a healthy relationship. Idk, just seems like one of those times where the job is more then just the job description.
Anonymous
10/08/2014 19:54
Subject: Ok to say I love you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think I may be the minority but I don't tell my charges " I love you". I work with young infant and toddler children. I was leaving one night after work and the mom tells her son ( speaking for him, he's 9 months) " I love you". I felt very awkward and didnt say it back. It was like an awkward moment when the guy you are dating says he loves you but you don't feel the same.
I would be weirded out in your situation too. I've never said, "I love you," to any of my charges first and definitely wouldn't say it if the mom said it pretending to be the baby. But what will you do when the kids get old enough to say it themselves? It's funny you brought up the part about it being like a guy your dating says it when you don't feel the same. I've had that happen before and it was so awkward. I've had kids who I randomly babysit for tell me they love me and I didn't feel the same way. I said it back to them because I couldn't bear to hurt them and of course I care about them.
If my charge is old enough and says " I love you" I will of course say it back. I absolutely loved my charge in reference but it was weird that MB said it as I'd he did. We still stay in touch and she is wonderful but I wouldn't say " I love you" unless my charge said it first.