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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Just go away OP. No one here thinks you're the martyred wronged party. The MB will find a solution, hopefully someone of better nature. Hopefully you'll find a position with an employer for whom you have more respect when you're ready to return.

Different poster here, and you need to STFU.

Guess you failed charm school. You're probably also the OP.

No, I'm not OP, and yes, I get paid to teach manners. Part of that means NOT being your doormat. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Just go away OP. No one here thinks you're the martyred wronged party. The MB will find a solution, hopefully someone of better nature. Hopefully you'll find a position with an employer for whom you have more respect when you're ready to return.

Different poster here, and you need to STFU.

Guess you failed charm school. You're probably also the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Just go away OP. No one here thinks you're the martyred wronged party. The MB will find a solution, hopefully someone of better nature. Hopefully you'll find a position with an employer for whom you have more respect when you're ready to return.

Different poster here, and you need to STFU.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.

-OP.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Just go away OP. No one here thinks you're the martyred wronged party. The MB will find a solution, hopefully someone of better nature. Hopefully you'll find a position with an employer for whom you have more respect when you're ready to return.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you post here at all, OP?

Because I was wondering if it was completely terrible that I quit my job. I kind of felt that MB's response was an overreaction.

How is being sad that a beloved employee leaving you an overreaction? Showing emotions is normal...

emotion is normal, hysterical wailing is not.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Not bragging or trolling.

I really do want to make this better but I have no other options. I cannot give anymore notice as I just got notice of family issues back home. I have a friend who is a nanny and I offered her services to MB. My friend said that she is open to a share situation for the 2 months or so that I will be gone. MB didn't say anything about the share, she only asked if I will be able to work for them again after I return.

I only "quit" because I didn't want them to have to hire a temp nanny. I felt that if I leave I can just move on and so can they.

Why did you post here at all, OP?


Because I was wondering if it was completely terrible that I quit my job. I kind of felt that MB's response was an overreaction.

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Anonymous wrote:Legally she cannot sue you because employment is at will and is a civil matter and most people do not take the time and effort to go into a court of law to sue. They are too busy searching for a replacement and scrambling for childcare.

If this lady was good to you, then I think you should do all that you can for her to help her find someone else. Do you have someone responsible and trustworthy you can recommend, even temporary while she searches for someone long-term? To leave her high & dry as a nurse will be an extreme hardship for her OP.

Is there any way you can stay a little while longer?

Op here.

Thanks for your reply! at most I can stay two weeks but then I really have to get home.

Ok, so if you can stay 2 weeks then stay 2 weeks. I'm not sure what your point of posting was unless you just wanted to hear people tell you that you are doing the right thing and too bad for your NF.

I don't think most people will fault you for doing what you need to do for your own family. Your obligation is to them first, then your NF, and that's fine. Whether you meant it that way or not, your post was kind of critical of your MB for being upset that she needs to find a replacement for you on short notice. Your post was asking what you could do to make it better but in all your follow-up posts you basically said there was nothing you could do, so why did you ask? That is why it just seems like you are looking for people to agree with you that your MB overreacted and you should just go and not look back.

I think the situation just sucks for everyone. It sucks for you that you have a family emergency and have to leave and it also equally sucks for your NF that they only have 1 week to scramble to find reliable and trustworthy nanny care. It doesn't matter how much money they have, it still takes time (not money) to find a good and trustworthy person to take care of your child. And it's not the same as just having backup care, that's for a week or less if your nanny is sick or takes vacation (and you usually have more than 1 week notice when a nanny takes vacation). So while you need to do what you need to do just accept that it is hard for your NF now too.