Anonymous
06/16/2014 12:08
Subject: I thought I answered the questions decently, was told I "gave the run around" and was "too lectury"
Yes, I think that the nanny answering the 'defiant child' question was right on - there ARE lots of reasons why that child might be defiant, etc. and it's important to know the situation, child, etc. But I also like the idea of giving a specific example, such as the one about the holding hands across the street.
JHere's the thing - we ALL must use the tools available to us when we interview/are interviewed, but we ALSO MUST use our intuition, our gut feeling, and not hire someone we don't "feel good" about and not accept a position we "don't feel good about." I've done the latter (not as a nanny) and it made my life heck for 3 years - I should never have taken the position, etc. On the other hand, I met my wonderful husband through taking that job, so there was one benefit to the nightmare!
JHere's the thing - we ALL must use the tools available to us when we interview/are interviewed, but we ALSO MUST use our intuition, our gut feeling, and not hire someone we don't "feel good" about and not accept a position we "don't feel good about." I've done the latter (not as a nanny) and it made my life heck for 3 years - I should never have taken the position, etc. On the other hand, I met my wonderful husband through taking that job, so there was one benefit to the nightmare!
Anonymous
06/14/2014 22:31
Subject: Re:I thought I answered the questions decently, was told I "gave the run around" and was "too lectur
Anonymous wrote:I am a new MB and I definitely don't have much experience, but I liked your answers. I find it hilarious that they sent you that ridiculous questionnaire and then said you made *them* feel exhausted.
LOL, so true!
Anonymous
06/14/2014 22:30
Subject: I thought I answered the questions decently, was told I "gave the run around" and was "too lectury"
Anonymous wrote:Well, someone else answered the questions better.So I'm an MB. What I might want to hear from you is a question back to me:
"Of course, there's no single answer. Different families do these things differently, each kid is different, things change, and so on. Before I answer, do you mind if I ask you what your approach is, or maybe you can tell me if there are any specific situations or concerns you're thinking about? Because I think it's important that we work together, especially since I work for you and you are the parents."
And then if they press you, you might say,
"Well, if I had no guidance to start with, I might do something like this: _____ *and feel free to ask me to elaborate. And then ______ * and feel free to ask me to elaborate. And another thing _____* again, that's just in general. Let me know if I've offered enough information. But again, maybe the best way is to come to an agreement about some general principles and then figuring out the details with the parents, especially once we get to know what the child's own needs are. One thing I can tell you is that I'm pretty good at keeping my cool when the going gets rough!"
I am the OP here again... I love your answers here. It conveys my attitude very well regarding viewing the relationship between a prospective employer and me being one of a collaborative partnership... thanks!
Anonymous
06/14/2014 18:56
Subject: Re:I thought I answered the questions decently, was told I "gave the run around" and was "too lectur
I am a new MB and I definitely don't have much experience, but I liked your answers. I find it hilarious that they sent you that ridiculous questionnaire and then said you made *them* feel exhausted.