Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 19:58     Subject: When parents can't pay.
that's a huge red flag op. I hope you find something else soon. even two or three part time jobs would bebetter.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 19:08     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think so much of this depends on how long you have worked for him, how he has been in the past as an employer etc..

If he has been a great boss and you have an established history of him being responsible then I think having some understanding of the fact that his spouse walking out on the family threw his family into turmoil doesn't mean you are being taken advantage of. He may truly be somewhat traumatized and off his game as he tries to readjust.

That doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't look for another job but it doesn't automatically mean he is a horrible person.


Op here.

I just started the position. He originally said that he would pay every 2 weeks. Then my first paycheck didn't come till 6 weeks after I started.

Wow. That's really incredible. What's his job?
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 18:55     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:I think so much of this depends on how long you have worked for him, how he has been in the past as an employer etc..

If he has been a great boss and you have an established history of him being responsible then I think having some understanding of the fact that his spouse walking out on the family threw his family into turmoil doesn't mean you are being taken advantage of. He may truly be somewhat traumatized and off his game as he tries to readjust.

That doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't look for another job but it doesn't automatically mean he is a horrible person.


Op here.

I just started the position. He originally said that he would pay every 2 weeks. Then my first paycheck didn't come till 6 weeks after I started.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 10:32     Subject: When parents can't pay.
I think so much of this depends on how long you have worked for him, how he has been in the past as an employer etc..

If he has been a great boss and you have an established history of him being responsible then I think having some understanding of the fact that his spouse walking out on the family threw his family into turmoil doesn't mean you are being taken advantage of. He may truly be somewhat traumatized and off his game as he tries to readjust.

That doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't look for another job but it doesn't automatically mean he is a horrible person.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 08:42     Subject: When parents can't pay.
I'd even try taking a job outside the nanny field just until you find something new. Do lots of babysitting on the side
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2014 08:38     Subject: When parents can't pay.
OP, why five weeks?

Normally I would be on board with everyone else ("What are you still doing there???!!"); but a few questions:

Do you like him? Is he nice? Is he otherwise a good employer?
What is your hourly wage, and is it fair for that area/# of kids/your duties?
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2014 19:47     Subject: When parents can't pay.
He can only pay every five weeks?? I hope one of your interviews tomorrow works out! Then tell him your bills have to be paid more than every five weeks.

Anonymous
Post 01/19/2014 19:27     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?


Do whatever you want. You're not listening to anybody's advice anyway.


How am I not listening? I have been looking for a new job this whole time the DB was stringing me along. I think people on here think I can just waltz into a new position. Well its harder than that. So, in the meantime, I stayed in a crappy position. I am still looking for a job and I have 2 interviews tomorrow.


I hope you find a great position soon, OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2014 08:43     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?


Do whatever you want. You're not listening to anybody's advice anyway.


How am I not listening? I have been looking for a new job this whole time the DB was stringing me along. I think people on here think I can just waltz into a new position. Well its harder than that. So, in the meantime, I stayed in a crappy position. I am still looking for a job and I have 2 interviews tomorrow.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 20:45     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?


Do whatever you want. You're not listening to anybody's advice anyway.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 19:31     Subject: When parents can't pay.
What happens every five weeks?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 19:06     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?


Do whatever you want. You're not listening to anybody's advice anyway.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 18:49     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?


You should look for a job. The only reason he'd be able to give you a paycheck every five weeks is that he is not good at budgeting.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 18:33     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Yes, I was paid. DB is now saying that he can only pay every 5 weeks. What should I do?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2014 01:33     Subject: When parents can't pay.
Op did you get paid?