Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Ignore the crazy troll woman, OP. She uses the same lame tactic for everyone she doesn't like. It's her bully behavior.

At least three people called out this troll.

You. You. You.

Well! This has got to be the worst for you OP!

You have a nanny you love. You planned to get pregnant again and she said she would be there. Now look. She went and got engaged. Your whole plan for the next however long is now so much more stressful.

What a rude, inconsiderate woman. I think you should replace her ASAP with someone too old to be concerned with such things as getting married etc. and completely on board with you and your plans. You need an Alice.

Or.. you could grow up and realize how selfish you are being. If you conceive on schedule you have almost a year to find a new nanny to love.

I have a few simple questions for you, OP. Seriously.

Why do you think your desire to get pregnant trumps your nanny's desire to get married?

What did you expect her to say to her fiance/bf? "No, Todd, I can't get engaged to you right now. I should stay working for my employer because they may be pregnant in two months." And risk her relationship not working out or being stressed? Because you plan to be pregnant and have a baby in a year? When is it ok for her to get married, then? If you honestly think she should have said that, check yourself into a center for egomaniacs this second!

Anonymous wrote:
Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Ignore the crazy troll woman, OP. She uses the same lame tactic for everyone she doesn't like. It's her bully behavior.

At least three people called out this troll.

I think the OP is upset because she talked to the nanny a month ago and the nanny said she was definitely staying on for an extended period of time. It sounds like the nanny isn't giving her 6 months notice but more immediate notice. The nanny is going to live off her fiancé until they get married in 6 months.

The nanny communicated that she planned to stay a month ago, now she isn't. I doubt the nanny had no idea she would get engaged. I doubt the nanny had never considered that the minute she was engaged she would stop working. I can understand why the nanny lied in omission in telling the OP if she got engaged she would stop working but I can also understand why the OP feels the nanny betrayed her trust.

Get a life lady. She has one clearly you don't!

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Ignore the crazy troll woman, OP. She uses the same lame tactic for everyone she doesn't like. It's her bully behavior.

But again, you have NO WAY of being certain you'll be able to both conceive AND and keep a pregnancy within the next two months as you've planned. And also again, your nanny just gave you five and a half months more notice than most people give.

OP, if you are for real you are waaaaay out of line and absurdly self-centered. You will find another nanny when it's necessary. That's all.

In the meantime, hopefully you will be gracious and try to keep your attitude a secret.

Your nanny has a life and it does not revolve around you or your potentially expanding family. Get a grip.

- MB

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Why is this even relevant? So you told the nanny you wanted to have another child. What does that imply, in your mind? Does that mean she needs to commit to stay with you for the duration of your pregnancy, plus 3-5 more years until your child is in school? I'm not following you.

OP, use an agency next time. Then there's no stress if your nanny turns out to be a human being who can't plan the next 5 years of her life around your reproductive plans. They'll find you someone new.

I get being disappointed that she's leaving, but really? You sound so, so selfish.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Once pregnant, you generally have 9 MONTHS to plan as well. So get on it now, OP. You are just being a whiny brat. It is YOUR job to ensure that your children are cared for, not your nanny's. She owes you nothing and certainly shouldn't put her life on hold because you want to move on with yours. No one is going to be on your side, so you best just suck it up and move on.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Repeat after me; "Everything isn't about me. It is not fair to expect my nanny to live her life to my convenience."

You have to realize how nutty you're being OP. your nanny's engagement has nothing to do with you. She didn't wake up and say "Well gee, I hope my boyfriend proposes so I can screw my nanny family today". Get over yourself and try to be happy for her. How would you have felt if, back when you got engaged, your current boss instead of congratulating and being happy for you, they pouted and acted as though you were somehow wronging them? Insane right?

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.

Only you can be pregnant so stop saying "we".

Op here. Not a troll. I am serious. I know it is bad to "plan" pregnancies as they sometimes take longer, but I did tell the nanny that we are trying. I feel like once we are pregnant everything will get much more stressful.