OP, I bet there's more to the story than you know. It's pretty rude not to go to a wedding that you've rsvp'd to. I bet MB and DB had some big fight that morning. Let it go.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

THIS!!!!!!!!<3

The OP had the opportunity to take the day off. She opted to work instead. What the DB does while she's working is not her concern. Maybe he just wanted to relax on one of HIS two days off.

I don't know about you, 2:27, but what the parents are doing while I'm "helping" them with their childcare IS my concern, at least as far as it affects my ability to do my job properly.

hmmm no, if I accept to take care of the children on a Sunday, I dont care if parents are around or not. If one is around to "help" (usually not a help anyway) then great. If nobody around to help, then fine as well. I can certainly handle the kids on my own regardless of what the parents are doing. I dont see how it should be your concern. You guys whine soo much!!!!!

MB here, but former weekend nanny. I can sympathize with the feeling of working with kids with parents home - it can indeed be difficult and as a former weekend nanny, I can tell you that I used to do it every weekend for 3 years. I worked for a SAHM and a dad who worked during the week. They had an au pair who worked M-F, and I worked Fri night - Sun night. On weekends, they wanted me around so they could do stuff. That included riding horses, gardening, going out for dinner, whatever they felt like. It did indeed make it hard on the kids sometimes so I really do understand your dilemma.

But, the problem is that you don't get to decide what they do. You're there to watch the children. If you hate it that much, your only recourse is to try to avoid accepting additional hours if you know they will be home. Otherwise, find ways to be creative in managing the situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

Here is what the OP would look like if the MB/DB would have done what you said;

I'm so annoyed and don't know how to handle the situation. I was supposed to sit for my regular family tonight while MB and DB went to a wedding. I didn't make plans for myself tonight in order to sit for them. MB just called and said DB isn't going to the wedding now so they don't really need me. They gave me the option to work anyway but why would I want to do that when DB will be there too? It's just going to make watching the kids that much more difficult. So now I'm home with no plans for the evening AND I'm not getting paid.

Things come up and MBs/DBs can't always be mind readers to know EXACTLY what the nanny/sitter would prefer in every situation.

It's called "communication", 7:33. When you have a change of plans, you simply communicate. Shouldn't that be routine?

They didn't have a change of plans. They planned to use her, as agreed WITH HER, and they did. There's no change. The only change is that DB stayed home, but the nanny doesn't get to decide what he does. If she no longer wants to sit when one parent is home, she should say so. From what she wrote, DB didn't get into her space or business, he simply vegged out.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

Here is what the OP would look like if the MB/DB would have done what you said;

I'm so annoyed and don't know how to handle the situation. I was supposed to sit for my regular family tonight while MB and DB went to a wedding. I didn't make plans for myself tonight in order to sit for them. MB just called and said DB isn't going to the wedding now so they don't really need me. They gave me the option to work anyway but why would I want to do that when DB will be there too? It's just going to make watching the kids that much more difficult. So now I'm home with no plans for the evening AND I'm not getting paid.

Things come up and MBs/DBs can't always be mind readers to know EXACTLY what the nanny/sitter would prefer in every situation.

It's called "communication", 7:33. When you have a change of plans, you simply communicate. Shouldn't that be routine?

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

Here is what the OP would look like if the MB/DB would have done what you said;

I'm so annoyed and don't know how to handle the situation. I was supposed to sit for my regular family tonight while MB and DB went to a wedding. I didn't make plans for myself tonight in order to sit for them. MB just called and said DB isn't going to the wedding now so they don't really need me. They gave me the option to work anyway but why would I want to do that when DB will be there too? It's just going to make watching the kids that much more difficult. So now I'm home with no plans for the evening AND I'm not getting paid.

Things come up and MBs/DBs can't always be mind readers to know EXACTLY what the nanny/sitter would prefer in every situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

Here is what the OP would look like if the MB/DB would have done what you said;

I'm so annoyed and don't know how to handle the situation. I was supposed to sit for my regular family tonight while MB and DB went to a wedding. I didn't make plans for myself tonight in order to sit for them. MB just called and said DB isn't going to the wedding now so they don't really need me. They gave me the option to work anyway but why would I want to do that when DB will be there too? It's just going to make watching the kids that much more difficult. So now I'm home with no plans for the evening AND I'm not getting paid.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think you understood the question PP, but thanks..

A) Don't be a bitch; PP gave a perfectly reasonable and on-topic response
B) Don't be a pushover; as stated, YOU set the terms and expectations. If you prefer not to work weekends, you can decline. If you want a firm end time, say so! If they ask you to sit on a Saturday, tell them "I am free from 10-3." If those hours don't work for them, they can get a different sitter. Also, if you have agreed in advance on a given end time then you don't have to ask--you can just say, "Hey, wanted to remind you that I am leaving at 3." If they don't relieve you on time after that, then you have a different probem, but right now you aren't setting clear boundaries and expectations and then complaining about it on the internet--not productive.

You're the one coming off like a bitch, not OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done this before- we had scheduled our sitter and DH was not feeling well. We thought the sitter would be annoyed if we cancelled on her- so had her come work anyhow.

You know what would have been less annoying? Calling your sitter, explaining the situation (mainly that she was not really needed and another adult would be there the whole time) and seeing if she still wanted to come in. It seems like a very difficult concept for many MB's to grasp that their sitters and nannies have lives outside of making money, and usually, when given the choice, will take the night off.

THIS!!!!!!!!<3

The OP had the opportunity to take the day off. She opted to work instead. What the DB does while she's working is not her concern. Maybe he just wanted to relax on one of HIS two days off.

I don't know about you, 2:27, but what the parents are doing while I'm "helping" them with their childcare IS my concern, at least as far as it affects my ability to do my job properly.