I used to work for a crazy lady who wouldn't let me cross the street with the pram. At the cross walk.

If you're a SAHM or WAHM please let the nanny leave the house.

Look, when people hire an experienced nanny, they get what they get, based on 10-20+ years worth of established history.

If you didn't like her references, why would you hire her???

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

And if she wants to interact with another adult during the course of her 8.5 hour day, she will tell you and get a new job.

A lot of nannies seem to forget that work=work!! It's a JOB!! It's not about *gasp* you and your wants/desires!! Wow, what a shocking revelation, right??

(written by a nanny who is always annoyed with other nannies who think the world [and their jobs] revolve around them)

I understand where you're coming from. Yes it's a job. Yes OP is allowed to make whatever rules she damn well pleases. All the nannies are pointing out is that the nanny is free to take it or leave it, and an employer should always weigh the reasonableness of their request. I don't choose positions that I wouldn't be happy at, as I'm sure most employees wouldn't. An employer can ask their employee to wipe their butt for them, you just have to ask yourself how likely is it that someone will take this job and stick around? For a 2 day/ week position, I don't think asking nanny to stay at home is unreasonable, but for a full time position, you'd have more difficulty finding someone who'd be happy with that.

Your not considering rainy and bad weather days. If your a no tv family it would be impossible to plan activities and keep children busy (ESP if mom is home) for those two long days a week. It will wear on your nanny and children and the general feeling of restlessness that everyone will feel. The park and library are great 2 hour trips 10-12 come home for lunch and rest. You children will benefit from these trip and it will be great for them to have a change of scenery. Trust you nanny and let outings happen when the weather isn't good for playing outside.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

And if she wants to interact with another adult during the course of her 8.5 hour day, she will tell you and get a new job.

A lot of nannies seem to forget that work=work!! It's a JOB!! It's not about *gasp* you and your wants/desires!! Wow, what a shocking revelation, right??

(written by a nanny who is always annoyed with other nannies who think the world [and their jobs] revolve around them)

Yes, childcare IS indeed a job, regardless of who's doing it. Hence,

Happy nanny = Happy family

If mom was running the household, you'd say:

Happy mommy = Happy family

Whoever is running the show (on site), sets the tone for all.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

And if she wants to interact with another adult during the course of her 8.5 hour day, she will tell you and get a new job.

This is *two* days out of the nanny's week! We aren't talking about a 40-50 hour work week where she's stuck in one area. Give me a break.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

And if she wants to interact with another adult during the course of her 8.5 hour day, she will tell you and get a new job.

A lot of nannies seem to forget that work=work!! It's a JOB!! It's not about *gasp* you and your wants/desires!! Wow, what a shocking revelation, right??

(written by a nanny who is always annoyed with other nannies who think the world [and their jobs] revolve around them)

Anonymous wrote:It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

And if she wants to interact with another adult during the course of her 8.5 hour day, she will tell you and get a new job.

It isn't rocket science.
Are you the parent?
Do you want her to stay around the house?
Do you want her to go on neighborhood walks?

There are your answers. If you don't want her driving your kids, say no.

Even if she comes two days a week, she still is w/your kids a loong day OP. Kids can get bored a lot in that amount of time as well as the nanny. What would be the harm in daily outings? It would be a nice refreshing change for everyone involved. Trust me, you would have a happier nanny which would equal happier kids. It is completely unfair to expect her to sit around the house all day long 2x week. And NO (!), the backyard doesn't count.

Esp. if the weather is nice, it doesn't make any sense to me that the nanny and two children are bound to the house those 17 hr. per wk. Seems a little restrictive to me.

OP here. It isn't that she HAS to stay in the house, I have no problem with her driving them. If she wants to take them out its fine with me, if she doesn't want to that's fine with me too. I basically was just wondering what the norm was, and they do go outside several times a day

Anonymous wrote:What is ten miles away?

The nearest park and library. Anything other than a park and library is even further and an interstate drive.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like I said, OP has a bad match.

Why? OP said the nanny hasn't brought it up and doesn't seem eager to do it either. She was just wondering what is reasonable.

What's "reasonable" is what the nanny needs to do. Some nannies may think it's reasonable to never go outside. If she doesn't want to, you got yourself the wrong nanny.

Well, no. What is reasonable is what is best for the children, provided it is considerate of and fair to the nanny. And OP never said anything about the nanny never taking the children outside. Far from it - she said they have a big backyard and a pool with lots of toys and a swing set.

A nanny does what's best for the children. A lazy slob doesn't, regardless of her relationship with the children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like I said, OP has a bad match.

Why? OP said the nanny hasn't brought it up and doesn't seem eager to do it either. She was just wondering what is reasonable.

What's "reasonable" is what the nanny needs to do. Some nannies may think it's reasonable to never go outside. If she doesn't want to, you got yourself the wrong nanny.

Well, no. What is reasonable is what is best for the children, provided it is considerate of and fair to the nanny. And OP never said anything about the nanny never taking the children outside. Far from it - she said they have a big backyard and a pool with lots of toys and a swing set.