Anonymous wrote:As a young 3-4 year old child, I told my mother that a babysitter was extremely inappropriate with me and my mother never confronted the sitter or stopped using her. As an adult, I resent my mother for not protecting me as a child when I told her what happened to me and she did nothing about it. I believe that I chose to be a nanny at a very young age because I wanted to protect children and felt like if I could protect even 1 child, I was making a difference.

I don't usually share my experience with people but I just felt that it's necessary to point out that while children can have wild imaginations, they also could be telling the truth.

I have to agree. I also, as a young child, had horrible experiences with a babysitter. I told my sister (3 yrs older) who told me I was lying and to not tell my parents. I don't know if she had similar experiences (after I was asleep) or she just didn't believe me. I always got very upset when I heard my parents were going to be using that sitter, never any others, but they never asked why (and I was too scared to tell them about it myself without being asked). I eventually blocked it out of my memory until I was around 15 yrs old. I have never had a good relationship with my parents or my sister since I started to remember what had happened.

While there are some nannies/sitters that are BAD people, I think in this case it was most likely the child misconstruing the situation(s) with the nanny if not outright lying.

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Going a bit off track here but OP you keep saying that nanny raised her voice. In all your posts you have said this.

Are you concerned that she shouted or screamed?
I'm not sure why you keep bringing it up.

If a child does something wrong do you want your nanny to just sing song the "warning" "talking too" etc

No nanny (and not you either) should scream or shout at child but a child should she when they have done wrong it isn't sunshines and rainbows. Yes she should here stern raised voices. Its an emotion and something that should be seen.
Not everyone will coddle your child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid sounds like a brat; you sound like a cheap PITA.

You sound like a below min wage type "babysitter". Get off

this site, it's supposed to be for professional nannies, not the low class.

Not a babysitter or nanny. I just recognize a brats and bitches.

Anonymous wrote:OP back. This all pretty much confirms my hunch. I plan to talk to the nanny later in privacy. I doubt she actually did anything (except raise her voice) but DD made the story sound like it was intentional so worth checking out because I'd feel terrible if it was true. To be clear, she isn't an terrible kid. She is just really testing limits and has a new baby adjustment and has been out of school for a while with no structure- i think buttons are just getting pushed.

I think you are just making excuses for your kid. Maybe if you grew spine and maybe *gasp* raised your voice at her more often, she wouldnt be such a brat.

OP back. This all pretty much confirms my hunch. I plan to talk to the nanny later in privacy. I doubt she actually did anything (except raise her voice) but DD made the story sound like it was intentional so worth checking out because I'd feel terrible if it was true. To be clear, she isn't an terrible kid. She is just really testing limits and has a new baby adjustment and has been out of school for a while with no structure- i think buttons are just getting pushed.

Your kid sounds like a brat; you sound like a cheap PITA.


You sound like a below min wage type "babysitter". Get off this site, it's supposed to be for professional nannies, not the low class.

True. Nannies might get a lot more respect here if they called out the trolls that destroy their reputations.

Anonymous wrote:Your kid sounds like a brat; you sound like a cheap PITA.

You sound like a below min wage type "babysitter". Get off this site, it's supposed to be for professional nannies, not the low class.

I'm more concerned that OP doesnt seem to want to address her daughter's behavior. She admits she's driving her crazy lately and probably driving the nanny crazy too. Maybe work on your brat of a child